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Am I being overdramatic

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Grannynannywanny Wed 14-Oct-20 17:25:03

Sorry if it’s not what you want to hear, but I’m with the parents. A baby and a clingy dog shouldn’t be under the same roof. It’s a potential recipe for disaster.

Toadinthehole Wed 14-Oct-20 17:23:40

I must admit, I never went to houses with dogs. I’ve seen a few children get bitten in my time, but they’re happy to let you walk the streets with their baby! Could you not do all the visits to their home? Would that help? It’s a difficult one, but unfortunately they call all the shots and you’ll just have to take what’s on offer.

Toyoungtobeadamnedgran Wed 14-Oct-20 17:16:37

Hi everyone, I'm new here and to this Grandma malarkey

Long story short is my grandson who is now nearly 3 months isn't allowed to come to my home.

I had separation issues with my dog and she wouldn't let me out her sight last year, I have been working on her and she doing really well.

I have offered to make a sitting room upstairs away from the dog, at first it was yes ok, now that it's nearly finished there is another problem, new parents are now saying what if she breaks down the doors and comes to get you, what If the baby needs a bottle blah blah

I understand they are nervous, most new parent are, but I'm fed up walking the streets with a sleeping baby, how is he supposed to get to know me, and the weather is only going to get worse, or going to coffee shops for lunch, which isn't always affordable to do all the time.

They had a pram that someone bought them as the fancy pram won't fit in the boot, so this one was smaller, when I ask if they could come over with the smaller pram and walk over my way, they don't have the pram just now, I don't know what's happened to it but I can guess.

I don't drive and walk about 40 mins to their house to go get baby and they come with me.

I'm getting very miffed now as I've tried everything and suggested everything to help I totally understand their fears but I'm fed up jumping through hoops.

Everytime I talk about it I get far to emotional

Anyone any suggestions

Thanks