Punctuality

Granny65

@ellieanne & @geekesse: I wondered how many posts it would take for the covid police to comment

Don't be silly Granny65, my comment was tongue in cheek, as was another of my comments on the DofE thread and was recognised as such.
Maybe I should have used an exclamation make to show this. I apologise.
Similarly the post by geekesse sounded to me like someone thinking out loud, quite sensibly, about a viable alternative to the OP's predicament. We are permitted such musings.
No policing by anyone.

I would not have given an exact time, just after 2 and before 4, if she hadn't come I would have sent a text saying had to get out at 4 and for hope everything was ok with her. It's not as if it was a meal or anything just a handover of items. On the other hand if it's a friend who is habitually late for everything, I would turn up once 1/2 hour late after her, when she comments, which she would, I would say I always have to wait for you so decided as I was so busy, you wouldn't notice and we would arrive at the same time.

@ellieanne & @geekesse: I wondered how many posts it would take for the covid police to comment

I was brought up, and have lived my life, adhering to the dictum: "If you're not two minutes early - you're late!" Being habitually late shows a self-centred attitude and contempt for the other party/ies involved.

crazyH

Fennel, I agree - it’s an obsession with me and also a fear of forgetting - before I turn the lights off, I write a list of what I have to do the next day ?

I'm another one who likes to be on time, but realise that many others are different.
I think the need to be punctual is related to other things like making lists and crossing them off when done. Answering emails ASAP.
A bit obsessional maybe, myself included.

@nadateturbe yes, I agree - I certainly would have done!

Glad she was ok. But wondering could she not have let you know.

I hate being late and so does my DH and our two sons. It drives me mad when people aren’t on time, I once had a hairdresser who came to my house and she was always late, sometimes an hour or more and it drove me mad just sitting waiting for her to arrive. She also used to stop working when she talked which made things worse. When our younger son first met his wife she had a tendency to be late but is much better now after 26 years of marriage.

@ Geekesse. The hand over was completed at the back gate - she didn't stay longer than two minutes. I didn't breathe in any of her air, and she didn't breathe in any of mine

JackK, unless you and your visitor are outside the UK, or are in a bubble together, I’m wondering about the legality of a ‘socially distanced visit’ in a private garden. If she was just collecting bags of stuff, surely that could have been done in a few moments from the front door?

Ex H didn't know the meaning of punctuality. When I first met him, he was an hour late coming to have a meal with me and I thought he had met with an accident. Breezed in, asked why I had been upset. Why did I not jilt him there and then?

Kim now we tell him a meet up time half an hour earlier than it should be and he's usually still late!

Thank you everyone. She arrived 40 minutes late - problems at work. She's so lovely, I'd forgotten her lateness in an instant!
Yes - it was a socially distanced visit in my garden. She is a community nurse for the homeless and I was passing some bin bags full of unwanted clothes/kitchenware for her people.

I'm with GMBatty on this. I have a son who drives me nuts with his appalling timekeeping. I've now moved into a routine of quaffing cocktails whilst I wait for him. Lovely. Not my first choice but I can't seem to have that and, ashamedly, I would wait forever for him. Sad but true.......

CrazyH, if your middle name is punctuality why aren’t you called crazyPH which might make you acidic or base but certainly not neutral.

Unless there has been an emergency your friend should have let you know why she was late/not coming.
I think it is rude to be late and have someone waiting around for you.
I tend to be early for everything and it is me waiting around till the agreed time.

My Dad instilled punctuality in me as a sign of respect and I have tried to bring my children up the same way with varying degrees of success. However, if something unforeseen happens then a short text or an apology once you arrive should be fine.

Punctuality is my middle name. Didn’t work for me when I went for my vaccination - receptionist suggested I go back to my car and wait there until it was just 2 minutes before my appointment ? I had gone 15 mins too early...

Hope your friend is okay and also hope it’s a socially distanced garden visit.
As far as punctuality goes, to be on time is be respectful of another’s time.

If an arrangement had been made, I expect it to be kept to. Obviously if there is a genuine hold up, then that is fine. I would expect a call or text though.

Great minds timetogo2016

When i read the post puntuality i thought it was going to be about grammer.
I agree with nadateturbe/DiscoGran and Ellianne.

I'm always punctual. I couldn't be late if I tried. It's ingrained in me. My son on the other hand is always late for every thing. The only occasion where he was on time was his sister's wedding as he was walking her down the aisle. It drives me mad!