15 year age gap, in older age

Why listen to your friends? If you are happy with him then that’s all you need to think about. No one knows what the future will bring. He might outlive you! You could marry a man younger than you who then develops an illness and is incapacitated. Joan Collins is married to a man 30 years younger than her. As she remarked ‘if he dies, he dies’.

Thank you! How would I find the thread you posted?

I’m glad to hear an age gap has worked out well for you.

I don’t have any other concerns. We are each other’s first marriage, first child so we are in the same life stage in that sense. Of course he is further in his career than me, but if anything that has made it easier for me to take maternity leave/part time hours for a few years with the chance to up the ranks when my child starts school. We are in a position to buy a family home, have a nice life together. More importantly than all, we genuinely get on. Just being with him feels comfortable and like home.

I think my worries stem from a couple of my friends, who in their early thirties are living a very different lifestyle to me. Single, with guys their own age, working up their careers etc. They all say the same sort of thing, what happens when your ‘this age’ and he’s ‘this age’, I could never find a 65 year old man attractive when I’m 50, it’s all fun and games until you’re a carer/widow at 60 years old.

I guess naively it just hadn’t occurred to me. He was just him, I was just me, it just worked. I do suffer from anxiety which has heightened during the pandemic, and I take other peoples opinions too seriously. I read up online to put my mind at rest but the articles I found did the opposite.

If the only thing you are worried about is this age gap, which doesn't sound excessive, then maybe you should stop worrying so much? You could marry someone the same age and they could become disabled or ill or vice versa, it's all part of the 'in sickness and in health' bit

What are you worried about he sounds a great guy. Look forward to a great life together, non of us knows what the future holds so, it could be you that needs someone to care for them in years to come, I am sure he would be there for you, so have a wonderful wedding and future the 3 of you ??

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I started a thread about age gaps yesterday! You might like to have a look.
There is 26 years between my husband and me.
We met when I was 26. I am 49 now.
No regrets what so ever.
Every relationship is different. You can't judge how successful yours will be against others.
15 years is not unusual and should not be problematic to my mind.
However, if you are having cold feet already it may not bode well.
Are you sure that it's only the gap that you are concerned about?
I wish you all the best.