A few years ago I met a man, and we had a brief fling. It resulted in an unplanned pregnancy due to failed birth control. Against all my expectations it blossomed into a good friendship, relationship and then engagement. I am 30 and he is 45. Although I never thought I would have such a large age gap, life really did just happen and he’s a great partner and an amazing father. We are very happy despite an unconventional start.
However I am overcome with anxiety as our wedding approaches, I am an overthinker, and I worry about when I am 55 and he’s 70. When I am 65 and he’s 80. I worry the gap will catch up with us.
I guess as a mistake, I googled too much and found horror story after horror story of women feeling they had wasted their youth, grown old before their time, spent their best years caring for older men, the advice just seemed to be a resounding don’t do it. Find someone your own age.
I probably could find someone my own age, but they wouldn’t be the father of my son. I hope that perhaps, it’s only the people with negative stories who go online and post warnings. I guess I perhaps want a more positive, still realistic few of what this may be like later in life. Will I really regret marrying this man?
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