Being a good grandma/nanny

The thing that matters, is just to be you. A loving grand parent ready to give time to your grandchildren and just talk to them, most children just love having one to one time with grandparents just talking to them, about anything and everything or just giving them time when they are doing something, whether building Lego or looking for insects in the garden -or having a dollies tea party!

For parts of my childhood I lived too far from my grandparents to see them regularly, but this did not stop me adoring one of my grandmothers, she did nothing special - she could not afford to, but I loved just being with her, talking to her, walking to the shops with her,helping in the garden. Just being with her in her house.

The dolly party sounds lovely.
At that age or even a bit younger, my Gdcs loved making fairy cakes - the little ones, not the bigger cup cakes. To make it easier I’d melt the butter (instead of having to cream it) and add a little baking powder. They could then just mix everything up. They liked putting the cake cases in the bun tins and spooning the mix in - it could get a wee bit messy but never mind.
We would usually make just a small quantity, just 2 oz of flour, sugar and butter, one egg.
A small amount of simple glacé icing - just icing sugar and hot water - with some hundreds and thousands on top, would go down very well, too.

It sounds as though you are running yourself down a bit here. The fact you are doing the dolly's tea party shows you care and are making the effort to enter her world and be part of it. Playing any games with them is always welcome, especially if you are silly and can make them laugh. You also seem to be doing okay with the grandson through video calls. I'm sure you are doing just fine as a grandma. I agree the love you show will be felt by your grandchildren.

Well I think you sound like a loving caring nanny. Being kind and full of hugs is the best with little grandchildren. Crayons paints and papers play dough always handy to have in. Have a lovely time let us know how it goes.

Thank you so much NotSpaghetti that’s very kind and you are right they do know they are loved.
I will ask for help setting it all up she will love that she loves nanny's dolls she has names for them. ( I make them ) x

The kind of nanny they will remember is the one that loves them. Children know if they are loved.
Enjoy the tea party. And ask your little granddaughter to help you set it up (and make things to eat if you have time).
Have a lovely day.

Thank you so much Polarbear2 and rite for your replies x
Very comforting. Thank you so much for taking the time to reply
polarbear2 you are right as children we Remember the little things that are important x
Rite I will definitely make the raspberry lemonade and the little games thank you.
Am stuck with my eyes like they are I’m afraid but it’s fine I’m ok just can’t drive lol xx

Hi Nannymagic17. I usually read the posts and rarely comment but I wanted to say that I am sure you are a lovely Nanny and your grandchildren love you dearly, If you plan to do a dolly party tomorrow some pink (raspberry) lemonade would be nice with some little cakes. My little granddaughter likes the unicorn cakes. They may be sugary but once in a while doesn't hurt! And play some little games. Snap with childrens packs of cards, etc. Hope your eyes get better soon. Have a lovely afternoon!

Well first, I think the tea party sounds lovely. I’ve never done that so well done you ?. It’s hard and you’ve had a tough time but I think you need to relax a bit. Don’t overthink it maybe? If you show them love they’ll remember that. I have two GDs and like you, I want to be ‘remembered’. I do get what you mean. But I suspect they will remember little stuff more. My kids remember things I’d never dreamt were important. Just caring as you clearly do is important. Don’t be too fussy about it. Try to relax and enjoy the time you have with them. Good luck ❤️