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Do you wonder how much time you have left?

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Greyduster Fri 26-Mar-21 20:07:30

It does occupy my thoughts these days. My family are not noted for making old bones and at 74 I have stayed the course longer than my parents or any of my siblings did. There’s now a sense of borrowed time about it all.

Kate1949 Fri 26-Mar-21 19:50:58

All the time! I drive myself mad with it. I'm 71. My mother died at 58, my father 69. So I've done better than them so far.

FlexibleFriend Fri 26-Mar-21 19:48:52

Yes of course I do and it's a double edged sword. On the one hand I'm still relatively young at 66 but I'm in so much pain every day and it's getting worse. I've already had 3 strokes thanks to my auto immune condition and I think I may have acquired a couple more (AI conditions) during lockdown. I also had a close shave with a massive internal bleed thanks to the meds that are meant to keep me alive. Also I've already lived far longer than both my mum and dad and neither of them had what I do. So yeah I'd like another twenty or so years but not sure I can cope with the pain or the disability that comes with it. Once lockdown is over I'll undergo yet more tests and see what's going on with my body, luckily my brain still seems to be functioning well.

Marydoll Fri 26-Mar-21 19:38:37

CrazyH, stoic and resilient, (admittedly grumpy tonight), but very realistic! wink It's who and what I am! grin

crazyH Fri 26-Mar-21 19:32:22

Marydoll, that sounds ominous .....be positive.

Yes, I often wonder how much longer do I have to put up with this, or that, and then I think, this too shall pass and I’m sure I’ll live till hundred ?

Marydoll Fri 26-Mar-21 19:31:48

GrannyGravy, thanks. I'm not looking for sympathy, I'm just blooming raging, as there is so much I want to do! Blooming Covid has scuppered that!
You never know, miracles can happen!!! Carpe Diem!

Blossoming Fri 26-Mar-21 19:27:54

My neurosurgeon told me my life expectancy because I asked. It helped me make a decision about treatment. He may be wrong of course, but I’m fine with it. It’s helped us plan and I’m certainly not worrying about it.

GrannyGravy13 Fri 26-Mar-21 19:25:01

Marydoll

I have a fair idea!

???? flowers for you dear virtual friend

Marydoll Fri 26-Mar-21 19:23:46

I have a fair idea!

Witzend Fri 26-Mar-21 19:21:55

Yes, especially since we were at a funeral this afternoon!
The chap was quite a bit older than me, though. But once you’re past your three score and ten, it can certainly occur to you now and then.

M0nica Fri 26-Mar-21 19:19:06

I would think it is something that passes through most people's mind at various times in their lives. However I come from long-lived families on both sides, so have decided not to give it serious consideration until I hit 90.

Foxglove77 Fri 26-Mar-21 19:03:53

Harris27 yes definitely we should make the most of every day. I like this saying, yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift, that is why it is called the present.

varian Fri 26-Mar-21 18:59:27

None of us know. So make the most of today and tomorrow.

Kim19 Fri 26-Mar-21 18:59:22

Yes, it sometimes does in the most casual of ways. On each occasion I pull myself up with something I really 'should' do to make life easier for my children. I actually sometimes make a constructive move in that line. All good.

Harris27 Fri 26-Mar-21 18:58:51

Don’t think about it too much as. It might depress me. However every time I’m shattered and feeling my job is taking it out of me I do think how much time I’ll have left. Make the most of every day all of you ladies out there.x

EkwaNimitee Fri 26-Mar-21 18:57:47

I often do, being in my mid seventies. Thus I have tried to pack in as much travelling , my passion, as I could. Until COVID. I came off a holiday straight into a lockdown . So I feel I am wasting precious months of my life now not being allowed even to travel around my own country and not feeling safe to do so anyway.

Foxglove77 Fri 26-Mar-21 18:50:10

Without being morbid and in my late 50s I have been wondering how much time I may have left. 20 more Christmases? I know nothing is a given and I am grateful for the life I've had so far, but am just interested to know if this has crossed your mind and what your thoughts are?