Friends when it suits them

there do seem to be a lot of takers about, I just don't know how they can be so brazen about it! I would feel embarrassed

She’s proved she’s not a nice person to know if 5 others have fallen out with her.

You don’t need her, so just be unavailable.

She’s not a friend and I wouldn’t call her that.
I’m very lucky I know but I have real friends.
You can do without her. Treasure the real friends you have x

Some people see friends as a support group, some as a resources group. Not all that different, when you come down to it!
Anyway, don't let it get to you. Take tea with whom you like. Be 'too busy' for those you don't like. Don't worry about your daughter. She can cope.

I was used many years ago. We were just married. A woman I hardly knew befriended me because her husband was working abroad. She came round every night to wait for him to call her on our phone. She didn't have a phone in her house. This went on for a year. I didn't mind but when she decided to join her husband she didn't tell me or say goodbye. I felt very hurt and used. Your "friend" is of the same ilk. Just stop having anything to do with her. She'll get the message.

Ditch her don’t answer the phone when you see her number. And tell your daughter to do the same she’s a user!

I had a 'good friend' years ago who dropped us when we wouldn't join their pyramid selling scheme. This was such an upsetting period as I really thought we were close over a number of years. I realise looking back that she used me in a number of other ways too, but I was too naive to realise at the time.

Both you and your daughter should just block her number. She's using you and your daughter and enough is enough. False friend.

I agree about invoicing her...next time your daughter speaks to her, even for 5 minutes, she should send her an invoice for her time. I bet you never hear from this woman again!

So sorry that many of you have encountered similar users. Thank you all for your comments.

I have a neighbour who will only speak when she feels she has to. She has stated that she has decided to become a recluse and wants to move. Maybe if she went I would get back the things that she has "borrowed". I have no time for people like that, life is for living, not pussyfooting around people.

I have some people who call me for similar reasons. So I say "What do you want?" They try to laugh it off - so I ask what they need, and direct them to people who will charge them, because, you know I am busy. Yes, I do a lot of voluntary and / or free work... but only for whom I want to.

ExD

Silly question - how do you block a number?
Second silly question 2 - if she tries to call what will she hear on the phone? Will she know she's been blocked?

Go into your call log on your mobile , press on the number you want to block then a list will come up asking you what you want to do , it will say ‘ block number ‘ , just press that and it will be blocked. You can always unblock after if you need to .
When that person phones up then it will not go through and won’t give ringing sound , then one would , or should , assume they have been blocked . Hope this helps .

I love “Cheeky Pluckers” (and Pluckery) and shall adopt it at once! They exist everywhere, sadly, but we are often too polite or just too nice to give them the direct treatment they deserve. Old age has definitely made me stronger in that respect!

One thing for certain here she is no friend.

I agree with Aggie , why bother in being polite. She is no friend she is a user and , sorry , but I’d be blunt and tell her that to her face ...please or offend , she is not worth bothering with .
I had met what I thought was a nice friend a year ago , only to recently find that she has now made a new friend , which I’m fine with that , but, as I can’t walk very far because of disabilities and she can walk for miles , this new friend can walk for miles same as her , so when we had arranged to meet up last week as we usually do ( outside , covid rules apply ) , she introduced me to the ‘ new ‘ friend , then 20 mins later left me to go off walking with her new friend with hardly a backward glance . So much for her being a ‘ friend ‘ .

What a awful woman, I’d tell her straight, I won’t be meeting her again as she’s a user, I’ve never heard anything like it,

You are being too submissive. Just delete everything you have about her and forget her. She is obviously one of life's scroungers.

Silly question - how do you block a number?
Second silly question 2 - if she tries to call what will she hear on the phone? Will she know she's been blocked?

No need to be gentle with people like this. A simple, "No, I can't meet/talk with you, " is enough.

This happened to me. We had a couple come into our lives. They invited us for drinks and were perfectly lovely. We invited them for dinner, we had a lovely time. Another drink in their garden under Covid restrictions and I thought ‘we really have found ourselves good friends.’ Then nothing. Suddenly, it dawned on me that a planning issue they were working against had been resolved and they no longer needed the support of my husband or me. We had some ‘inside information’ that they needed but once they had it our time was done. You live and learn.

Yep block her email and texts and you can also block her on your phone. I have had a couple of women like this and you have to be firm.

We know someone like that. She's a neighbor. My husband has health problems, and she used to come round to talk to him, and offer to help; then she'd ask to borrow money. Every! single! time!.

Block her number - she is a user
- have you ever asked her for something?

Sorry to hear this. I was once given a great tip. Anything she suggests just say you’ll have to check your diary then dont bother and dont get back to her. I used to have a ‘friend’ like this. She would basically make arrangements to come over with her son and then make excuses to leave. I was just a free babysitter and sadly not a friend.