Not invited to wedding

Yes the ex is invited. There is no animosity between them, they get on very well as do we all. I would never make a fuss about it and have insisted he go to the wedding and the reception. He wanted to just attend the service he said he wanted to be able to share the day with me. I'm honestly just sad we won't spend this wonderful day together

grannypiper

That is awful. I wouldn't make a fuss but the GD would never be welcome in my home again.

I wouldn't think that would be acceptable to the OPs partner

Isn't it restricted to 15 attendees for a wedding?

Something similar happened to me a year ago. I was indeed disappointed by no one knew that. Covid certainly has a lot to answer for.

The bride and groom are counted in the guest numbers so understandable they have to the 30 so obviously have to be missed out. Dont take offence, these are difficult times.

With only 30 guests maximum I can completely see it from your husband’s grand daughter’s perspective. With the couple, two sets of parents, brothers and sisters and their partners, and bridesmaids, best man etc., as well as grandparents, places are very limited indeed. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you, just that she’s only known you for five years and she has to make hard choices. If the COVID restrictions are lifted before the wedding things may change.

That is awful. I wouldn't make a fuss but the GD would never be welcome in my home again.

I can understand your hurt feelings but as you say numbers are limited so choices have to be made. Are the other grandfather and grandmother her biological grandparents? She will have known them a lot longer, it’s natural to feel more attached. I think you just have to accept it, and look forward to future family gatherings when life is easier again.

Could your partner perhaps ask his GD why you weren’t invited? Is his ex going, is there a problem between them?

Long post sorry