I couldn't find any main forums for being a widow, maybe I missed it
I just wanted to be able to go onto a forum and see how other people have coped
I just read a piece from a widow that said break every rule the experts give you.. Don't make any decisions til 12 months have passed etc
How I have coped is by not allowing myself to think about it, the mind is very powerful and we are very much in control of that and that has worked for me. Will there be a day when all hell breaks loose and I cry for a week.. I don't know.
The worse thing for me is being alone.. Yes I do have children, but their grown and have children to take care of and mortgages to pay and as much as they love you,, sometimes there just isn't anytime after working all day long to go and visit your Mum.
I have not seen anyone in my family for two weeks now, I can happily make one week but when it turns into two I begin to crumble and think why am I here..
I hit rock bottom this weekend and realised that I need to make more effort to see my family. That is quite hard for me because when my husband was alive it was just me and him and we were happy to let our children get on with their lives.
But now it seems that I need my family because not seeing them for 2 and 3 weeks at a time makes me feel isolated and Alone in the world
I have never lived in a house on my own.
So basically the reason I started this thread is for us all to have a space to come and talk about how we are coping with being widowed,, what is working for us,, what has helped and to be a strength for each other so that we dont feel alone.
So please feel free to add your thoughts and comments here and my 🧡 goes out to each and every widow
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