With all the discussions about noisy neighbours,

I think if you live in rented accommodation you have to learn tolerance to neighbours. Most people don't live silent !Ives and noise is part of everyday life. I am not being flippant I lived for 17 years in a rented flat surrounded by the neighbours from hell.

Our house is situated in the middle of a row of three detached houses. The young couple to the one side started a child minding business three years ago after her maternity leave for her first child came to an end. They converted their garage into a play room and have a play house, slide etc in the back garden. We did wonder at first what impact it would have on us but she is only allowed to have two children at the most and most days she only has one plus her own two children. DH said the other day that he loves to hear the children playing when they are in the garden and I agree with him. They are a lovely family and we hope they stay for years. The houses in this development are about 20 years old and most people seem to be around our age or in their fifties so there aren’t many children, just visiting grandchildren. We did consider a new build when we moved here 8 years ago but I’m glad we didn’t as there do seem to be more problems with large new build developments, daughter-in-law works for an estate agent and warned us against a new build on a large development.

I agree Purplepixie I can’t understand paving over back gardens as I love trees shrubs flowers and wild life. I have my veg patch which I adore working on it’s raised beds.

Our neighbours are ok different ages some have hot tubs I think this craze is horrid personally. I don’t like footballs bashing against a fence though. My garden is lovely to potter in with little sitting areas for lunch a drink and bird watching. I like hearing people enjoying themselves nice weather helps too.

It was nice to hear the children in the school field when they finally returned. It reminded me of my two when they were little attending the same school.

Lollin, my thoughts exactly. A garden should not be an "outside room" - that is a recipe for more anger, frustration and mental ill health. I am often thankful for our more miserable weather that keeps people inside and my garden, the tranquil sanctuary that it should be. Consideration for other people seems to be the last thing on many people's minds in these noisy times.
Is anyone here worried about the effect drone deliveries will have on the quiet enjoyment of our homes?

After over 2 years of tolerating my neighbour's diy just about every week and weekend, last week I finally had had enough when the drilling they were doing (I live in a semi) sounded as if they were trying to come right through the wall! My pictures were vibrating on the walls and I could even feel vibration along the floor.
I knocked on their door and asked them if they were trying to enlarge their house to move into mine and pointed out that the noise from their almost constant drilling and hammering went above and beyond the fact that I had said that they were ok to make a bit of noise when they first moved in!
I have just had the most peaceful weekend since they moved in but just have to wonder how long it will last!

We're lucky in having a neighbourhood watch area so any undesirables are quickly sorted.

You are lucky these days if you have good neighbours. Ours are horrible! The police are never away and I don't know how he has not been arrested by now. Taking photos of one of our single mum neighbours etc. During the first lock down they had all of their relatives round in their garden. AND four other houses on our little estate are related to them. They are noisy and disrespectful but I dont see why we should move because of them.

Also I hate to see people paving over their gardens. What about the wild life, insects and birds etc. Ours is a real wild life haven with two tree. Oh and the horrible neighbours wants us to cut the trees down and snips away any stray branches that get into his side. Grrrrrr. I love trees.

I wouldn't want a hot-tub either, least of all get in one--Yuk !!

garden bar

at metal bar, I thought the same to begin with. Literal thinkers anonymous

I've just realised what you mean by 'bar' like in a pub. I thought why would anyone want that in their garden. Obviously not a metal bar then.

MerylStreep: You seem to be implying something and you are coming across as if I sneered at his van. Rather patronising and childish so as I have a life I will not bother to post comments.
I have better things to do. By the way I am not even in that constituency and what is wrong with wanting to keep your home decent anyway so your comment says a lot about you.

Stop complaining here and talk to the people making the noise. That is the only way to stop it. Either that or wear ear plugs..

Dash it, that was supposed to go as a comment to grandmadinosaur!

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I'm sorry but if you chose to live in a house with near neighbours then you have to accept a bit of noise.
I have no problem with the neighbours children- it is lovely to hear them playing. My problem is the woman next door who is in her 80's & very deaf. She has friends round almost every fine day & they sit on her patio- which is next to ours but with a big thick hedge in between- & they shout at each other all afternoon! I know they cannot help it but it is very annoying. If I am by myself I take my sunbed down the garden a way= I can still hear them but it is not so bad. I did try earplugs but then I could not hear my own doorbell!
It is just the way it is & I have to accept it but when I have friends or family here I do try & keep the level of noise down. I don't know why I bother as she is so deaf anyway.
What does amuse me is when she is complaining about things I do not aware that I can hear every word (usually objects to the way I hang clothes on the line- with pegs? -or plants I have in my garden that she does not like- I have no idea why she thinks it is anything to do with her!)

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plus his van I’d contact Emily Thornberry. She’ll be able to advise you on the van as she has history on sneering at vans.

I don't understand the craze for hot tubs. I'm not over-picky, hygiene-wise generally, but aren't those tubs just a pool of fermenting bugs? I'm probably wrong but I wouldn't want to get in one!

I honestly think it depends on your house and garden size and proximity the neighbours. Sorry to state the bleeding obvious

Where my DD lives is fairly new. There is a parking space for each house just outside the front door. Also a few feet of space to put plants near the door. Each home has a side entrance to get to back garden.

DD does not drive and twice I have gone to her house recently and the neighbours friend has parked on my daughters space, (no asking)she has just done it. I did not want to confront anyone so parked elsewhere. If it is not the cars then it is the neighbours childrens huge metal framed
football net that blocks my DDs drive.
My DD is too polite and reserved and says nothing but I am almost spitting feathers but say nothing as it' s not my home.
The partner of the neighbour has one of those jet wash contraptions that is stuck out the front as well. Plus his van.

The partner has just built a shed type thing at the back and labelled it Beer Garden as yet there has not been much use of it but there have been friends in and out so I suppose they will be enjoying themselves outside soon.

Well that's moan over for me but I think that DDs neighbours have got a cheek but without her saying anything it is not down to me.

if you have noise issues then contact you council who have the powers to deal with them, including that arising from air b and b's

Our neighbours on both sides have outside entertainment in the garden. They don't disturb us at all and we are happy for them to be having the fun we'd like to have!

Not everyone with a bar in their garden is a loud mouthed yob.
The garden next door to us was completely paved over because both people were wheelchair users and had no interest in gardening whatsoever.
The new resident filled it with beautiful large pots and beautiful garden furniture.

My OH built her bar in the garden. She entertains a lot of people from her church where she is one of the elders. No loud voices, no loud music. Just the gentle low hum of people enjoying the open air with good friends, of which we are one of.

I’m with you on this one Lollin. We live in between 1 neighbour who has built a “bar” in his garden although it’s more like a little shack. Doesn’t stop him playing the pub landlord role ? currently it seems to be friends round on Saturday family on Sunday. The other neighbour looks like there is something similar being constructed in his back garden.
DH and I are currently doing improvements inside the house with a view to selling ?

Our neighbours across the road have a hot tub in their back garden. They air B&B when they can - apparently they have another house they go to... The noise from drinking and this blooming tub at night and screams from youngsters in the day are not fun.

Someone I work with has built a bar in his back garden, complete with seating and a hot tub, he’s in a mid terrace, with the smallest garden, must be hell for the neighbors.