Baby things

Yes!

Yep!!!

Yes, I would but not anything I had bought for spares at my house.

Yes, I would give her them,

Well if you've no need for them, yes. I'm assuming it's for , or belongs to your grandchild ?

To hang on to things you have no use for would be known and a 'dog in a manger' attitude!

Yes I certainly would,there is no need to cause any bad feeling between you and your DIL

yes 100%.

I agree give them to her.

Yes unless there are other babies in the family you might need them for, in which case have a chat with your son and ask if you can keep a few things at your place for baby visits. Nothing should be kept without their agreement though.

Yes, what use do you have for them?

If you bought them and gifted them to your son and DIL then they belong to them. You can't take back a gift once given.

It is up to your son and DIL to decide who keeps what after the divorce. Not something you should be involved with in any way.

Yes. Quite definitely.

wildswan ?
Once you have given something it belongs to the recipient, not you.

I'd love my DC to come and clear my loft!

Yes - they belong to the baby, so please give them back to your soon-to-be ex d.i.l. Divorce is always sad. I hope you manage to maintain a reasonably good relationship with her , for the sake of the baby. Good luck to all...

Yes, why wouldn’t you.

Yes. Why would you hang on to stuff you can't use? Give them to her or you will seem really petty and unpleasant and I'm sure you want to have a good relationship with her.

Of course!
What are your concerns with the request!

Request?

Yes !! Give them to her . If you don't it may well backfire on you, don't give her or your son for that matter any reason to think badly of you. Good luck !

Thank you all for your comments, but she has asked me and not my son who she is not speaking too, he feels she needs to ask him as he paid for some of this things.I seem to be caught in the middle.

he is being ridiculous.
this does not bode well for the future, where so many things will have to be discussed and agreed, hopefully in a rational, adult, let's-both-do-what's-best-for-baby way.

presumably the baby will be residing with his/her mother, in which case of course she ought to have all the items that might be used by/for baby.

what does he want to do, cut all the blankets down the middle.