A parent without parents seeking advice please

It sounds like you've already given this a lot of thought. There are plenty of mums out there who, even though they have family, sometimes have no support from them.

You are very lucky that you have the choice, and can afford to be a stay at home mum, and having another child won't be a struggle for you financially. It also sounds like you have a great, supportive husband, and a happy family. If you both would like another child, I'd say go for it.

Hi and welcome here Please feel free to come to us for advice, there will always be grans here that have good life experience and will hopefully be able to help

Personally I raised my 2 children without any support, I did have a Mum and Mother in law but neither were maternal.

When I had my first son I wake up one morning and all I could see was nappies baby clothes and felt I could do with some help, I called my Mum and asked for help, I am busy she said... I thought that was mean to refuse to help a new Mum but can I tell you it was the best thing she could have done because when she would not come to help me it made me think.. Fine I'll do it alone and don't need anyone. And that's exactly what I did, never asked anyone's advise never asked for help ever again and my husband worked long hours and was old school in that he felt it was a wom4s job to take care of the children so not too much help there and I could not be prouder of myself.

As far as should you have more children.. Well it is such a personal thing.. What would it actually be like having another child in the family, think about what your day would look like, would you manage ok, does your husband want another child just as mu h as you because that is so very important that you are both on the same page.

I personally should have stu k with just one child because having a second child was too much for us and our marriage suffered greatly and never went back to what it was before having my second child

But my son has three children and he couldnt be happier, he feels extremely Blessed, it's hard work but like in your family, my son works from home and helps loads and so they are a team and it works for them

I hope I have given you relevant things to think about and lastly you could also, if you haven't already ask the same question to mums net.

I wish you the very best whatever you decide, just take your time and only go for it once you and your husband together, have thought it through

My advice would be that the only time to have another child is when you feel you can't not!

I had two boys and a girl when DH's job was moved to the Midlands and I was stuck at home with three under 7s. Parents too far away to help. It was extremely hard going, but of course I would never be without them. Once we moved up to join DH we realised that three children wasn't working, always two making the other one's life difficult, not the same ones all the time, but always two onto one. We decided to have a fourth, and that he did act as a peacemaker once he had arrived.

It seems you are thinking very carefully about this, which is good.

If you - and of course your husband - feel you would like another child and, from what you say, there are no pressures on you to go back to work at the moment and presumably you have factored in the extra amount of work involved, then I would say go ahead.

I hope all goes well for you and your family, whatever you decide.

Yup, three. The third one born on the first ones 4th birthday, so more or less two years apart.

One set of parents dead, the other 400 miles away and not that interested.

Worked just fine. Good company for each other and great friends now their adults.

Go for it?

In my case, I only planned for two. My first was a girl and three years later, a boy. A wise old relative declared….”you have one of each, so you either stick to 2 or go for 4…..never have 3”. Five years later, we had an accident - our 3rd, a boy, the best accident ever ? Unfortunately, our marriage failed when he was 15, and we divorced.
In my case, my third child, enriched my life and actually kept my husband and myself together. Though they say you should not stay together for the sake of the children, we did, and do not regret that decision. All 3 children have very successful lives and careers.
N.B. There’s a slight middle child syndrome going on (I think), but not to a disruptive degree. The older two have personality clashes…..they are both very opinionated and family gatherings can get heated. And that’s where, my third comes in and diffuses the situation. He is such a joy.
Good luck with whatever you decide !!!