Not giving baby a blanket or quilt to sleep under

My daughter's. 3 children have all had grobags. The eldest is now 17. The youngest 11. Grobags have been around for nearly 20 years now.

*Maggiemaybe

Somebody’d better tell the NHS they’ve got it all wrong

Do not use pillows and duvets – they're not safe for babies less than a year old because of the risk of suffocation. Duvets can also make your baby too hot. Sheets and layers of blankets tucked in firmly below your baby's shoulder level or a baby sleeping bag are safe for your baby to sleep in*

I don’t think anyone is saying the NHS has got it wrong, the lullaby trust says you can use tucked in blankets below babies shoulders as well. Just that sleeping bags are way more convenient and feel a lot safer, you know the baby can’t wriggle down into those.

And I also picked up on the lack of sleeping bag mentioned in the OP, I wondered if maybe they’re using the sleepsuits/pyjamas that are thicker and have their own tog rating instead. I didn’t like those because the one we had seemed to take forever to dry.

Child rearing practices change from one generation to the next Thomas. Your GC's sleep pattern may have simply be becase s/he isn't a good sleeper.

"please do hold your tongue, otherwise you risk being one of the sad grandparents on this forum bewailing their complete estrangement from their children and grandchildren" an un necessary and very unpleasant comment grandtante.

Grobags are great, gives the baby room to move. At 20 months though child may be too big or mobile for one. No covers is modern but I'd be looking for something to cover feet, not just jogger trousers.

Dear Thomas, do you remember how much you hated your parents' and parents'-in-law comments on and queries about the way you were bring up your children?

I too find many of the new parenting theories ridiculous, but when I feel like commenting, I fortunately hear my mother's voice in my head and hold my tongue.

If making sure that babies are not overwarm at night can prevent cot death it is a good thing.

Whether it does or not, please do hold your tongue, otherwise you risk being one of the sad grandparents on this forum bewailing their complete estrangement from their children and grandchildren.

'ten years ago' not 'the years ago'!!

Each generation has different products to choose from...which can come and go.... In the 70's, in the Orkney's our two wee ones had full body sleepy suits complete with slippered soles which they wore over baby-gros and under blankets....- no heating!! The years ago I was given a resounding telling off by a midwife for swaddling my 4 day old first grandchild - who was nearly 10 pounds at birth! - and instructed to place her on her back with no blankets where she flailed about in obvious distress...because of the unaccustomed space..? Now I see swaddling is back in fashion with social media flooded with professional photos of babies swaddled in specially designed stretchy swaddlers!! www.shein.co.uk/Newborn-Unisex-Photography-Solid-Wrap-Blanket-p-2224696-cat-2399.html?url_from=ukadplasknewborn0321022014956&gclid=CjwKCAjw3_KIBhA2EiwAaAAlinZf9FMp-8fS4n21j2x_yty-_4fnJ0s9JES1HWbovEkRVKechrKc5RoCtWYQAvD_BwE

It’s not the way things are
Midwives still encourage swaddling to help newborn babies settle and feel secure and babies are allowed blankets….baby should be out half way down the cot with blanket tucked in under the arms as they grow older and start to wriggle of course it’s better to put appropriate clothing on as they will wriggle and kick the blankets off anyway

Ro60

Oddly called 'Grobags' J32 makes me laugh every time.

Your post made me laugh, when I had my family Babygro all in ones that had just been invented my mother insisted on calling them their baby growers. My GC slept in the ones that as been described as a lightly quilted bottom bag for feet with a fitted zip-up top with arms.
I think it comes from the fear of cot death.

My DGS is now 7. When he was eventually given a duvet he would be found lying on top of it. He was usually in one of the tog rated sleeping bags as a baby

Luckygirl

My girls had what we called "Zoot Suits" in bed, not covers. So not such a recent thing.

Exactly! My ds is 23 and I remember looking at the "new" grobags and thinking that I was sure I had seen babies in them years before that!! Just like a lot of baby related things are just reinventions!

I see the "silent treatment" as self defence. She could tell you (and her family) to expletive deleted off and mind your own businesses but she doesn't, she just declines to engage.

I had 3 children. The first slept on his stomach as that was the advice. The second slept on his side as that was the advice 5 years after. The 3rd was 9 years later and slept on his back.
They all had sheets and blankets for the first year. No cot bumpers padding around the cot as that was deemed dangerous for all of them. DGC all slept in gro bags with a blanket. The advice changes all the time so your DIL is probably just following what is recommended.

There was concern about babies overheating when mine were tiny - they are now 29 and 24! At the time, there was huge concern around cot death and the guidance was to ensure they didn't get too warm. In colder weather, they used to sleep in fleecy all in ones which went on over their baby gros. Also, loose bedding could get pulled over their faces as they get slightly older. What I'm saying, is this is not a new idea but things do change with every generation. Let your daughter in law get on with things her way, if you want to have a decent relationship with her.

Yes, it’s the way things are now.

Somebody’d better tell the NHS they’ve got it all wrong

Do not use pillows and duvets – they're not safe for babies less than a year old because of the risk of suffocation. Duvets can also make your baby too hot. Sheets and layers of blankets tucked in firmly below your baby's shoulder level or a baby sleeping bag are safe for your baby to sleep in.

You're not supposed to use blankets on babies now especially quilts as it can increase cotdeath.

Grobags have been around for atleast 12 years, if not longer.

Shes doing it the correct way.

Thomas67, I think we have to let them get on with things their way, not easy though is it.?

freedomfromthepast

We don't know that the baby in question doesn't have one?

The OP’s concerned because the child sleeps in jogging type pyjamas. No blanket no quilt. She often wakes and is slow to settle down.

No mention there of a grobag.

MayBee70

I’ve just got this surreal image of an exhausted sleep deprived young mother saying to her little baby that’s pulling it’s socks off ‘you wait: when you grow up you’ll be glad to have thick woolly socks keeping your footsies warm’.

That is exactly what I looked like too!

I’ve just got this surreal image of an exhausted sleep deprived young mother saying to her little baby that’s pulling it’s socks off ‘you wait: when you grow up you’ll be glad to have thick woolly socks keeping your footsies warm’.

Maggiemaybe

I must be the odd one out then. It seems we’re all agreed that grobags and sleepsuits are the best thing since sliced bread. With this in mind, I think it’s odd that the OP’s grandchild doesn’t have one, unless the room is consistently warm. I hope she at least has a pair of socks on.

We don't know that the baby in question doesn't have one?

My oldest HATED socks. She was born in the fall and I worried about her feet getting cold. So I put socks on her. Took me a bout a week to figure out that she hated them and would cry until I took them off. (I was sleep deprived and a new mom). I laugh now because she is the one who sleeps in those heavy winter socks that have the grip on the bottoms.

I think it is best for everyone to allow parents to do their job as they know their child best. Parents get to much judgement as it is.

Me thinks another DiL bashing? Their baby their rules, glad to hear you son is supporting her, which is what it should be.

Aah!

It’s reminded me of putting my son in a sleep suit: a red fleecy thing that I got from Mothercare. I took his blankets away from him but he couldn’t sleep so I put a blanket into his cot. He immediately grabbed a corner of it and went to sleep. I hadn’t realised he had a special blankie till then.