Not giving baby a blanket or quilt to sleep under

It's very common. My grandson didn't have covers when he was smaller. He's two and a half now. It hasn't done him any harm. You obviously dont like your Dil and her methods but it's her baby, not yours. I would recommend saying nothing. Times change.

I think that current best advice is no bedding in cribs.

Try to trust that your DIL is doing the best for her child

I’ve never heard of this idea my 3 year old grandson has always had his blanky that is a soft blue one he takes around with him and so has my other six grandkids, but like others have said best to say nothing

Wouldn’t be my way ( even as an adult) but it’s not your baby to comment on and if she’s done it 20 months must be ok and she’s fine …up to daughter in law and son I m glad your son doesn’t disagree with your daughter in law why would he ? would you like him to ?

Our GCs didn’t have bedding, but slept in a sort of half top, half quilted bag. They have a product name that I can’t remember, but they did have a TOG rating. Maybe the baby is getting chilly, you could buy a higher rated one as a lovely present from Granny. I think John Lewis sell them.

I think the idea of a cot being made up with sheets and blankets is outdated now.
It makes more sense to keep the baby covered and warm in their clothing, I suppose.
I'm not up to speed with what is recommended with regard to preventing cot death, but it may well have something to do with the guidance given?

Oddly called 'Grobags' J32 makes me laugh every time.

Current advice is , as Summerlove says, that there should be no bedding in cots. Your son and daughter in law are doing the best for their child.

Yes, J32 & Ro60, "Grobags", that's the name I was trying to remember.!!
I think all 5 of our DGC had those, in varying sizes, from birth to around 2 years old.
Until then I hadn't seen or heard of them, (our eldest is now 18y, & the youngest is 4y, so I had forgotten them again.!!)

My grandchildren have all slept in Grobags - you can get sleeved versions for the winter and they come in several different TOG ratings. Think of it as a miniature sleeping bag, they’re very toasty.

Thank you for the name reminder! Rather funny isn’t it? As long as they don’t turn red like tomatoes!

My GC slept in grow bags. Like a sleeping bag with a dungaree type top. Different tog ratings.

Another one for the ‘GroBags’ my gc sleeps in one too. A look on the lullaby trust (a charity to prevent sids) your dil is doing everything by the book based on the latest guidance.

Also different babies have different sleeping routines, my son’s sleep patterns were wildly different to each at each developmental phase. It probably has little to do with what baby is sleeping in/beneath.

I think this came about because one of the theories behind what causes cot death is the fact that babies can easily overheat so to avoid this, the use of Grobags rather than blankets has become popular.
Each generation has different ways of doing things - for instance - when was the last time that you saw a baby left out in the pram for a nap to "get some fresh air" even in the middle of winter?
I'd make a gift of a new Grobag for your GC. Your DiL needs support, not criticism!

My daughter is 53. She slept in the Dutch version of the Gro Bag as she was born in Holland. So it's not an entirely new thing. Her 16 year old slept in both summer and winter weight Gro Bags.

Its a miracle the human race has flourished and grown when every generation has to re-invent "best ways".

My D had one blanket and sheet and warm clothing for the winter

Thomas67 This is entirely normal - most babies sleep like that now. So ... no reason to grumble about your DIL, whom you clearly dislike!* It is all my DIL's idea* - well done that DIL - good idea!

Your DIL "gets the hump" because she senses your dislike. Leave them be to bring up their child as they choose.

All my children when babies slept in grobags, I think a cot with blankets etc is somewhat outdated now, things change! When you say this is all my DIL idea, it made me smile, I had a ex Mil having lots of opinions regarding everything about how we brought our baby up, I’m so glad your son supports his wife and he never disagrees with his wife, maybe that’s because he’s happy, would you want him too? You DIL gets the hump because she wants to do things her way obviously , her child her rules!

we were advised to use those baby sleeping bags too, they aren't particularly new

My babies slept in something like a growbag - a sort of dressing gown/sleeping bag in the 1960s - what goes around, comes around!

pinkquartz you could say the same about medical care too. However, IMO research and new practices to lower the risk of SIDS and the agonising heartache of lost young lives, is much preferable. I’m glad my dil and son use the latest best practice.

That sounded rather fierce, my apologies, was conversational in my head, and looked rather sanctimonious in text, apologies pinkquartz

You could have asked dil at the start not to criticise but to take an interest. She would probably have been happy to explain, after all she didn’t think it up all by herself and it must be modern practice. We did things differently from our mums so it’s common practice.