Not giving baby a blanket or quilt to sleep under

'ten years ago' not 'the years ago'!!

Dear Thomas, do you remember how much you hated your parents' and parents'-in-law comments on and queries about the way you were bring up your children?

I too find many of the new parenting theories ridiculous, but when I feel like commenting, I fortunately hear my mother's voice in my head and hold my tongue.

If making sure that babies are not overwarm at night can prevent cot death it is a good thing.

Whether it does or not, please do hold your tongue, otherwise you risk being one of the sad grandparents on this forum bewailing their complete estrangement from their children and grandchildren.

Grobags are great, gives the baby room to move. At 20 months though child may be too big or mobile for one. No covers is modern but I'd be looking for something to cover feet, not just jogger trousers.

Child rearing practices change from one generation to the next Thomas. Your GC's sleep pattern may have simply be becase s/he isn't a good sleeper.

"please do hold your tongue, otherwise you risk being one of the sad grandparents on this forum bewailing their complete estrangement from their children and grandchildren" an un necessary and very unpleasant comment grandtante.

*Maggiemaybe

Somebody’d better tell the NHS they’ve got it all wrong

Do not use pillows and duvets – they're not safe for babies less than a year old because of the risk of suffocation. Duvets can also make your baby too hot. Sheets and layers of blankets tucked in firmly below your baby's shoulder level or a baby sleeping bag are safe for your baby to sleep in*

I don’t think anyone is saying the NHS has got it wrong, the lullaby trust says you can use tucked in blankets below babies shoulders as well. Just that sleeping bags are way more convenient and feel a lot safer, you know the baby can’t wriggle down into those.

And I also picked up on the lack of sleeping bag mentioned in the OP, I wondered if maybe they’re using the sleepsuits/pyjamas that are thicker and have their own tog rating instead. I didn’t like those because the one we had seemed to take forever to dry.

My daughter's. 3 children have all had grobags. The eldest is now 17. The youngest 11. Grobags have been around for nearly 20 years now.

I'm another Mum who found her son with his head under the cot bumper, I was terrified.

I haven't got any grandchildren yet if one is announced, I'm going to buy one of the parenting magazines to make sure I'm up to date. So many changes and discoveries over the years.

has OP come back, or was it just a goady posting.

My first child was born in January 1965, in the middle of the
coldest winter we had had for many years. With heating only by means of a coal fire in the living-room, I was worried sick about how to keep him warm without piling bedclothes on him. Leaving an electric fire on all night was just too expensive to consider, but useful during feeding times.
Nowadays most houses are warm, and babies are quite comfortable in just cosy pyjamas, or one of the garment-like sleeping bags mentioned. The risk of accidental suffocation is almost nil, using these methods.
They are not completely new. I remember finding a knitting pattern for a sort of dressing-gown which had a button-up flap for over the child’s feet. I made a few and they were ideal for sleeping in unheated bedrooms, back in the dark ages when my children were little. Did anyone else make such things for their children?
I would be wary of buying any Grobags without consulting the baby’s parents. They may see it as a veiled hint that they aren’t keeping their child warm enough at night. Perhaps a mention that winter is coming on, and an offer to buy some in readiness for the colder weather would be more tactful.

My GD both had these Grobags, they keep them warm but stop overheating.)0
I've been sleeping without any cover for ages now, I get overheated so easily!

Maggiemaybe

freedomfromthepast

We don't know that the baby in question doesn't have one?

The OP’s concerned because the child sleeps in jogging type pyjamas. No blanket no quilt. She often wakes and is slow to settle down.

No mention there of a grobag.

True, but the "jogging type pyjamas" may be designed for sleep.
Some are like this to facilitate changing. Thomas hasn't been back to tell us anything else.

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It may be the normal if the weather is hot, but if like today in the SE of England it is cloudy and cooler. So depends or where you live a light sheet would do if baby has pjs or baby grow.

My niece and nephews got quilts after they moved out of cots and cot beds into proper single beds, aged 3-4 years. Before that they had no coverings or baby sleeping bags in cold weather but as soon as he could talk nephew refused them. From about two we sometimes snuck a blanket on him once he was asleep but by our bedtime it was kicked off, They still kick all their covers off every single night, the boys often choose to sleep on top of their quilt or blanket in the summer.

My GC had gro-bags and mostly slept well. It would be difficult if an active child attempted to climb out of the cot - quite dangerous, in fact. I know one of my sons was doing this at 18 months. Pyjamas would be advisable once potty training was started.

NotSpaghetti

Maggiemaybe

freedomfromthepast

We don't know that the baby in question doesn't have one?

The OP’s concerned because the child sleeps in jogging type pyjamas. No blanket no quilt. She often wakes and is slow to settle down.

No mention there of a grobag.

True, but the "jogging type pyjamas" may be designed for sleep.
Some are like this to facilitate changing. Thomas hasn't been back to tell us anything else.

Mine did have pyjamas with feet when they were a bit older.

Certainly in warm weather it is probably a good thing no to overheat the child, come the colder weather they will need to rethink the strategy or face huge heating bills during minus temperatures but it is their child and their bills.

My granddaughter who is 2 has no quilt or blanket either, BUT she does have a sleep suit with a tog rating . I was unsure about it too but when I check on her if she’s staying with me her toes are toasty warm so it seems to work.

Sorry but you are out of touch OP. You don’t have bedding in cots anymore. It gets kicked off anyway and can be a strangle hazard. Grobags or similar have been around for ages.

My grandson had the sleeping pods but he also had a bottom sheet. Now he’s two he has sleeping pod with legs in. My granddaughter who is 7moths I bought her sleeping pods summer and winter ones. I think they good idea didn’t have when my 10yr going on 20yr granddaughter lol was born.

Yep….. looked after both my grandkids who are 5 years apart in age, and both had ‘’Grobags’. I doubted them at first but a hand put inside to check they were toasty warm puts your mind at rest. I loved them, and so easy to change there nappies as they unzipped at the bottom. Wish I’d had them for my two 40 years ago!

There have always been differences of opinion, even among professionals.
When my daughter was newborn, the midwife came and swaddled her. Then the GP who had delivered her called in and said she was far too hot and removed the blankets. That was 50 years ago.
My son, now 46, had an early type of gro bag. One was like a sleeping bag, for his pram, and in bed it was a bag made of blanket material with a dungaree top. So grobags are not new.

My daughter bought these for my granddaughter at an early age who also wouldn't settle. I suggested that maybe the baby would like to be swaddled. It worked a treat. Even now at 5 she likes the duvet up to her ears

Here’s a link to what the NHS says on the subject (although, I must admit my fellow Gransnetters have quoted the relevant parts already).

www.nhs.uk/conditions/baby/caring-for-a-newborn/reduce-the-risk-of-sudden-infant-death-syndrome/

Having lost my precious baby girl to SIDS I really have to agree with the majority on here. My other children were kept comfortably warm. Too many blankets are a no no in my book.