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SeaNain Tue 31-Aug-21 20:09:29

I should think this funny maybe. And i am not so mad, more embarrassed.
Today, car showroom.
H. (61) and me sit opposite the car sales man.
Attractuve 20 sometbing walks over passing by h, to pass papers to salesman.
H. (loudly) "wow"
Short paause of silence
H. "You can sell me a car anyday".
20 simething shimmers away back to her desk.
Me.( Trying think im not sat there so speechless.)
Sakesman (muttering to desk quuetly)
"she does sell a lot of cars".
Silent pause again..
Salesman (embarrased, trying not to look at both of us but focusses on the computer screen instead)
"now, where were we?"

Now pse tell me girls. I know. Men will be men. Your response would be....

CBBL Thu 02-Sept-21 17:04:30

I would have been annoyed and embarrassed, and would have had to say something like "I really thought you had better manners than that, dear!"

BabsB Thu 02-Sept-21 16:36:55

What an absolute first class prat

Nanjust60 Thu 02-Sept-21 16:35:33

I would be livid and he would know about it

GrammarGrandma Thu 02-Sept-21 16:28:19

I would be angry but I know it would never happen. Has he been like this before?

Missiseff Thu 02-Sept-21 16:28:05

Jesus. Vile.

TopCat12 Thu 02-Sept-21 16:18:20

**ole. put him right, this is the 2000's not the 60's or 70's, when men thought they could get away with remarks like that, he demeans two women in one foul sweep, and not a word said.

tictacnana Thu 02-Sept-21 16:12:57

Yuk! I would have left him to it. My ex husband did something like this in a restaurant. Notice I said EX. We were only married for 3 years .... Too creepy around women once we were wed.

Kryptonite Thu 02-Sept-21 15:53:22

I would be very angry and embarrassed at this. I was wondering if an older woman started getting flirty with a young salesman, would this attract less criticism? I have seen this sort of thing done and heard colleagues make ogling remarks about young, male members of staff. I think such behaviours from either sex are sexist and entirely reprehensible.

MissAdventure Thu 02-Sept-21 15:36:51

I would be mortified.
There a few things as bad as lecherous old men in my book. Ugh!
He would have paid dearly for that behaviour.

4allweknow Thu 02-Sept-21 15:19:18

I am positive DH or sons would not make a comment like that. If they did they would be told not to be so rude for all to hear.

Teddy123 Thu 02-Sept-21 14:54:35

I would have been shocked then furious. Just too rude to believe it actually happened. I may have said "pass me the car keys", left him open mouthed and driven home alone. The walk would have given him plenty of thinking time.....

Apologies for being so blunt.

Caro57 Thu 02-Sept-21 14:52:23

Distasteful

montymops Thu 02-Sept-21 14:48:19

I do agree with Jess - this used to be common in the 60’s/70’s. I’m afraid I can’t get too worked up about it- however, I don’t think my husband would say anything like this- even if he thought it - he’s always liked and appreciated women - I do find that there is far too much outrage about practically everything these days - perhaps because there are so many avenues available to us to express opinions?

Semiruralgirl Thu 02-Sept-21 14:44:08

I would roll my eyes while looking at the salesman!

Alioop Thu 02-Sept-21 14:06:51

I know a man like that, he's 70, I find it creepy. If he had a daughter that age I'm sure he'd be fuming if someone spoke to her like that....

Whatdayisit Thu 02-Sept-21 13:41:43

He is old enough to be her grandad and a bit young to be thinking it's still acceptable.
If it is really something new he has started - acting like a leering old pervert - look for other symptoms.

I think the car sales man should have said can we have some respect for the staff working here. Even if it meant losing a sale.

Edith81 Thu 02-Sept-21 13:40:02

I think your husband has no respect for you, and I wonder what he would have done if you had behaved that way.

Lucca Thu 02-Sept-21 13:39:10

GreenGran78

On a recent episode of The Chase “The Governess”, who must be in her 50s at least, told one of the male celebrity contestants that she would like to lick him all over.
This was met with claps, cheers and much hilarity.
Double standards?

Yes. How revolting.

keeno Thu 02-Sept-21 13:34:11

Not acceptable.
My husband, in his 70's , used to pop to the local shop and told me he asked for a receipt 'to prove to his wife where he'd been'.
It wasn't until we shopped together and he said 'I don't need a receipt today, 'because she's here with me', to the young shop assistant that I had to tell him, after we'd left - 'Don't ever do that again, you embarrassed me, you embarrassed her, and most of all you were an embarrassment to yourself.
It's never happened since.

Purplepoppies Thu 02-Sept-21 13:29:41

Its crass, demeaning and sexist.
If my partner/husband had said that I would have made it very clear, at the time, his behaviour was disgusting and insist he apologise to the lady in question.
Then make him read up about appropriate behaviour and language so he never does it again.

GreenGran78 Thu 02-Sept-21 13:10:16

On a recent episode of The Chase “The Governess”, who must be in her 50s at least, told one of the male celebrity contestants that she would like to lick him all over.
This was met with claps, cheers and much hilarity.
Double standards?

Jess20 Thu 02-Sept-21 12:58:37

This sort of comment was normal, back in the 1970s. Think your old man had a senior moment, he's probably embarrassed as well. No idea about the salesperson, depends on what sort of commission on sales she gets.

goose1964 Thu 02-Sept-21 12:41:26

He'd have had a rollicking least. It would never happen to me though as I've not married a misogynist. If you have daughters ask how he'd like it if an old man commented like this to her.

Millie22 Thu 02-Sept-21 12:27:47

Really???

Another of the totally ridiculous threads we have atm. It's not worth replying.

Dickens Thu 02-Sept-21 12:27:20

I wonder how such men would react if their wives behaved in a similar fashion when an attractive young man came into view?

Imagine if the '20 something' had been a good looking man and the wife had uttered "cor... he can sell me a car anytime".

I'm pretty sure the salesman would have been equally embarrassed and the husband less than impressed.

... and grans on here would have said grow up and act your age... so I think that is what the husband of the OP needs to do.

The 2o-something is young enough to be his daughter. She's an employee doing a job, not a plaything, decoration or ornament for his or any other man's pleasure.

If it were me, I'd be quite brutal and ask the husband - how would you feel if I illuminated the fact that you're old and past it by going all ga ga over an attractive young man?

If my other half behaved like that, especially on more than one occasion, we'd be living in the same house, but not as partners... he'd be looking after himself and I'd be doing my own thing.

What he did was to show huge disrespect to his wife. But he'll never acknowledge it.