How would you react

SeaNain
When we gals observe a 'drop dead dish' of guy. a wowee who let you escape ? is usually enough to get a reaction that two can play at that game.

A sharp kick under the table haha!

He could be ill there are several illnesses were lack of inabition can be an early symptom. If this is just recent behaviour might be a help to have checkup.

That was very disrespectful to you his wife, it was disrespectful towards the young women, no one wants to spoken to like that in the work place it also placed the salesman in a dreadful position, should he defend his colleague loose a sale and maybe get reprimanded, or sit quietly and re-enforce the myth that it's OK to speak to anyone in such a disrespectful way, pretty disgusting behaviour all round

For a start my H would never had said such a thing and if he did I would have called him out on it in front of the whole showroom. Cringe worthy.

If your husband is 61 and only started to do this recently, as your post suggests, like a few others it came to me instantly that it could be a behaviour change due to a health issue. I would tell him that what he said was inappropriate and keep an eye on him for other symptoms.

Your husband sounds very insensitive and ignorant, you must have felt like taking the car home and making him walk! I hope he saw how offensive his comments were & apologised? If not, I’m sure an opportunity will come along for you to show him how it feels. ? Good luck.

I would not be married to someone like this - what a total lack of respect for his wife

I would have been both angry and embarrassed and would have said you are old enough to be her grandad you perv.
I’m so pleased my husband isn’t like that

Well lady all I can say is ‘you picked him’!

Nannan2

Suziemarie- "I'd HAVE" not "of"

Glad you said that ! GN is littered with “would of/could of/should of”??

Nannan2

Suziemarie- "I'd HAVE" not "of"

Rude.

I would have divorced him.

Suziemarie- "I'd HAVE" not "of"

Maw, I think that maybe she wanted us to play it down for her; tell her that she was overreacting.
Whereas we’ve told her exactly what she didn’t want to hear, ie the her husband is an a***hole.

I’m interested thatOP started by saying that she thought maybe I should think this funny

Makes me wonder how outraged she really was?

Yes.I'd have been embarrassed and annoyed.Did he think it, but not thought he had actually said it out loud.??

I would have apologised profusely to the young woman, and left. I can’t imagine my husband ever behaving like this...unless he was ill, in which case, I would have explained that.

I don’t think my marriage to him would have lasted once he started this type of behaviour. Presumably he hasn’t always been like it?

MawBe

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Thanks Maw!
What an unexpected treat that was!

I would have certainly have said something there and then-it would have been an automatic reaction, I’m afraid. Something similar happened once when my husband and I were served by a very pretty young waitress. He complimented her long, blonde hair etc etc. I blurted out the old nugget of wisdom ‘There’s no fool like an old fool!’ and winked at the young lady, adding ‘can’t take him anywhere!’ Defused an awkward situation there and then and paved the way for a good explosion on my part later. Probably explains why he is my ex-husband now though….(thank heavens!).

Calistemon- yes,i thought we on here were 'Ladies'?

If this is true I would have apologised to the saleswoman, hit OH round the head with my handbag and walked off. Seriously, I can imagine my father behaving like this in the 60s. He was a very good looking man and, as they say, certainly had an eye for ladies!

I would have been both embarrassed and angry. Not only was it deeply sexist towards the young woman but also insulting and humiliating to you as his wife.
This sort of behaviour doesn’t come out of nowhere and there must have been other occasions when he has leered at other women or made comments about them.
When he’s at work does he behave like this? Hasn’t he been on any kind of training?
Time to reflect - will he get better or worse as he ages? Do you want to continue to be so grossly disrespected as you grow older?
Time to move on from the old dinosaur I’d say!

I would have said to my husband, "Show some respect, please!" I think he disrespected both you and the saleswoman but I wouldn't have called this sexual abuse. It is inappropriate and may make someone feel uncomfortable but calling it abuse is a step too far. As someone who has suffered abuse, it is nowhere near and diminishes real abuse by bandying the word around. That said, I think we all have to call this behaviour out or things will never change. Maybe by embarrassing the offender, they will understand how embarrassing this is for most women.

I would march him back to the car sales room to apologise to both Saleswoman and Salesman.

Perhaps he is losing his social filter where instead of just thinking things, he opens his mouth!!!!