How would you react

I would not have gone back in. Luckily my late husband would never have put me in this position.

Thankfully, I know my DH wouldn't put me in that situation, as he has more respect for people. But, if that did happen, I would immediately apologise to the young woman for his lack of respect, and he would most definitely not be looking forward to what I'd have to say to him afterwards!

However, what chickkygran said did also cross my mind, "However, if this is out of character & I think OP said it’s happened once before I’d be watchful in case there’s something going on health wise."

I’d be fuming and disgusted with him. My OH says it’s sexist and knows I wouldn’t be happy with this behaviour. However, if this is out of character & I think OP said it’s happened once before I’d be watchful in case there’s something going on health wise. There was a recent thread where an OH became extremely irrational due to health issues

Lucca

How do you “shimmer “?

I don't know but I have been known to shimmy
Once, aeons ago as a joke
And I probably looked rather daft

How are his shins, OP?
Bruised?

Plenty of appropriate responses here, but in the heat of the moment how many of us would have thought of anything to do or say. My instinct would have been to make a sharp exit as the OP did, but, at the same time, stamping hard on the culprit's foot. Thanks. grumppa. Good to know that there are still some gentlement around.

Never experienced it myself but I think my reaction would have been to smile at the woman, apologise and say something along the lines that you are only with him because he can't be allowed out on his own.

grumppa ??????

Since you have asked, kittylester, let me say that I am disgusted by OP’s DH’s behaviour, as I often am by the antics of my fellow males as reported on Gransnet.

I hope some of us are doing something right, somewhere.

I'm with Sue Donim. With a quick apology to the sales staff, I'd have walked out - and possibly driven away in our car (I always carry car keys). DH would certainly know what I thought!

Interesting that one poster says ...... 'a person in their twenties is not a girl.' and another poster says ..'boys will be boys'....

Not to be confused with to ‘shimmy’; which is a move I distinctly remember from my disco dancing years (aged c. 7-10 years old). ? ?

Lucca

How do you “shimmer “?

It’s a term Wodehouse often used to describe how Jeeves would enter and leave a room.

I would have walked. This woman is at work and must be treated with respect. Totally inappropriate and it is unacceptable. There's no excuse.

How do you “shimmer “?

TBH referring to her as attractive 20 something and saying later attractive 20 something shimmers away back to her desk while the other person is referred to as the salesman ( no age, no details of his personal appearance ) is objectifying the woman for starters.
I’m getting a vibe.

a person in their twenties is not a girl.

If it had been my husband, I would have dressed him down right then and there. Not acceptable.

I am lucky because my husband has opened his eyes to how women are treated in the world. I think that having 2 daughters helped tremendously. I also point out this type of behavior when I see it so that he is aware what it looks like.

Nadateturbe

"I don't think it was disgusting. But it was sexist.
But it was silly and embarrassing.
If this is a new thing I would be concerned."

It is disgusting to be treated like an object, as if women exist for the gratification of men who do not want to control their impulses

What is even more upsetting us how other women minimize this and even justify it.

I truly hope this unacceptable behaviour gets classified as sexual abuse and penalized as such, instead of being laughed at and "be embarrased"

Callistemon

^And I truly did not know what to say or even do after, so I left them to it and sat in the car^

Was that a new car or the old one?

And I truly did not know what to say or even do after, so I left them to it and sat in the car

Was that a new car or the old one?

Eviebeanz

@SeaNain - is he like this all the time?

More light hearted, the odd to be honest nice, sweet things that people smile at.

Hithere

OP

What your husband did is disgusting, stereptyping,mysoginistic and alomost crossing the line sexual abuse.

How unacceptable!

If you have daughters, would he like them to be treated like a sexual object?

I don't think it was disgusting. But it was sexist.
But it was silly and embarrassing.
If this is a new thing I would be concerned.

OP

What your husband did is disgusting, stereptyping,mysoginistic and alomost crossing the line sexual abuse.

How unacceptable!

If you have daughters, would he like them to be treated like a sexual object?

kittylester

Or any of the boys that post on this site might have an opinion.

Yes. I would like to see what the older men think of it all.

M0nica

How about 'Oh for heavens sake, act your age and not your shoes size'.

I would certainly have responded fast and with a put down. it is all you can do to hold your self respect. Once back home all hell would have been let loose.

Yes, it is the self respect. I felt mine writhering away I must admit. It is all i can do. It is the second time now.. I am going to have to make it clear to him people do not like this now. The "wow" was partucularly loud, it was just... Bad. At the time I held my respect by walking away,.. Ugh.
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