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kircubbin2000 Fri 10-Sept-21 20:16:39

Perhaps I had a sheltered life but I never heard of this growing up or with any boyfriends. It wasn't until a girls holiday when I was about 40 that my friend told me she had tried it and another friend said her husband had tried but she didn't like it.
I found it hard to believe that people actually did it but now it seems one of the most common things young people do.

Luckygirl Tue 14-Sept-21 10:11:28

Sometimes when my family are tiptoeing round me trying not to say something that might shock me I do find it necessary to remind them that I was a teenager and student in the swinging 60s!!! smile

Nansnet Tue 14-Sept-21 10:08:10

Sar53

This is a great thread with many laughs along the way.

It is very true that the young think that sex was invented just for them.

It's all rather amused me too! Who'd have thought that a post titled 'Oral Sex' would've had so many responses on GN? grin

Youngsters don't know the half of it! wink

Lizzie72 Tue 14-Sept-21 09:54:39

These things go on and on Kate54 wink

Kate54 Tue 14-Sept-21 09:53:10

Is this thread really still going?!

Lizzie72 Tue 14-Sept-21 09:34:20

Elizabeth1

Hi there I really wonder what planet some folks live on wink blush

Yes, Elizabeth, I read Lady Chatterly’s Lover confused. Your previous comment was ambiguous; I wasn’t sure whether you felt oral sex was outrageous or that we were all being naive?

Elizabeth1 Tue 14-Sept-21 08:56:38

Lizzie did you never read lady chatterlys diary it went around the school like wildfire

Dinahmo Mon 13-Sept-21 14:21:08

Perhaps a bit long but maybe of interest whilst enduring a sleepless night perhaps.

As American as Apple Pie
Fellatio has a long and storied history, but not until 1972—with the release of Deep Throat—did it come out, so to speak, in polite company. From the Wild West to the Wild White House, the author explores the blowjob’s emergence as the nation’s signature sex act.

By Christopher Hitchens

Here's the link

www.vanityfair.com/news/2006/07/hitchens200607

JaneJudge Mon 13-Sept-21 14:15:32

pensionpat smile

Luckygirl Mon 13-Sept-21 13:44:03

I also love his story of going to one Catholic school where the children were doing art. One little girl had drawn a picture of a lady kneeling down beside a lake.

"Oh that is lovely - tell me about it."
"That is Mother Mary and she is praying for the sick!"

Love it.

Nothing to do with oral sex of course!

Luckygirl Mon 13-Sept-21 13:41:53

Great!

pensionpat Mon 13-Sept-21 13:27:22

A story is told by Gervase Phinn, the author who had been a schools inspector. In one group of children one of them kept calling out “I know how babies are made”. He kept putting her off and eventually agreed she could tell him privately. So when she got her opportunity, she said “To make babies you leave off the y and add ies”

Luckygirl Mon 13-Sept-21 12:49:25

We had a book called Our New Baby for my children. It was a Scandinavian cartoon book, and pulled no punches. It was a lovely book with full details, but in a loving context - a family who had adopted a child also featured. It was in with all the other books for them to read when they wanted.
Unfortunately they always seemed to pull it out when my parents arrived and demand that they "Read book!" parents were a bit embarrassed!

But....my DDs had a vast amount of knowledge to impart on the subject and my youngest was giving very popular sex education talks in the playground when she was about 4!!

BlueBelle Mon 13-Sept-21 12:45:08

Atqui well if you’re weird so am I unless we re not talking about the same bit
When my son got to that age I decided he needed a chat so I went into his room one day sat on the bed and said I just want a little chat with you, he laughed and said I know what’s coming, and I said really! what? he lifted the pillow up to show me his pack of three … I said I m a bit late aren’t I ?

PinkCosmos Mon 13-Sept-21 12:28:25

I remember my mum taking me to the cinema in the mid 60's (I was about 8) to see a film called Helga which was supposed to be a sex education film. From what I recall it was more about pregnancy.

I do remember finding some Forum magazines on the top of my parents wardrobe. I learned quite a lot from them !!

I do think that young people are pushed into doing things they don't necessarily want to do because of the pressure from social media, music and all of the porn that is now so easily accessible.

I think this is really sad as sex seems to be seen by some young people as more of an act/performance these days than a loving connection between two people.

annsixty Mon 13-Sept-21 11:54:43

My neighbour’s daughter, who will now be in her fifties stopped eating tomatoes after being told the seed story.
She said she didn’t want a baby, she was probably about six.

Kalu Mon 13-Sept-21 11:49:15

When DD2 was 4 she asked how babies were made. Thinking she was a bit too young for me to go into explicit detail, I replied, daddy gives mummy a special seed. When DH returned from work later, she rummaged in his jacket pocket and asked him where he kept his special seeds!

Kamiso Mon 13-Sept-21 11:44:51

My nephew was about 7 when he read the How A Baby is Made book. His response was “I bet that made your eyes water”.

My friend and her daughter watched “The Film” at school together. Her daughter was horrified. “You did THAT three times? It’s disgusting.”

annsixty Mon 13-Sept-21 11:26:08

They also think that they are the first ones ever to get pregnant, with celebs instagramming their bump, writing pregnancy diaries and generally getting up my nose.

Callistemon Mon 13-Sept-21 11:21:35

grannyactivist

Callistemon ?

All my children had access to that book, they all read it and, as children, all had a similar matter-of-fact response to the content. Yet as adults they think it’s hilarious, and slightly shocking, that I bought it for them.

I forgot to add - I was pregnant at the time.
Perhaps her teacher thought she ought to know how that had happened ?

Sar53 Mon 13-Sept-21 10:30:24

This is a great thread with many laughs along the way.

It is very true that the young think that sex was invented just for them.

grannyactivist Mon 13-Sept-21 09:45:09

Callistemon ?

All my children had access to that book, they all read it and, as children, all had a similar matter-of-fact response to the content. Yet as adults they think it’s hilarious, and slightly shocking, that I bought it for them.

muse Mon 13-Sept-21 00:51:51

Tried to get an early night but sleeps evading me. Reading these posts, I’m even wider awake now!

OhMother ??

Callistemon Sun 12-Sept-21 22:47:49

When my eldest daughter was still a toddler I bought her a book called How A Baby Is Made and simply added it to her book box.
grannyactivist I remember one of my DD bringing that book home from the school library when she was young and taking it upstairs to read, then she gave it to me to read. A couple of days later she asked if I'd read it and I said yes, anticipating a nice mother/daughter chat about it. She asked "Did you understand it?" I said yes, I had.
She said, "Ok, I'll take it back to the library then"!

grumppa Sun 12-Sept-21 22:07:27

Back around 1970 we surmised that Fellatio was a Formula 1 motor racing team, and envisaged Raymond Baxter commentating on the ace Italian driver Masturbani in the Works Fellatio. Before Murray Walker’s time, alas.

LauraNorder Sun 12-Sept-21 20:03:18

Yes Jax I can relate to that