Oral sex.

In the 50s, if you were lucky, your mother slipped you a little booklet, but that was as far as it got, until you were able to start learning things for yourself! Very often you learned from your more knowledgeable peers. In many cases parent said nothing except dire warnings about "Not bringing your troubles home"
A school friend, whose both parents were pathologists / doctors was VERY knowledgeable, (So presumably the whole family were very open minded ) which helped us later, because we knew what was going on.
But on the subject, some like to give, some to receive, some both, some not all.
Literally whatever turns you on.
In some cases, because of medical problems, it may be the only form of intimacy available to a loving couple.

I'm sorry, but I find that hard to swallow.

I was born in 1951 so oral sex had been illegal in many countries until the 1970s when I was experimenting.

I doubt many of us tried it then - it was talked about to a certain extent and as the laws concerning printing of what is now called porn and then were known as obscene publications was in the throes of being relaxed or abolished you could find fairly graphic descriptions with or without pictures!

I imagine most of us have tried some or other sexual practice that we promised ourselves never to do again, and others that surprised us by being enjoyable.

Forgive me for preferring not to go into details.

Sago

This post reminds me of a holiday I endured with my Mother and MIL it was when Clinton was accused of having an affair with Monica Lewinsky.
The newspaper’s kept referring to a BJ, MIL asked what it meant, my mother piped up that she didn’t know either.
I had the joy of explaining……” do you think people in England do it” asked MIL “Surely not said my mother..

I kept tight lipped.
No pun intended. ?

Sago when I was about 27 I found myself explaining to my mother why one of her contemporaries had sniggered when referring to the fact that she, mother's friend and that lady's husband lived at no. 69!

My mother had been genuinely unaware of what 69 could refer to.

Oral sex has been in fashion at various times in human history, then either not practised, or just not talked about in the interceding puritanical times that seem unfailingly to come along after a particularly free- and-easy sexual era.

I believe that until 1969 when the Divorce Act (Scotland) was revised Scots Law repressively called both fellatio and cunilingus, and a whole lot of other erotic pastimes, "lewd practices" that could constitue grounds for divorce if you could prove that your spouse had forced you to participate in them. They are probably still legal offences in certain American states!

When she was about 16 my DD told me I was a totally useless mother when it came to discussing sexual matters with her.

The reason I was useless, was not that I had any inhibitions about talking to her and answering her questions on all matters sexual. It was my willingness to answer questions that was the problem.

When she and her friends sat around in the college refectory telling each other all the stupid things that their parents said to them on the subject of sex and their embarrassmen when they did so, she was unable to contribute to the conversation because, as she said, she couldn't remember a time when she didn't know the basics and if she wanted to know anything she just asked me and I told her.

We’ve been giggling over marmite on this thread. Marmite mining came up in an article I was reading today. It’s an euphemism for something else sexually between two men. It’s put me off the taste of marmite completely.

Bluebellwould reminds me of some alternate words to an advert from some time ago for club biscuits!

this has nothing to do with oral sex but if you have roll of puff pastry, spread a layer of marmite over it, sprinke with grated cheese, roll again, put in freezer for pastry to go hard again and then take out slice into slim circles, put on a baking sheet brush with egg and bake for 10-15 mins ish
lush

I wonder if they do this in the whitehouse

JaneJudge I could get my tongue round that.

Now you're talking JaneJudge....mmmm

Good heavens grandtanteJE65 I didn’t know it had ever been illegal! I’m shocked to realise I may have broken the law as a newly wed

Jane judge, my family-in-law called that slate rolls. No idea why.

Bluebellwould

Jane judge, my family-in-law called that slate rolls. No idea why.

Ohh I will google and I hope it isn't rude

After thinking about it since last night, the penny has dropped and I`ve realised what BJ stands for! I was at school in the 50s and we had no sex education at all, and certainly never heard of oral sex back then.

I was given one of the little booklets when I was 11. It had a lot about male cells and female cells joining together and making a baby but no actual detail about how the cells met in the first place! I didn't bother to ask my mother about it as it was obviously scientific and she wouldn't know either!

Eventually one of my friends got hold of a book about sex which was more helpful although it didn't suggest that it was something to enjoy (and certainly no oral)

My son enlightened me as to what MILF meant when I heard it mentioned on TV last night. Apparently there is also GILF.

Hellogirl even more sheltered than me!
I'll have to google MILF - my OH doesn't know.

Not nice.

I was always taught never to put anything in your mouth without boiling it first

I heard my mother reminiscing that she was 27 and married with 4 children when she learned that lesbians and gays existed. At the time she flatly refused to believe what she was hearing because she couldn’t understand the mechanics of how intercourse could work between two people of the same sex. She said that she actually felt nauseous when oral sex was explained to her.

When my eldest daughter was still a toddler I bought her a book called How A Baby Is Made and simply added it to her book box. All of my children eventually inherited access to it and when my eldest grandson was born I gave it to my daughter so that she could pop it into her own child’s bookcase. My son in-law was horrified and has hidden it! ??

LauraNorder they should teach this in sex Ed

LauraNorder

I was always taught never to put anything in your mouth without boiling it first

What about ice cream?

grannyactivist Did the How A Baby Is Made have on the cover a couple with the man wearing striped trousers. I believe it was the book I bought for mine. My friend’s older daughter, nine years old, reading it without my knowledge, it was on my daughter’s book shelf came to me and said it wasn’t true cause it wasn’t what she had been told.

mokryna if you click on the blue book title in my post it’s a link and will take you to a page where you can read the whole book. The man has a striped top and the woman has a striped dress.

Because it was always available my children just looked at it as they did any other book. I had other books about the human body etc. so it didn’t seem out of place or a cause for any particular attention.

I just answered DC's questions as they asked.

I do remember a tragic occasion when DC were about 6 and 8 when a boy DS used to play with at school was killed in a road accident. It was Library day, so that is where we went after school and DC picked out the MacDonald Book of the body.

When we got home, I didn't even get time to take my coat off before DS, in particular was asking me to read the book with him. so i just sat on the floor, a child both sides and we covered everything, reprised the basic facts that both knew, covered menstruation and periods and then discussed death, what it meant, what might happen.

Then DS got up and put the tv on, which I recognised as him having learned as much as he wanted and he would now go away and think about it and come back with questions a couple of weeks later.

I remember this event so clearly because DH came home from work, just as we were finishing. I explained what had happened and that supper would be late and he simply went straight out again and bought fish and chips.