Son in law - dislike

Chookstar73 Have you found a way to tolerate the food choices of your adult D?

Maine52 you need to start a new thread. To do thatclick on "Forums" at top of page; choose which forum you want to post in from list (Grandparenting? Relationships? Ask a Gran? could be appropriate?) Click on that forum in the list. Then click on "start a new thread" at top of page, choose title for your thread then you can type in what you want to say. Then press post at bottom of page

Maine52. You should maybe start a new thread ?

Hi everyone
My daughtet immigrated to Ireland from South Africa 3 years ago, when my grandson was 2. I was very close to him as i was his caregiver before the immigration. After visiting the first year he remenbered ne and we were still close.
Since Covid i have been unable to visit. He is now 5 and wont even speak to me on the telephone. He gets rude and cheeky.
Is this a 5 year old thingl Have i lost my close connection to him.
He us a very spolt little boy. Has this contributed to his behaviour.
My daughter is about to have a 2nd baby who i will be unable to bond with. I feel like i have lost my family. I have no other children.
I hope to visit in November.

Really Bibbity, you were joking. Well exclamation marks usually denote a strong reaction/opinion and lol or is what people normally put to show they're joking.

I'm not trying to fight her corner, just respond without having a laugh at her expense.

My point being that the use of the "off the bone meat eater" phrase does not suggest its just a made up post ... I think it is likely that Chookstar will not return ...either because she has been put off by the way the thread has gone or because she has calmed down and found a way through it all for herself.

If you are still around Chookstar I hope that the latter is the case

I think so - I think there is an Australian restaurant called Chookstar

So it is!
We could have all visited on a Gransnet meet-up but we can't go to Australia.

An Australian phrase I believe

I think so - I think there is an Australian restaurant called Chookstar

it just takes one early on to doubt a thread starter and all the sheep follow...........what utter nastiness...

I expect you know best

#NastySheep

'being a huge off the bone meat eater

An Australian phrase I believe

it just takes one early on to doubt a thread starter and all the sheep follow...........what utter nastiness.... no need to post if you don't believe it is there.

Chookstar probably work for an advertising agency, pumping up traffic with goady scenarios.
marks out of ten ? 7.

Lucca

A. I don’t think this is real.

B. If it were real I’d say Chookstar sounds quite strong enough in her views to withstand a few criticisms on Gransnet.

I don't think it's real either. Don't know why, can't quite put my finger on it. Might be something to do with the phrase 'being a huge off the bone meat eater', or the way it is written. I may be wrong, in which case I hope the Op hasn't totally alienated her daughter by now.

Get a grip. I can't speak for anyone else but I certainly can not offer comfort or support past "don't be so ridiculous."

And Smiless I was joking. Because you are all trying to fight her corner but still haven't come up with any other crimes committed.

'All the things she has been bought up on have gone out the window to join the partners view. '

I didn't read logical reasons to dislike OP's s.i.l in the post.

OP didn't explain, other than changing to vegan, anything D or s.i.l have done to cause dislike.

Chookstar didn't describe her s.i.l. as a "filthy vegan" Bibbity but hey, if it's not enough to turn her concerns into a joke accuse her of posting things she hasn't.

A. I don’t think this is real.

B. If it were real I’d say Chookstar sounds quite strong enough in her views to withstand a few criticisms on Gransnet.

I don't imagine Choostar ever expected. such a load of criticism to descend on her, because it seems she was looking for comfort and kindness as she's obviously distressed over the new veganism.
I hope she is brave enough to put her head over the parapet and let us know why she's so upset.
And I hope she gets some more sympathetic replies.

Surely that's what happens when you grow up?
The things you were raised on were your parents views and ways and not your own, so when you get older you grown and change.

Unless they are ramming down your throat then I wouldn't let it get to you.

Elless So what were the other points she made?

Because I only saw one. Which was the fact her child. That she raised so perfectly had been converted by a filthy vegan!!!!!!!

It's not a massive change in a person. It's just food.

And I personally find someone getting their knickers in a twist over this absolutely ridiculous and yes. Quiet a bit funny.

Disgusted? One of the points? Veganism is the only point the OP has made about why she dislikes this man. The rest is just conjecture unless she explains more ... and she hasn't.

I agree Elless especially when the OP posted "I feel as if I don't want to be around her as every time I cry as I feel I have totally lost connection".

It may be felt that the OP's reaction is OTT and totally unreasonable but I don't see that there's anything here to joke about.

I am disgusted by the way everyone has turned this into a joke about turning vegan. Why has everyone jumped onto the vegan bandwagon, it is just one of the points that Chookstar73 has started her post with and the way (almost) everyone has reacted to, I'm not surprised she hasn't responded. As I said my story is very similar and my ES turning vegan is not important I was stating it amongst other things, before we estranged he did state that he was surprised how tasty some of his wife's meal were, so good on him, it's the whole 180 turn that is confusing.

One of my DSs has become a born-again vegan and is quite militant about it - often sending me links to articles about why veganism is saving the planet! Pain in the neck! But he is still my DS and I love him. I shrug my shoulders and have a laugh about it with my other DS who is an unapologetic carnivore. I occupy the middle ground as a vegetarian. If we have a family get-together, we cater for all tastes and some of his vegan cooking is delicious.