Friendship gone strange

Thank you for all your advice. It means a lot & iv decided to let her go. She’s not the kind of friend I need xx

You can either tell her that you wont be in contact with her anymore and why, or pull back over a period of time until contact ceases all together.

Either way she's not really a friend to you so you should let her go.

I hope that all will be well following your mammogram result; take care

She does seem to have problems. The alcohol is probably to blame. The fact she did not show any concern, when you had your recent health issues tells me she is a ‘fair weather friend ‘. You don’t need her in your life. You say the news, after your mammogram, was not ‘good’. Concentrate on yourself and your treatment. Hope everything goes well for you

Alcoholics can be moody and behave very strangely. Are you really up for all this? It’s draining. I had a similar friendship. In the end, for my own mental well being, I had to let it go. I still miss her some days. We’d been friends for years and wasn’t always so bad.

Don't think this person is a true friend Lollipoplove I certainly wouldn't want to be clearing up after a drunk. Time to let this go I think.
I hope you have a clean bill of health too.

You sound as if you have other friends so I don’t understand why you are hunting this one , why can’t you just let it be
You havent needed her for 16 years so why even loose a nights sleep over, her as the kids song says ‘Let it go’

How much do you really need her in your life? Drop her. She sounds most unpleasant.

So sorry, but your 'friend' sounds like a total waste of space. The fact that she fell out with you 16 or more years ago and never wanted to put it right until, maybe, she'd exhausted the patience of many others should be a big clue. Her life is obviously a mess and you were useful to have around, just to listen to her complaining and pick up after her. You really shouldn't be surprised at how this was going to end - again.

She sounds totally self-centred and selfish, wrapped up in a life which is out of control. She's made it clear that she's not interested in you or your health problems or helping you in any way.

So switch off, break contact and give it up, you're worth so much more. Hopefully you can stay with or near to your StepMum, where your visit will be really welcome; and I hope that you get the help and support you need from real friends and family and that your hospital news will be less worrying for you when clarified. Please concentrate on caring for yourself, focus on positive things so that you can get through this episode and put this person from your past out of your mind completely.
And don't feel hurt or shocked - she will have done this to others.

I hope you will soon have a clean bill of health, but in the meantime turn your attention to yourself and refuse to waste any more time on worthless people. Try not to worry - good luck.

My advice - keep well away !

Not really showing good friend vibes is she? Let her go.

Your friend sounds very unhappy, so I think you have to weigh up whether this is something you can take on board and accept, or decide it's time to move on from, and cut her out of your life.

A lot of friends turn out to be the fairweather variety, when times are hard, and I'm sure her drinking will also affect her.