Am I in the wrong

VioletSky

I'm so sorry you have received such an awful diagnosis. Please find and join a support group for it so that you have access to support for all the feelings this has brought up for you.

What did you and your son in law fight about? Is it something you have addressed with him since? Are there problems he has pointed out that you need to listen to?

What did your son in laws mum do when they fell out to make things right again when he felt left out?

Please do not sacrifice yourself to make a point to your daughter. Don't put her in the middle between you and her husband and then punish her for not siding with you by refusing your own treatment.

If you still have a good relationship with your daughter, invite her over, spend time with her... Figure out how to heal this rift with her. Don't use emotional blackmail to force your own way.

Please see a doctor to help you cope with this

This is spot on!!

I hope you have sorted things out, lollipoplove. I'd hate to put any of my children or GC in such an awful position, and it could just as easily backfire!!
I hope you chose chemo. Good luck.

Helpful link Violetsky. Hope it is useful Lollipop

Lollipoplove it's clear that you are in a very vulnerable frame of mind just now.

Please look for help from professional people such as your GP and AgeUK, so that there is not too much of a burden on your daughter.

Please don't try to pressure your daughter in the way you described in your first post.
Do what is best for yourself without depending on her.

Have a look through this Lollipoplove you can get emotional, physical and financial support:

www.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-information-and-support/get-help

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Lollipop,You sound so very unhappy. I can quite understand how you feel like giving up, however, life really is prescious and if you do have a good prognosis please reconsider, for you, not anyone else. I can’t see how you can alter you sil attitude to you, for your daughter to put pressure on would only rebound. It has to come from them, which does seem unlikely.so potentially it couldn’t work. I still have times when I feel like giving up without my family, how much harder for you with your health issues. I think back to my husband fighting to live at any cost and what he went through, he would be so annoyed if I gave up, he used to say if things were not going your way change your attitude, but it does take a lot of determination. Keep going for you, no one knows what tomorrow brings, live can always throw curve balls. ?

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I hope you will be as fortunate, lolli.

Lollipoplove

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Well I wouldn’t. And maybe one day yourll be in pain everyday & need strangers to wash you

I am in pain every day and take strong painkillers every day. If I need strangers to wash me at some point so be it. I work alongside carers (though I am not one) and they are lovely, well-trained people who really do care in all meanings of the word. The people they attend to are fortunate indeed.