What would you think if you received this?

Yes, a much more interesting one.

Would you say “Refusing your husband does not bode well for the future relationship?”

Now I feel we are moving into a whole new area of discussion.

I was going to give up too Lucca but MissAdventure's posts are too good to miss!

Because you said that the paren yes don't want to share their happiness.

Why can't the family be happy? The baby had arrived. So the happiness is shared. Why does having to put mum in a unhappy situation have to make others happy?

The rules are there so everyone is on the same page and the couple don't have to worry about answering questions when they are busy.

Now nobody should bombard them with reheats. And now the OPs sister can clearly see that the adults have said no to her repeated demands.

Bibbity

Lucca

I Think it’s a bit sad that the new parents have no desire to share their happiness with their close family. Apparently.

There’s a world of difference between that and the overbearing grandparents scenario. It’s not the idea of time on their own that’s bugs me, it’s the “RULES”.

Why would their family not be happy at a happy and healthy mum and baby?!
Absolutely baffling?! And very selfish. Someone can't be happy at new life coming into their world unless they get what they want?

I don’t understand what you are saying
You have clearly misinterpreted what I meant. It is the rigid rule list that I find depressing.
Obviously the wider family will be happy the baby has arrived safely.

I give up.

Yes.
Those hearts saved the day.

Lucca

I Think it’s a bit sad that the new parents have no desire to share their happiness with their close family. Apparently.

There’s a world of difference between that and the overbearing grandparents scenario. It’s not the idea of time on their own that’s bugs me, it’s the “RULES”.

Why would their family not be happy at a happy and healthy mum and baby?!
Absolutely baffling?! And very selfish. Someone can't be happy at new life coming into their world unless they get what they want?

Well said Bibbity - the hearts only seem to offend those who do not appear to acknowledge that some of us use emojis to soften a written message which can be, after all, taken the wrong way without them.

as always MissA!

I Think it’s a bit sad that the new parents have no desire to share their happiness with their close family. Apparently.

There’s a world of difference between that and the overbearing grandparents scenario. It’s not the idea of time on their own that’s bugs me, it’s the “RULES”.

Despicable behaviour to say "but I'm your mum".
Outrageous.

Kali2

Refusing mum's visit does not bode well for the future relationship and any request for help, really.

I don’t understand this though.

How is asking for what you need (albeit clumsily) grounds for ruining the relationship and all future help? (Assuming she even wants it)

Kali2

Refusing mum's visit does not bode well for the future relationship and any request for help, really.

Would you say “Refusing your husband does not bode well for the future relationship?”

Anyway, you will always see the real character of a person in the way they react when told “no”.

Kali2

Refusing mum's visit does not bode well for the future relationship and any request for help, really.

The mother refusing to respect her daughter and not be selfish doesn't bode well for her being able to build a relationship with the grandchild she wants to see so bad.

Refusing mum's visit does not bode well for the future relationship and any request for help, really.

Well I came home after a Ceasarean on 3rd day and I had no-one. I wish I had a mother who would have been there for me. OH was working VERY long hours too.

My mil said she was going on hols to Greece with her new lover- and my parents came from abroad after a couple of weeks.

Bibbity sorry

Exactly bibitty

Yes it does March

This 2 week recovery period is so needed. Mum knows who she wants most for support and that is often her partner not mum. Even if not partner, it's not always going to be mum.

Kali2

There is a big difference between having too many visitors, all and sundry, neighbours, etc,

and your own mum, surely.

Depends on the mum. Just because she's her mother doesn't mean the Daughter feels a strong relationship with her or that she will find her presence enjoyable.

Thank you Violetsky!

I'm due round about the same time as the neice and from my experience she's going off medical advice from midwives at this time.
One of the things they do now is a new text alert, worded like a friend that you sign up for, for breast feeding help and advice which they introduced during the pandemic.
PND seems to be rife and what with the NHS the way it is they are trying to bring those numbers down.
Hence the new things they have put in place and suggesting the 2 week recovering period for the new parents and establish breastfeeding.

If family members are behaving like this, it explains for those numbers.

There is a big difference between having too many visitors, all and sundry, neighbours, etc,

and your own mum, surely.

I am a sporadic emoji user, they snuck up on me, like the lols

Think I'd be replying respect all her wishes and will when Covid, flu, any other infectious disease has been eliminated and hopefully baby, mother and family have reached a stage when they don't ever feel tired will try to fit in a visit between meals, coffee mornings etc. Just hope the precious couple never need anyone to help with /look after their child. I know I wouldn't feel able to accommodate. Are these people living in a diseased ravaged environment.

Emojis are super important to younger generations, who prefer to text vs call. I had no idea until recently how important emojis are in a text conversation to them. My youngest was upset at school because I sent a text that I thought was normal and did not include emojis to indicate emotion.

They also hate ellipses, which sucks for me because I am old enough to love using them.