How judgmental are you about people.

Ali08 ??? great post. I too live in a cul-de-sac. My partner since retiring has turned into Victor Meldrew.

This is not as amusing as the television sit com.

So on a whim I decided to apply for a job in a very well known designer discount store and got it. I am the oldest one there and there are a lot of complicated procedures to master plus odd hours.
The store is massive and everyone communicates through a headset.
It is only marginally less stressful than staying home with him indoors and they say I will soon get the hang of it?

I am a lot less judgemental than him indoors!
Cor, he does have opinions, bless him, which are a source of amusement to the rest of us but can grate on me at times!!
The man living in the black house is a pedo, he thinks. I've told him never to say that outside or to anyone we don't know that well as I won't be party to the poor bloke being beaten up for absolutely nothing!!
There's a prostitute living a few doors away - I actually think he's right about that one - but I don't care. She says hi to us, is always immaculate and polite and doesn't bother us.
The next door neighbours are dodgy. I've seen them twice, maybe, in the 20 months we've lived here. They're not noisy, even tho there's a young boy living there and we all respect each others privacy!
Next door to them is a girl my children know and her little family.
He says her husband is dodgy, tho he doesn't know why?!
And next to them is the local drug dealer. I've never seen hide nor hair of the people living there, but they have one of those disability scooters parked outside. If they're dealing, they're going about it very quietly!!
Oh, I nearly forgot the old guy the other side of us. He's OK, I am surprised....but his wife is not!!
Honestly, I get so much entertainment from my little cul-de-sac, and I rarely venture across the threshold!
Him indoors used to 'watch people' for a living - he was a store manager haha - and can spot dodgy people quite well. But I think boredom is overtaking his imagination somewhat!
Anyway, as long as it's staying amusing and not hurting anyone I'll just let him carry on. It keeps him busy and out of my hair.

MissAdventure

Some things deserve to be judged, I think.
To not do so is condoning the unacceptable.
Some though, are just ridiculous (like saying the word "mum" on a card is tacky)

Yes this hits the proverbial nail on head…

Some judgements are created through an inability to relate to what someone is saying.

Some things deserve to be judged, I think.
To not do so is condoning the unacceptable.
Some though, are just ridiculous (like saying the word "mum" on a card is tacky)

I just love the fact that this thread is running alongside the tacky greeting cards thread.

M0nica

I have yet to meet anyone who is not judgemental. There are just judments that are acceptable to other people and those that are not.

Others say they are not, and it will be true. Phew thanks, lemongrove, I will let my previous comment stand!

None of us can help forming opinions about other people, usually measured by our own views, or standards. That I totally understand. We judge and draw conclusions.
But being "judgmental" sounds like a negative thing with unattractive nuances. Is it because we want to avoid our own faults that we point them out in others in a critical, sometimes authoritative manner?

I have yet to meet anyone who is not judgemental. There are just judments that are acceptable to other people and those that are not.

I can be judgemental about people with no common sense or who blindly follow rules.
One group I belong to were planning a day out and I suggested for lunch a popular pub made famous by a well known poet.
The leader was quite dubious and proceeded to phone her husband to check whether it would be suitable for a group of ladies!
At the same group we have not used the kitchen or had coffee because of covid because someone told us not to. I brought my own cup and teabag and don't think I infected anyone.

M0nica

The most judgemental are those who say they are not.

Hmmm, not at all sure about that.
Some will be, certainly, but others hold up their hands to it( as those on here who admit to being very judgemental.)
Others say they are not, and it will be true.
Think your one liner is too sweeping Monica on this subject.

I think I'm a lot less judgemental than I used to be. I hold my hands up and admit to having been a bit of a 'grammar nazi' on some internet forums in the past (I blame a lifetime's work spent correcting other people's spelling and grammar), but I just scroll past now, as you never know the reasons behind it.
Likewise, I used to be very guilty of dismissing people who claimed to have anxiety or depression as just needing to pull themselves together. How wrong was I? I feel awful about that now, as it was really only when the menopause struck, and I experienced both for myself, that I understood how debilitating both can be.

M0nica

The most judgemental are those who say they are not.

That’s very judgmental of you M0nica
I feel that I can confidently say this as the pair of us almost always have eerily similar views on everything

M0nica

The most judgemental are those who say they are not.

So true

The most judgemental are those who say they are not.

lots of people live within their own worlds
I may have already said this, I am rather tired

It's more than snobbery I think but it's quite hard to articulate what I mean. It's an utter disconnect from a large section of society. It's about not having any understanding of peoples lives.

What is actually wrong with the Mail?It gives an overview of news, cookery fashion and medical The puzzles are good too.

Snobbery kircubbin, that's why. But it's quite interesting that those who peer down their noses at certain newspapers are frequently the ones to be able to quote ad verbatim from it or copy and paste from it online.

Look up scare stories in the DM – google the DM's list of things that give you cancer
The DM can sometimes be good if it's just copying things without commenting, I've seen some interesting old photos but much stuff on there is racist, the online version and the facebook site are very racist, there is much that is hateful

I knew some people for several years and got on very well superficially, but when they moved away and I was invited to become Facebook friends oh gosh, so much hate, racism, islamophobia, anti climate change, things have never been bettter, I was horrified. I'd feel very different about them in person nowadays, suppose I had introduced them to someone they were hateful about
I've also been surprised how some seemingly sensible people have come out as covid conspiracy believers, anti-mask, anti-vax, anti lockdown, covid is just a bad dose of flu and children don't get it, it's not deadly, thank heavens I'll not run into them, I don't think I could cope with risking the subject coming up, I'd always thought they could weigh up the evidence and make sensible decisions.
I judge people who kill and abuse and do not think they have done wrong, I judge neonazis and those who knowingly and by choice do wrong, you can't be too tolerant. Obviously, you can be tolerant of things that don't hurt anyone, people do differently and it's not a criticism of those who have different opinions. But so many people say well we did so and so and it never did me any harm, but if you hurt people in any way that is wrong, you learn better and do better, some say you don't need to use proper restraints for children in cars, they never were strapped in, but we know better now and protect the vulnerable

What is actually wrong with the Mail?It gives an overview of news, cookery fashion and medical. The puzzles are good too.

There is little more judgemental than to make the judgement that people are ... judgemental- because they have different opinions to yours.

If someone tells me they get their information from the DM or Fox News- I shall say that I, personally, do not think either is a good source of factual information. Fair enough- and you are very free to disagree. End ... of.

MissAdventure people wearing cheap leggings somehow make me think of sausages...

kittylester

Quite!!! Well put Gg. I'm debating going and watching rubbish too. It's that sort of day really.

It's just started raining here so we are going to watch tv as well.

However, we never watch rubbish, only worthwhile intellectually stimulating programmes.
(judgemental comment, please note)

Actually, we're going to watch Brian Cox!

Lucca

Competitive cleaning …..

What is that?

MissAdventure

Me neither.
Especially if they wear leggings whilst doing so.

I’d better take mine off then ( not a pretty sight.)

Quite!!! Well put Gg. I'm debating going and watching rubbish too. It's that sort of day really.