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Xmas cards 2021?

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SuzieHi Wed 10-Nov-21 04:33:26

Wide awake so up in the night drinking tea & looking at gransnet- at 4.30am!
Last year we cut our Xmas card list drastically - only sent to aged/single friends & family.
Think with the Covid problems it all seemed so wasteful on paper, card, postage etc when charities were struggling so much.
We e mailed Xmas greetings to those we could & also explained we were making charity donations instead of cards. Didn’t want them to think we hadn’t just forgotten them or had run out of time! Sent a few free e cards too - to those I thought would like them.
Seems a bit sad to lose the tradition but will do the same this year.
What are other Grans doing?

Summerlove Wed 10-Nov-21 22:30:32

We send cards
I love it. Our list is incredibly long and costs a fortune, but it brings me joy

Ali08 Thu 11-Nov-21 09:28:52

I thought even letters and cards had to be weighed these days, I didn't realise you could still buy books of stamps! ?
Don't even ask where on earth that thought came from? But I did send to aged relatives last year, I just sent them off to the PO with him indoors with other stuff that had to go there, and assumed they'd all been weighed accordingly!!
I have just a few stragglers left up north, luckily quite favourite aunts and cousins and an old school friend that I do love to send cards to, with a little letter to let them know we are all still here and still thinking about them!
Then it's just close family and friends down here (Isle of Thanet, in Kent), especially the grandchildren.
I do love to receive actual cards, as someone said, they add the atmosphere to Christmas!

Worthingpatchworker Thu 11-Nov-21 10:43:26

We stopped sending cards a few years ago. Current technology overtook the need for them. They were supported by Royal Mail at their inception to get people using the postal system. The price of stamps was becoming too much.
Instead……we sponsor a dog for Guide Dogs for the Blind. Much better use of our money. All in the true spirit of Christmas.

Froglady Thu 11-Nov-21 10:45:10

I'm sending the usual amount of Christmas cards that I send every year - don't see the need to chsnge. I love getting cards through the post and hanging them up and making my home look festive.

highlanddreams Thu 11-Nov-21 10:47:36

I haven't done cards for many years now, I started getting really irritated by all the time spent writing them and then worrying about missing anyone out & I really didn't like them hanging about the house collecting dust either so I thought why do it and one year I just stopped. I speak to the people I care about all time now we've got the internet & phones etc so for me it's just not needed. I'm not a Christmas hater, I love it, I just don't like the card clutter & so when chatting about Christmas prep I would mention it & asked everyone not to send to me anymore as I didn't want them. It took a few year to get through to some but now I don't get any, hooray!

Larsonsmum Thu 11-Nov-21 10:50:22

I did the same as you last year SuzieHi. Then as this year has gone on and we have all continued to see fewer people, I have had second thoughts on it, and reinstated all on to my Christmas card list again!! I am going to send my cards out right at start of December, and put in a wee friendly note saying that on reflection I feel sending cards is almost now more important than it was. I donate a lot to charities near to my heart all year round and at Christmas and can still do that. People are really important in my life!!

RosieJ18 Thu 11-Nov-21 10:54:12

I,m sending cards and I love receiving cards .
It shows people that you are thinking of them even if it’s just at Christmas.
Families and friends tend not to have as much contact now , sending a card in this time of loneliness and isolation can mean everything.
A simple small , written note can brighten anyone’s day .

MeowWow Thu 11-Nov-21 10:56:38

I love to send and receive cards but this year I’m only going to send to those who took the time to send me one. It costs a lot of money for cards and postage and if some of my extended family can’t be bothered then it’s time for me to not be bothered as well.

jaylucy Thu 11-Nov-21 11:00:30

My list for Christmas cards has reduced mainly because several of my aunts (all widows) have died over the last few years and I only send cards to some of my cousins that I have always got on well with .
I did actually send out more cards last year - I hand delivered cards to all of the neighbours in my road - many have lived there as long as I have and several are now elderly so after the lockdown many felt isolated - just wanted to let them know that there was still life outside their 4 walls !

Quaver22 Thu 11-Nov-21 11:03:26

I love sending and receiving Christmas cards. I enjoy displaying them to decorate my living room. It is a good way of keeping in touch with people who have been an important part of my life, for example school friends, college mates and past colleagues. E cards just don’t give me the same pleasure.
As others have said, I also give to charities at Christmas and I buy charity cards. I would be very sad to see the tradition dying out.

Rosalyn69 Thu 11-Nov-21 11:08:27

I love Christmas cards. I like to put them on display in my study. It’s part of Christmas. Old fashioned I suppose.

Fronkydonky Thu 11-Nov-21 11:12:21

I will continue to send Christmas cards, fortunately the local scouts may be collecting and delivering again this year in my city I hope. This costs a fraction of what Royal Mail charge to post cards. Last year Scout post was halted due to the pandemic. I deliver by hand whilst walking our dog to local addresses. It makes my blood boil when folk use the excuse “ I’m donating to charity instead” I donate regularly to charities as well as sending cards. It’s possible to do both. I think folk need to know that they are still in our thoughts - especially during a global pandemic.

Riggie Thu 11-Nov-21 11:22:16

We cut down several years ago. It was by accident really. I was poorly in the lead up to Christmas so I suggested to DH that he should write the cards - especially to his side of the family and he decided not to bother!! I sent a few out to friends of mine (late but with an exolanation). There was a pointed comment from MiL who noticed but I told her to ask her son!!

We still do some, but not a lot. In fact I was sorting some stuff out yesterday and found some cards which I hope I'll be enough for this year so I don't have to buy any more!!

EmilyHarburn Thu 11-Nov-21 11:22:46

I have bought my 50 cards and stamps and am starting to write personal notes to the people I havde not manged to contact of see this year.

Oofy Thu 11-Nov-21 11:27:08

We still send a lot of cards. We moved around a lot with our jobs, as did former valued colleagues, and it’s often the one time of the year we catch up, rightly or wrongly. The postage rise is a nasty shock this year though; it’s a pity Royal Mail wouldn’t sell, say, half price special postage for Christmas cards, maybe if you posted them before the end of November but not deliver for a few weeks in time for Christmas, I reckon they would have a lot of takers, and possibly make even more than they do from standard postage rates.
For years I resisted doing a “round robin” printed letter to put in with the cards, feeling it was too impersonal, and could be “boasty” if you weren’t careful. Then I realised I enjoyed reading them (and being able to make out the writing), was writing more or less the same in each card and struggling to fit it all in on smaller cards, plus arthritis in my hands caught up with me. Now I cheerfully put one of my own in the card, address it to the individual, add in a couple of photos of family, with a short personal note at the end. Those that don’t like them needn’t read them, but I like to think my friends will!

IzzysGran Thu 11-Nov-21 11:28:00

Personally I love sending ..and receiving Christmas cards
Sorry an e-card doesn’t cut it for me
Also hate it when people say “I’m sending money to charity this year instead of cards” !
Just give to charity, if you don’t want to do cards don’t bother..?
It’s all personal choice.. ?

Oofy Thu 11-Nov-21 11:30:13

I saved cards received for a few years, thinking it would be nice to make a collage screen from old cards as a Christmas decoration, still have a couple of IKEA bags of cards in the loft with that in mind. Might as well recycle them, don’t see me getting around to doing that any time soon.

geeljay Thu 11-Nov-21 11:31:02

Since I lost my wife, the number of cards I send has been reduced drastically. But I do phone most of them, to have a chat and wish them a greeting of the season. Seems to be more welcomed.

nipsmum Thu 11-Nov-21 11:45:20

I'm waiting on Christmas cards in my Tesco order. I will send some. Unfortunately friends are getting less and less as I get older but there are still a few I try to keep in touch with even if it's only at Christmas.

Theoddbird Thu 11-Nov-21 11:50:35

I don't send many cards but will continue doing so. I always buy charity cards and always with a dove of peace on...have done that for over 40 years now.

Happysexagenarian Thu 11-Nov-21 11:53:02

I'll be buying them, writing them (with letters), and sending them as usual this year. Charity cards for the general ones, and special ones for the family and close friends. I printed out my card list last night, sad to see it's dwindled to about 45 now, a far cry from the days when I sent over 100 each year. Now I just have to get to the shop to buy them! Yes, it's expensive but it's only once a year.

I usually buy all my Christmas Cards and the birthday & anniversary cards I will need for the following 12 months all at the same time. I write a list and check them off as I choose them. It's a scary bill at the checkout, but at least I know I won't have to make last minute dashes to the shops for a card.

I really don't like e-cards. I have one relative who sends me e-cards, he's in poor health and can't shop for cards. I always send him a nice family card. Apart from that I never see him or hear from him!

Bijou Thu 11-Nov-21 11:55:40

I still send cards to let people know that I am still alive! Also if I don’t receive a card from anyone I assume they are dead.!

heatherjw Thu 11-Nov-21 12:02:19

I do send less cards these days and those I send are either Charity cards or ones I make. I feel it is an opportunity to keep maintain contact with those friends I see infrequently. I add a letter and include photos of the family and grandchildren as I am reluctant to post images of the grandchildren on social media

Chimaera Thu 11-Nov-21 12:06:59

I'm sitting here, making ours! About 50 of them. I go to craft classes, so I might as well put the skills gained to good use. Keeps me occupied for a while!

Applegran Thu 11-Nov-21 12:07:30

I always send charity cards and will continue to do that - though the list is long and it takes ages to write them all! but for me, its worth it. I do receive quite a lot of cards, but don't tally them to see who I sent to and who did or didn't reply. Its a way of keeping in touch and sending love and good wishes, so I don't want to stop. I do anyway give to charity - and make a special donation to a homeless charity at Christmas.