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sunfield91 Fri 03-Dec-21 11:29:58

I had to have a new hip replacement on 23rd of November,As I live on my own all theorganising was done by me.
My rescue pug aged 11 went to stay with the lady who runs the charity that I got her from, she phoned me on Tuesday gone to say that unfortunately Lola had died in her sleep, it wasn’t unexpected although I was very upset,as she was 11 with some health issues which the charity lady
was aware of
This week I sent from Wxxtrxxx, ( other supermarkets are available )a bouquet of flowers to thank her for caring for Lola.I had an email from the supermarket to say they have been left in a safe place i.e.the porch.
My dilemma is that she hasn’t sent a little message to say they had arrived et cetera, I don’t want to appear crass by asking her did they arrive,what can I do please? I also don’t want to appear crass by seeming to not have sent anything
I do have cause to message her shortly because she sent Lola for cremation and I need to pick up the ashes (this is not my done-thing with pets but she did it in the best of interest)
I really do want to know did they arrive because I don’t want them to been stolen off the porch although they would have to go through her garden gate first. Please can someone help me dealing with this issue in a discreet way. Thank you so much

Dottygran59 Fri 03-Dec-21 11:32:57

So sorry to hear of Lola's passing - how about dropping her a text to thank her once again, to reiterate how much it meant to you and just to check that she received the flowers that you were told were left in the porch?

nanna8 Fri 03-Dec-21 11:41:10

I’d just ring her and ask and explain that you were worried they might have been pinched.

allsortsofbags Fri 03-Dec-21 11:47:12

flowers I agree with nanna8 ring her to ask if she has got the flowers as any number of things might have happened to them.

DanniRae Fri 03-Dec-21 12:04:48

Yes I would get in touch and ask her if she received the flowers. You don't need this worry after losing your little dog and your operation. Here are some flowers for you.

Teacheranne Fri 03-Dec-21 12:09:04

Why not simply ask her if she liked the flowers when you collect the ashes? You might find that easier face to face than to phone to text her just to ask about the flowers.

sodapop Fri 03-Dec-21 12:49:49

I'm so sorry you lost your little dog in this way sunfield that is really hard. You have my sympathy.
I don't see a problem in texting or emailing the lady to say you were concerned the flowers had not been delivered and thanking her again for her care of Lola.
thanks

sunfield91 Sat 04-Dec-21 10:51:02

I messaged her in the end there wasn’t a problem either with her by me asking and they had turned up
Thanks to all

ValerieF Sat 04-Dec-21 15:35:41

Ah that’s good. Some people aren’t great with their “thanks” but am sure she appreciated them. My worst nightmare is my neighbors cat, who is old with heart problems, may die while she is away for Christmas. I’ve agreed to look after him but am dreading it too.

So sorry for the pain of losing your beloved pet. Hope you are recovering from that as well as your op

Nana3 Mon 06-Dec-21 14:59:20

The same happened to me with a gift of flowers from m&s to thank a friend.
I asked my friend about them as I knew she would have thanked me if they had arrived. It was a bit embarrassing though.
I got no joy from m&s so I went into the shop and a very helpful assistant sorted it for me.
Very sorry about your dogflowers