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Shelflife Tue 21-Dec-21 23:47:48

My son is getting married in March. I am of course giving thought to my outfit. However I have not been keen to go shopping during the pandemic! Lockdown is probably round the corner now so shops will be closed. I am in my 70s and have taken great care during this difficult time. My daughter married 7 years ago and I bought a lovely outfit , felt a million dollars on the big day. I am tempted to wear it again , it does still fit although a few pounds off might be a good idea! Should I wear it again or is that inappropriate? My DH thinks it is an ok thing to do and I considering doing that? I would appreciate your thoughts please.

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 30-Dec-21 12:53:40

Thanks so much for coming back! You have your son’s confirmation of what many of us have said. Wear it with confidence and pride!

Shelflife Thu 30-Dec-21 12:11:54

An update, have spoken to my son about wearing the outfit again he said " mum you looked amazing in that outfit , yes please do wear it " So probably will , although I may still have a look around. Don't think I will find anything nicer though ! It is very classical , long skirt, top and beautiful jacket all in the same quality material.

harrigran Fri 24-Dec-21 08:36:44

I would wear your outfit again, if it fits and you are comfortable in it, go for it.
I regard clothes in cost per wear and some of mine bought for weddings were way too expensive not to be worn again.
I can't imagine people studying previous wedding photographs and commenting on outfits.

Nanniejude Fri 24-Dec-21 07:40:54

Sorry but I disagree, I wouldn’t dream of wearing the same outfit! Your mother of the bride, hopefully once in a life time. Shops are open or buy on line. You could always try selling your previous outfit to help fund a new one!

Doug1 Thu 23-Dec-21 23:58:28

One of my daughters got married a few years ago and the outfit was expensive and only worn the once but there is no way my other daughter who is getting married in May would want me to wear the same outfit. Luckily she has already told me that she wants to pay for the new outfit. So looking forward to choosing something new as the venues are totally different

Kryptonite Thu 23-Dec-21 21:56:22

Yes. Wear it.

Shizam Thu 23-Dec-21 20:02:27

It’s a big yes from me to wear it again! Why not? Makes you feel good, so you will feel happy on the day. ?

Daftbag1 Thu 23-Dec-21 19:56:40

Why not ask your son, and maybe buy a new pair of shoes or bag which will make the outfit look totally different!

GrannySquare Thu 23-Dec-21 19:46:27

Princess Royal et al wear the same outfits for several formal occasions over the years. It’s good enough for her…

Caro57 Thu 23-Dec-21 19:41:40

Re-wear it but change your accessories, different coloured shoes, bag, hat etc.

Riverwalk Thu 23-Dec-21 18:23:40

Personally I wouldn't wear the same outfit to the weddings of my sons - any other occasions would be fine.

But don't you need to discuss this with your future DIL? You don't want to be upsetting her mother by turning up in the same colour!

Granny23 Thu 23-Dec-21 17:29:14

I noted the comment above about what the Dad would wear and realised that my DH wore his kilt + accessories to every special occasion we attended eg. Weddings, Graduations, even a Royal Garden Party and looked wonderful, every time. I have 3 'posh frocks' that I love to wear given the chance and have worn many times with different accessories. Under pressure from colleagues and relatives. I bought an outfit specially for said Garden Party and felt uncomfortable in it all (very hot) day, particularly the stiletto heels which kept sinking into the lawns. Still wish I had worn one of my existing favourites, instead of something that was just not 'me'.

KathrynP Thu 23-Dec-21 16:56:55

When my sister and I got married in the same year, 2000, my Mum was in a wheelchair and shopping was difficult but she bought a beautiful matching skirt and jacket in plain pink and wore a contrasting floral blouse with it and a matching hat for my wedding in May She looked really elegant. At the next wedding in September she wore the same jacket. hat and shoes/handbag but changed to a contrasting pleated skirt picking out the pink with a plain cream top and a scarf to match the skirt. Again very elegant and typical of Mum’s thrift. No one said a word. You can always claim you are doing your bit for the environment as they are saying we should keep our clothes longer and not buy new!

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 23-Dec-21 16:48:31

Very well said Meryl.

MerylStreep Thu 23-Dec-21 16:40:26

4allweknow
Style and good taste never go out of fashion.

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 23-Dec-21 16:37:41

I’m being entirely honest. I would be delighted to have the opportunity to wear my lovely dress and jacket again. I couldn’t care less if people have seen it before. At this rate of wearing it just once cost per wear doesn’t bear thinking about.

win Thu 23-Dec-21 16:32:51

I think you are all missing the point here, this is her daughters and sons wedding we are talking about not just wearing it again to another occasion. Children’s weddings are very special occasions and no royal would wear the same outfit for these occasions. I am quite certain. I wore a lovely dress for my sons wedding and have worn it again and again, but would never wear it again for my daughters wedding if I had one. Not unless I had a completely new take on it like a jacket of a different colour with matching Assessories. I am really surprised at your answers and wonder if you are really being honest with yourselves!

crazygranny Thu 23-Dec-21 16:30:30

Your outfit will show up on both sets of wedding photos - not the best idea. Don't spend a fortune on something new, though. You can hire a really swanky outfit for a really reasonable amount.

queenofsaanich69 Thu 23-Dec-21 15:52:13

Definitely wear it,marvellous it still fits,that avoids going into shops,saves money,also it might be hard to find one you like as much,now you have something nice to look forward to next year.

inishowen Thu 23-Dec-21 15:13:17

I wore the same jacket to my son and daughter's wedding, with a different dress. To be honest no one cared or noticed. I say go for it.

Daisydaisydaisy Thu 23-Dec-21 15:06:23

Good ideas from Violet .smile

Mamma7 Thu 23-Dec-21 15:05:12

I loved my outfit for D1 wedding several years ago and would love to wear it when/if D2 gets married. I would have to run it past D2 first though, I’m not sure what she’d say, hopefully ‘yes it’s fine’.

Joesoap Thu 23-Dec-21 15:00:47

Another vote for wear it again.
You will feel good again, and enjoy your Sons Wedding, he will not notice or care I am sure.
Have a lovely day.

tictacnana Thu 23-Dec-21 14:25:48

Wear it again. Lots of ways to make it different. I can’t wear hats but there are lovely ones out there and get shoes to match and have fancy gel nails. Have a lovely day !

lemsip Thu 23-Dec-21 14:04:13

after all said and done this thread has said it all by now.