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Grandson has used my card for games….?‍♀️

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Shinamae Thu 30-Dec-21 23:16:18

I gave my nine-year-old grandson a reconditioned iPad for Christmas I also put some games on it for him and did it with my card had a huge discussion about it and the fact that he had better not do anything with my card because I would know and he would be in such trouble. Anyway today I had a text from my bank about unusual activity on my card went to have a look, oh my God I couldn’t believe it, two lots of £34.90,no make that three and several others including one for £89 something. ?‍♀️?‍♀️?‍♀️ I rang the bank and it’s not actually fraudulent but they are going to try and get me my money back they did explain that sometimes these kids get into these games and don’t know they’re racking up a big amount of money till the end of the game. I am annoyed with my grandson but I’m bloody furious with myself,anyway I’ve got to ring the disputes people at my bank tomorrow. I have not seen Oscar yet and when I do I will not rip into him but I will explain how disappointed I am and that I will never buy him anything for his iPad again..

Hithere Tue 04-Jan-22 20:24:56

We all make mistakes, the key is how big or small the repercussions are

Peasblossom Tue 04-Jan-22 20:20:10

Never made a mistake violetsky? Done something you regretted? Learned from a mistake?

That’s just being human. It doesn’t deserve the invective that’s been poured out on the OP.

VioletSky Tue 04-Jan-22 20:12:44

Why is worrying about children's safety on the internet so terrible?

Chewbacca Tue 04-Jan-22 20:07:54

They’re on a mission to save grandchildren

And making an arse of themselves into the bargain!

Peasblossom Tue 04-Jan-22 19:22:14

They’re on a mission to save grandchildren ?

It’s too late for our children because they’ve already grown up (into decent, caring people) in spite of us?

rafichagran Tue 04-Jan-22 19:09:01

Thankyou Calistemom you are right of course. It is very sad that a younger Mother feels the need to come on here and be disrespectful.

Calistemon Tue 04-Jan-22 19:01:58

I do wonder why young Mums come on GN, just to sneer and disparage those who are mostly older people.
Does it make them feel superior? Are they out of their depth on MN?

I don't understand it.

V3ra Tue 04-Jan-22 18:58:13

... adults who are ignorant regarding technology ...

Sometimes we don't actually know that we're ignorant, until a problem arises.
Then we learn, and can avoid a similar problem in the future.
And we ask other people if they were already aware of this problem, and if not they can learn from our experience as well.

Calistemon Tue 04-Jan-22 18:55:50

Bibbity You are so pompous and patronising, calling people uneducated even if it is about technology is rude and disrespectful.

Just laugh at such stupid remarks, rafichagran

Honestly, I hope no-one takes such remarks seriously, just feel sorry for whoever posts such stuff.

Bibbity Tue 04-Jan-22 18:50:08

It feeds the bitterness of my soul!

rafichagran Tue 04-Jan-22 18:48:16

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Bibbity Tue 04-Jan-22 18:33:56

? here's the cookie

I to have worked all day with my kids home.....what the heck I get on as well ?

rafichagran Tue 04-Jan-22 18:29:12

Chewbacca

^Believe me I pity your children.^

A comment that's beneath contempt.

I am so so sorry your lives are so incomplete.

And yet here you are again; obviously with little else to do yourself! grin

Bibbity you really are the gift that keeps on giving, I have been at work all day, I have managed to help and sort out a big problem for someone, so no my life is not incomplete, in fact I feel very satisfied at a good outcome. I feel very happy and complete.

Bibbity Tue 04-Jan-22 18:23:21

I don't.
I am 'making dinner' and sneaking Christmas Chocs while my kids have a nerf battle.

It's really simple. Know better. Do better. Technology is ever changing.

Chewbacca Tue 04-Jan-22 18:18:37

Believe me I pity your children.

A comment that's beneath contempt.

I am so so sorry your lives are so incomplete.

And yet here you are again; obviously with little else to do yourself! grin

Bibbity Tue 04-Jan-22 18:16:30

Again how you interpret text is not of my concern or care. The message is there. The uneducated comments were wrong. The cancelling of the card was unnecessary and adults who are ignorant regarding technology should not be handing any over to young children. It is dangerous and the defensive comments regarding my posts rather than the self reflection speaks volumes.

To be so loud and so wrong is quiet impressive.

rafichagran Tue 04-Jan-22 18:12:33

Bibbity

Oh FGS get over it.
That is after many many posts of explaining myself. Believe me I pity your children.

I wanted to help the OP. But people here must be so bored recently they just want to find offence and play the victim where ever possible.

I am so so sorry your lives are so incomplete.

Dont pity mine, they are successful and respectful, they dont feel the need to be patronising and pompous.

MissAdventure Tue 04-Jan-22 18:06:20

grin

Bibbity Tue 04-Jan-22 18:05:11

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rafichagran Tue 04-Jan-22 17:50:34

Bibbity

Again. I was in no way outraged. I just did not know why OP would do that when it was completely unnecessary.
Simply highlights how uneducated some posters are regarding technology.

Bibbity You are so pompous and patronising, calling people uneducated even if it is about technology is rude and disrespectful.
My daughter is a very well respected journalist who is very knowledgeable , but if she posted about people the way you do I would be ashamed. I would feel she was not bought up properly and I had done a bad job.
You sound very nasty and quite uneducated yourself, all you have done is try to make the OP feel bad. Go on repeat again I dont care what people think of me.

Doodledog Mon 03-Jan-22 23:04:54

Well, we all live and learn . . . .

Calistemon Mon 03-Jan-22 22:44:23

Oh, Doodledog that reminded me of when my caring, sharing DD lent a phone to a boyfriend (who became an ex-boyfriend thank goodness).
The b**ger still owes her for the bill he ran up on it .....

GrannyRose15 Mon 03-Jan-22 22:38:08

My grandson found my old phone which I was not aware could still connect to the Internet. He had tuned into Youtube for three mornings in a row before he finally said to me. "I like coming to your house because I can go on Youtube, Mummy and Daddy don't let me at home." It was a wake-up call for me I can tell you. From then on I have done nothing concerning technology with him without first asking his Dad. It is far too easy to make a mistake and I don't know enough to be aware of all the pitfalls. Fortunately no harm was done.
Put it down to experience Shinamae and learn from it.

Luckygirl3 Mon 03-Jan-22 22:36:11

He's 9 - too young for all this.

Take the iPad away. Explain to him why.

Shinamae Mon 03-Jan-22 22:26:45

Doodledog!! Sorry…?‍♀️