Grandson has used my card for games….?‍♀️

Why are you annoyed at your grandson when you failed as the adult?

You did not protect your card and make it so that he could not use your card without you entering the details.

Sometimes it is not clear that the "purchase" in the game is real. That is what the games do to generate sales.

I have explained I am annoyed but do not blame him and I am annoyed because I did give him some lengthy information of why he should do nothing that he’s got to buy anything but yes I genuinely except it was my fault failing as an adult!! Nevertheless he listen to my talk and seem to take it all in but I accept that these companies do have ways of pulling youngsters in and the cost is not evident until the end!

He’s 9 years old for goodness sake.
Not sure why your bank should be helping you to get your money back. From your post you clearly knew this could happen and you still went ahead and did not set any spending limits on the games before handing over the iPad.

You did say you were annoyed at him. Again it's wrong to place any blame or ill feeling on him. The card should never have been active.

you should have dealt with his parents, no good being annoyed with a nine year old child.
you are right to be annoyed with yourself and I bet the parents are annoyed with you too.

Shinamae so lucky you found out before your direct debits bounced, I'm glad the bank alerted you. I'm sorry your grandson didn't understand he was paying with real money - what age are the games for? I used to run the youth club for 8-12 year olds and some of the kids told me their parents allowed them to play the 16+ games which did involve being on line and money. Luckily we didn't have wifi there at the time.

Such a shock for you, I hope you can get it sorted tomorrow.

I've had a shock too, but not serious like yours, but my person is 70 years older than yours! I gave my best friend's partner my old Kindle, I thought he might like to read some of the books I've purchased. I have left my account details on it because if I delete them the books disappear, I explained clearly when I gave it to him it was for reading only - but when I went on tonight to buy a new book for mine, he's put his name on my account! Awkward, I'm going to have to ask him to delete it.

Best of luck tomorrow.

I’ll just leave my head above the parapet, no hardhat and just expect the stones!

Shandy57

Shinamae so lucky you found out before your direct debits bounced, I'm glad the bank alerted you. I'm sorry your grandson didn't understand he was paying with real money - what age are the games for? I used to run the youth club for 8-12 year olds and some of the kids told me their parents allowed them to play the 16+ games which did involve being on line and money. Luckily we didn't have wifi there at the time.

Such a shock for you, I hope you can get it sorted tomorrow.

I've had a shock too, but not serious like yours, but my person is 70 years older than yours! I gave my best friend's partner my old Kindle, I thought he might like to read some of the books I've purchased. I have left my account details on it because if I delete them the books disappear, I explained clearly when I gave it to him it was for reading only - but when I went on tonight to buy a new book for mine, he's put his name on my account! Awkward, I'm going to have to ask him to delete it.

Best of luck tomorrow.

Thank you Shandy, I don’t think I am guilty of anything too bad just perhaps some naivete which I will now learn from. I’m quite sure I am not the only person this has happened to.. hope your roof is getting sorted soon ???

1. Did the parents know you were buying those games for him?
There are so many free games out there.

2. You are disappointed at a 9 year old because you chose to put inappropriate information and responsibility on his shoulders - your failure, not his
Total lack of common sense on your part

I hope that iPad has the proper parental controls - basic Internet safety

The issue is that when adults as naive with technology and hand it to children they can be placed in danger.

Are you aware of any of the games have any chat features? Did you screen them?

Adults need to be aware of their limitations with technology and ensure they are educated and up to date before ever trusting a child with such a massive liability.

Years ago we allowed one of ours to play games on our tablet. Next thing we know, there was a purchase for $100 of Smurfberries.

To be honest, he may not even know he was buying things. Sometimes there are pop up in games that say something along the lines of "do you want more Smurfberries?" and they click on yes, not knowing that they are actually purchasing them.

This is a lesson learned for all of you.

"Thank you Shandy, I don’t think I am guilty of anything too bad just perhaps some naivete which I will now learn from."

First, if you were my parent and you lecture my child about this, you would hear about it very clearly from me.

You are terribly irresponsible and clueless about the dangers of the internet.
Yet worse, you seem to point the finger to a 9 year old to minimize your actions

Well done grandma!

freedomfromthepast

Years ago we allowed one of ours to play games on our tablet. Next thing we know, there was a purchase for $100 of Smurfberries.

To be honest, he may not even know he was buying things. Sometimes there are pop up in games that say something along the lines of "do you want more Smurfberries?" and they click on yes, not knowing that they are actually purchasing them.

This is a lesson learned for all of you.

I think this is what happened with my grandson and I’m pretty sure he didn’t know what he was getting into hence I cannot be too annoyed but I can still have a conversation with him about it.

Just remove the credit card information from the device and call it a day

Do not involve your gs in this - this is your mess to clean, not his

Hithere

"Thank you Shandy, I don’t think I am guilty of anything too bad just perhaps some naivete which I will now learn from."

First, if you were my parent and you lecture my child about this, you would hear about it very clearly from me.

You are terribly irresponsible and clueless about the dangers of the internet.
Yet worse, you seem to point the finger to a 9 year old to minimize your actions

Well done grandma!

And you obviously are a paragon of virtue who never puts a foot wrong about anything, well done you!!

No, of course I am not.

I am accountable for my actions at least

Hithere

No, of course I am not.

I am accountable for my actions at least

And I recognise my failings in this and I’m going to put it right!!

You need some parental controls on the device, you should be able to Google these by searching the specific device. This will mean he will need a pasword to access anything financial and he won't be able to access anything inappropriate.

Don't be annoyed with him, these games are designed to look like it's not real money.

Try contacting the games themselves through his account as they will usually refund whatever in game currency hasn't been spent

My older grandson did the same to his other nan, and my younger one gave my card details to his "friend" who promptly had a spend up!
The older one has said he'd be too scared to ever do it to me, and the younger one cried because he trusted his "friend".

Please please please do not talk to your gs. Please!

I seem to be in a parallel universe tonight.
Why all the high drama??

VioletSky

You need some parental controls on the device, you should be able to Google these by searching the specific device. This will mean he will need a pasword to access anything financial and he won't be able to access anything inappropriate.

Don't be annoyed with him, these games are designed to look like it's not real money.

Try contacting the games themselves through his account as they will usually refund whatever in game currency hasn't been spent

Sensible advice, nicely given, thank you violet sky ?

When my 9 yr old grandson ran up a bill of over £200 for my son he was in trouble. He knew he shouldn’t have done it. He’s 9 not 3. All these excuses - one minute children should be treated as grown ups and have their views heard etc, the next they aren’t responsible for their bad behaviour. I’d be cross if my grandson did that to me but I wouldn’t have my card details on there tbh.

Please please please do not talk to your gs. Please!

Good grief!!!