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Grandson has used my card for games….?‍♀️

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Shinamae Thu 30-Dec-21 23:16:18

I gave my nine-year-old grandson a reconditioned iPad for Christmas I also put some games on it for him and did it with my card had a huge discussion about it and the fact that he had better not do anything with my card because I would know and he would be in such trouble. Anyway today I had a text from my bank about unusual activity on my card went to have a look, oh my God I couldn’t believe it, two lots of £34.90,no make that three and several others including one for £89 something. ?‍♀️?‍♀️?‍♀️ I rang the bank and it’s not actually fraudulent but they are going to try and get me my money back they did explain that sometimes these kids get into these games and don’t know they’re racking up a big amount of money till the end of the game. I am annoyed with my grandson but I’m bloody furious with myself,anyway I’ve got to ring the disputes people at my bank tomorrow. I have not seen Oscar yet and when I do I will not rip into him but I will explain how disappointed I am and that I will never buy him anything for his iPad again..

Bibbity Fri 31-Dec-21 10:21:59

OP does not need to cancel the card. It has not been stolen or compromised.

mumofmadboys Fri 31-Dec-21 10:01:14

Have you cancelled that card with your bank Shinmae?

Shinamae Fri 31-Dec-21 09:34:28

MissA and MMB……..thank you ????

Maggiemaybe Fri 31-Dec-21 00:14:22

No judging from me, Shinamae. You’ve made a mistake, which you’ve acknowledged. None of us is perfect.

Don’t be hard on yourself. We’re not all familiar with the way things are paid for during games, and that applies to adults as well as children. I have occasionally played a game with my grandsons on my phone (before I’m jumped on as well, it was with the full knowledge and consent of their parents) and have seen how easy it would be to click on something that you’re immediately charged for.

I think I can say with certainty that if I or anyone else had been kind enough to buy an iPad for any of my DGS, their parents would have seen it as their responsibility to check that all the necessary controls were in place. They’d be annoyed with themselves in these circumstance, certainly not with the donor.

I hope you can get your money back.

MissAdventure Fri 31-Dec-21 00:10:00

That's good.
I didn't think I would be refunded, but my bank were very good and knew what had happened, as soon as I started to tell them.

Shinamae Fri 31-Dec-21 00:08:14

MissAdventure

The bank refunded me, shinamae.
The games person strung me along for every spare minute I had, explaining over and again the problem, then after about 3 weeks told me they wouldn't refund.

I’m initially speaking to the bank tomorrow and they will advise me from there….

MissAdventure Fri 31-Dec-21 00:08:12

My grandson spends more time chatting than playing.

Bibbity Fri 31-Dec-21 00:07:24

If you search the product you have and add something like "parental controls"
How to make an iPad child safe etc you should be able to read articles or watch YouTube videos. Also make sure no game has any chat function etc

Bibbity Fri 31-Dec-21 00:06:20

tickingbird

When my 9 yr old grandson ran up a bill of over £200 for my son he was in trouble. He knew he shouldn’t have done it. He’s 9 not 3. All these excuses - one minute children should be treated as grown ups and have their views heard etc, the next they aren’t responsible for their bad behaviour. I’d be cross if my grandson did that to me but I wouldn’t have my card details on there tbh.

You think listening to a child's opinions and voice is the same as giving them an item thy poses a danger to them?

MissAdventure Fri 31-Dec-21 00:05:16

The bank refunded me, shinamae.
The games person strung me along for every spare minute I had, explaining over and again the problem, then after about 3 weeks told me they wouldn't refund.

Shinamae Fri 31-Dec-21 00:04:31

Hithere

Please please please do not talk to your gs. Please!

Of course I’m going to speak to him about it and explain what has happened probably through not a fault of his own but I need to show him and hopefully he will learn from it as will I

tickingbird Fri 31-Dec-21 00:04:09

Please please please do not talk to your gs. Please!

Good grief!!!

tickingbird Fri 31-Dec-21 00:02:55

When my 9 yr old grandson ran up a bill of over £200 for my son he was in trouble. He knew he shouldn’t have done it. He’s 9 not 3. All these excuses - one minute children should be treated as grown ups and have their views heard etc, the next they aren’t responsible for their bad behaviour. I’d be cross if my grandson did that to me but I wouldn’t have my card details on there tbh.

Shinamae Fri 31-Dec-21 00:02:32

VioletSky

You need some parental controls on the device, you should be able to Google these by searching the specific device. This will mean he will need a pasword to access anything financial and he won't be able to access anything inappropriate.

Don't be annoyed with him, these games are designed to look like it's not real money.

Try contacting the games themselves through his account as they will usually refund whatever in game currency hasn't been spent

Sensible advice, nicely given, thank you violet sky ?

MissAdventure Fri 31-Dec-21 00:02:04

I seem to be in a parallel universe tonight.
Why all the high drama??

Hithere Fri 31-Dec-21 00:00:44

Please please please do not talk to your gs. Please!

MissAdventure Fri 31-Dec-21 00:00:30

My older grandson did the same to his other nan, and my younger one gave my card details to his "friend" who promptly had a spend up!
The older one has said he'd be too scared to ever do it to me, and the younger one cried because he trusted his "friend".

VioletSky Fri 31-Dec-21 00:00:28

You need some parental controls on the device, you should be able to Google these by searching the specific device. This will mean he will need a pasword to access anything financial and he won't be able to access anything inappropriate.

Don't be annoyed with him, these games are designed to look like it's not real money.

Try contacting the games themselves through his account as they will usually refund whatever in game currency hasn't been spent

Shinamae Fri 31-Dec-21 00:00:06

Hithere

No, of course I am not.

I am accountable for my actions at least

And I recognise my failings in this and I’m going to put it right!!

Hithere Thu 30-Dec-21 23:56:26

No, of course I am not.

I am accountable for my actions at least

Shinamae Thu 30-Dec-21 23:55:14

Hithere

"Thank you Shandy, I don’t think I am guilty of anything too bad just perhaps some naivete which I will now learn from."

First, if you were my parent and you lecture my child about this, you would hear about it very clearly from me.

You are terribly irresponsible and clueless about the dangers of the internet.
Yet worse, you seem to point the finger to a 9 year old to minimize your actions

Well done grandma!

And you obviously are a paragon of virtue who never puts a foot wrong about anything, well done you!!

Hithere Thu 30-Dec-21 23:53:36

Just remove the credit card information from the device and call it a day

Do not involve your gs in this - this is your mess to clean, not his

Shinamae Thu 30-Dec-21 23:52:23

freedomfromthepast

Years ago we allowed one of ours to play games on our tablet. Next thing we know, there was a purchase for $100 of Smurfberries.

To be honest, he may not even know he was buying things. Sometimes there are pop up in games that say something along the lines of "do you want more Smurfberries?" and they click on yes, not knowing that they are actually purchasing them.

This is a lesson learned for all of you.

I think this is what happened with my grandson and I’m pretty sure he didn’t know what he was getting into hence I cannot be too annoyed but I can still have a conversation with him about it.

Hithere Thu 30-Dec-21 23:50:59

"Thank you Shandy, I don’t think I am guilty of anything too bad just perhaps some naivete which I will now learn from."

First, if you were my parent and you lecture my child about this, you would hear about it very clearly from me.

You are terribly irresponsible and clueless about the dangers of the internet.
Yet worse, you seem to point the finger to a 9 year old to minimize your actions

Well done grandma!

freedomfromthepast Thu 30-Dec-21 23:48:05

Years ago we allowed one of ours to play games on our tablet. Next thing we know, there was a purchase for $100 of Smurfberries.

To be honest, he may not even know he was buying things. Sometimes there are pop up in games that say something along the lines of "do you want more Smurfberries?" and they click on yes, not knowing that they are actually purchasing them.

This is a lesson learned for all of you.