Sleeping alone

I have slept alone since my DH died 6 years ago. I miss him, but it's lovely to have the bed to myself. No more snores to keep me awake, or fighting for the bedclothes, and no more freezing feet. No more waking when he made one of his numerous trips to the bathroom. I can go to bed and get up when I like, and read as long as I like. My worst experience was when he lashed out, in his sleep, and belted me in the mouth. Heaven knows what he was dreaming about because he usually lay like a log, but he split my tooth and it had to be removed.
I will never share my bed with anyone, ever again!

Another one here that has a double bed but sleeps like I'm hanging on edge of a pricpice.

Dh was poorly so had to let the double bed go, I had single bed in small bedroom, Dh had a hospital bed.

When he died I couldn't sleep I that roomfor about 2 yrs, but did move back I along with my single bed, that was 7 yrs, ago.

Around 18 months ago I hummed n arred about going back to a double,But I still cannot sleep in the middle or on Dh side. I seem to sleep on what feels like about 12 inch of the mattress! It's like I have to still leave room for someone.

DH’s snoring heralded the call to sleeping alone, a good few years ago now. Best thing I ever did, would never share my lovely bed with anyone again.

Kim19 I'm the same, still sleep on one side, not the middle. Means I can reach the radio. My husband has a double in another bedroom. Been like this for years now. Works well for us as don't sleep well, his snoring, going to loo, my internal thermostat, illness. If we ever go to a hotel, it's always twin beds now. Good decision for us and can read, listen to radio etc in peace.

Separate rooms since he finished work at 50 and I had to set alarm for 5 to get up at 5:30 ( pain killers to get out of bed) so I could go to work at 5:45. He snores horrendously and refused to be in bed before 1 a.m. So I consider he instigated the change which has been permanent for 26 years. I would never…ever share a bed again…. even though I retired five years ago I still wake at 5 and am up at 6. I love my aloneness… which is not the same as lonely!

Apart from my \Teddy.

Ohhh, I love being in my own bedroom and in my own bed alone. For 15 years now. To myself, it is magic.

I would love separate rooms - DH won’t entertain the idea so I make do with ear plugs for the snoring and perch myself on the edge as I cannot bear being touched as he twitches in his sleep

My husband died at home in a hospital bed. I really miss sharing a bed as ,we did before his final illness ,for 55 years. We were both very sound ,non snoring sleepers so we were fortunate.

I’ve never enjoyed sleeping with another grown up. I’m fine sharing with my child though. The current OH gets up v early and goes to sleep v early so I can’t see us sharing a bed again. Far too disturbing.

Kim19 me too. I start off in the middle but when I wake up I'm back on the side again! I've been single 10 years, I guess some things don't change!

I sleep alone. I was a shift worker for most of my adult. life. When I met my husband, we tried to make it work but he slept worse with my coming to bed much later or getting up way earlier. After I had shoulder surgery, it sort of evolved into separate rooms. I'm liking it and can't imagine ever sleeping with anyone again.

Sashabel

I love having my double bed to myself. Since my partner and I split up 6 years ago sleeping alone has been a godsend. It was one of the many things that improved in my life when he finally left. I could never share a bed with anyone again.

This is exactly the same for me! I've been single for 4 years and don't wish to share my bed ever again!

Kim 19, I laughed out loud. Did you and yourself wind up arguing about it? Do you have a third personality who could serve as an arbiter?

I've had horrendous night flushes for years. We both get up at 6am for work and sleeping together meant that neither of us got much sleep at all. Hubby used to say it was like sleeping next to a blast furnace and I was constantly rolling around the bed and turning pillows looking for a cool space. I was wary of moving out of "our bed" to be honest, but it's been the best thing I've done. Hubby sleeps all night long and i have loads of cool space to move around in. We do still visit now and again lol

I'm another who is quite heartened to read all these replies and realise that I'm far from the only one! My OH gets up at stupid o'clock (runs a business which necessitates this) and I snore really badly (apparently!) so it means this way, at least we both get a decent sleep. It does make things a bit strange when we go on holiday and realise we have to share a bed again though!

No, but I wish I did, for all of the above reasons

Phew! I read some of the comments after I posted above. I'm glad I'm not the only widow who does this

Separate here though not by choice. My husband passed away unexpectedly in 2018.

I share it now with a memory bear made of my late husband clothes and his favourite knitted jacket.

No I am not planning on replacing my husband either. No one can hold a candle to him and never will before anyone asks.

I'm happy to sleep alone. I wouldn't even share it with our dog as some do.

I find as I still sleep on my side of the bed I use my husband side to dump stuff on a night like my handbag ?

Yes, we do, not my partner's choice, but he snores and I'm a terribly light sleeper, also I can read at odd times during the night when I can't sleep, fidgit to my heart's content! SO much better for both, he doesn't get fed up of me digging him in the ribs either!! Win win, I also wear silicon ear plugs, so don't even hear him clomping to the loo, ah sheer bliss. And yes we do still love each other. I know of other couples who have separate bedrooms too. My daughter loves it when her hubby is on a late shift and sleeps in the spare room, so not just for the oldies, it doesn't mean we think less of the other half, we just need sleep...?

Lucky enough to have separate bedrooms and we love it. He likes it cold with windows open all seasons, while I like the warmth. I wake earlier and like a thicker duvet. He snores loudly. It hasn’t affected our level of intimacy and if anything we are both more refreshed.

Marmight

After 10 years of widowhood I don’t think I could ever share a bed with anyone else. I’ve become so used to my own space. I still sleep in our kingsize bed and do the Alice in Wonderland thing. 6 nights one side then 6 nights on the other so I’m not constantly battling with linen changes! The joy of clean sheets without the hassle of changing them. The unused side is my ‘office’; everything I need which then gets shoved to the other side each week ?

I’m too am a widow still sleeping in the super king. I’ve not thought about the “week about” side idea to save on laundry! I also shove many things over in the empty side ?

My ex husband had really bad problems with his nose that caused horrendous snoring, he wouldn't go and get it corrected as he was too frightened. It's bliss having my bed to myself now, I can spread out and roll over to the cool side when a night sweat arrives. Heaven.

I've slept on my own for nearly 15 years since my husband died. We shared a bed for over 30 years until the very last week before he died and he moved to a hospital bed in the dining room. I still sleep on "my" side of the bed. The only person who shares with my now is my granddaughter and occasionally my daughters dog

DH was prescribed a steroid spray to help with recently diagnosed sleep apnoea (I could have told them that years ago ?) Now we both sleep better together!