Sleeping alone

I think a lot of couples sleep separately for various reasons. My husband and I had separate rooms following his heart attack, unfortunately I snore and he was having difficultly sleeping, so went to the spare room.

We are sleeping separately at the moment because we are both ill. I would love to be able to pluck up the courage to say that I want to make it a permanent arrangement.

We recently got an Emperor bed. Going from a double to this size has been such a delight

I'd have been very happy to get separate beds but DH wasn't keen. So we plumped for this massive bed and it's wonderful

I love having my double bed to myself. Since my partner and I split up 6 years ago sleeping alone has been a godsend. It was one of the many things that improved in my life when he finally left. I could never share a bed with anyone again.

We have had separate bedrooms for years, for health reasons. It works much better for us.

Same here Blossoming I can read and fidget to my hearts content now.

Humbertbear Ditto

My DH is a night owl and I am a lark. We’ve had separate rooms for ages. It began when I had problems with my back and I found it impossible to get to sleep, and then to be woken again when DH came to bed at midnight was very trying, not being able to nod off again for hours and feeling guilty about putting the light on to read. My elder DD moved out about that time, so we had space to spread out. We have moved twice since then and now have his and her ensuites - absolute boon! (May sound “posh”, we aren’t- they’re very compact but functional and we are very lucky). It works for us, a good nights sleep is so important. We celebrated our golden anniversary last year.

Separate here too due to health reasons.

We bought a super king size bed many many years ago. OH was on call at night so much and it meant he could slip away without waking me too much. He could have been having an affair for all I knew! We had an on call phone line on his side of the bed and the family line on the other. He used to ring me from his side of the bed to say he was coming over!!!

The big bed was a godsend when he became so ill as I had a bit of space, but in the end we had to change it for a hospital bed for him to sleep in. I eventually went into the spare room as the nights were awful - shouting out and paranoid. We had a carer sleeping in who used to do some of the night visits.

All very sad really.

I don’t think many people realised that the doctor they were seeing that day had probably been on call the night before. Looking back at it it was totally wrong.

Separate rooms for us due to DH 's horrendous snoring.

Luckygirl3

Very sad Luckygirl

Separate bedrooms for a year now. Great sleeps!!! Saves me from trying to get to sleep with his horrendous snoring, so I put the light on to read and relax and he wakes and moans I’m keeping him awake with having the light on. He’s retired; it’s me that has to go to work in the morning!!

I've a double bed all to myself and can never figure why I don't sleep in the middle rather than changing sides whimsically. Had a word with myself but nothing happened!

After 10 years of widowhood I don’t think I could ever share a bed with anyone else. I’ve become so used to my own space. I still sleep in our kingsize bed and do the Alice in Wonderland thing. 6 nights one side then 6 nights on the other so I’m not constantly battling with linen changes! The joy of clean sheets without the hassle of changing them. The unused side is my ‘office’; everything I need which then gets shoved to the other side each week ?

Luckygirl Enjoy sharing with your partner till you can!

I have slept alone for many years. I wouldn't want to share a bed with anyone now.

Separate rooms after dh came home from heart surgery and stayed that way. On the plus side I can read as long as I like or in the middle of the night with no one moaning about the light. A couple of times when we have been in the same bed I don’t sleep well as I try not to move around as I am now used to in our King size. On the minus side I miss the company.

Sleeping alone is one of the great joys of my life now after years of sharing a bed with a snorer for many years, and then a restless leg sufferer.

One or other of us started sleeping in a spare room months ago, when we both had bad colds - lots of coughing, plus we’re both up and down to the loo quite a lot anyway, and disturbing the other.

It seems to have become a permanent arrangement. I often sleep very badly anyway, so want to read, have the radio on, go downstairs for a cup of tea, etc.
It hasn’t meant that our relationship is at all less close, though.

However ‘my’ bed is the king size guest bed, and we have a guest coming soon for 4 nights, so I’ll be moving into a small single room, that’s a bit of a dumping ground for ‘stuff’ - inc. all the Christmas decs still waiting to go back in the loft. I’m going to miss my lovely KS bed…?

Luckygirl13 ? we are in separate bedrooms because of health issues too. Since we had an empty nest it makes sense.

I would be very sad if we ever had to have separate beds/rooms. We share an ordinary double quite amicably and it's nice to be cuddled.