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GD is behind in her speech

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glammagran Sun 23-Jan-22 15:14:38

I’m concerned about my GD who will shortly be 3.5 years old. She has a vocabulary of thousands of words and she plays with great imagination. At the moment she is obsessed with Oliver Jeffers book about ghosts. She is a very happy child but she has become frustrated with her extremely demanding 9 month old brother but that’s another story.

My concern is that there are few words that she articulates correctly. Because we know her so well most of the time we grasp what she is saying. She never stops talking. For instance since birth she has had a soft bunny called Flopsy. No matter how many times we tell her, she has always said Wopwee. There is no problem with her hearing as she would hear a pin drop from another room. She is starting to get cross when others don’t understand her.

I brought it up with my DD but she said her nursery which she attends twice a week has said she was behind with her speech but not anything else but they did sometimes see this with children. I’m worried as she is due to start school in September and if this does not improve she will be incomprehensible to her teacher.

I’m wondering if there are any grans with experience of this. No other area of her development is of any concern at all.

Hithere Fri 14-Oct-22 00:15:34

OP

Please do not catastrophize

She's is 4! Why would it be too late?

Measures have been taken to remediate it

Stop your anxiety cycle and step back.

silverlining48 Fri 14-Oct-22 09:14:06

Good news she has been picked up and will get some help. Try not to worry, it will work out.

Lucca Fri 14-Oct-22 10:03:52

Glad to hear about the referral. I don’t think it’s too late but sympathise (unlike others) with your concern that your granddaughter may be embarrassed poor thing. I think speech therapy a little sooner would have been good.

icanhandthemback Fri 14-Oct-22 10:24:53

Hithere

Measures will be taken if needed

With the best will in the world, if things are sorted before a child goes to school, then measures can be put in place before they get to the classroom to ensure the best outcomes. Teachers with 30 pupils to sort and SEN's with many kids have to concentrate on those with the "worst" problems as the system is crumbling and funding tight. It is much harder to get a diagnosis for ASD through the school environment as the pathway is slow whereas a child referred through the HV to Child Development Centres often move quicker and definitely concentrate on children heading for school so they are not disadvantaged.

MayBee70 Fri 14-Oct-22 10:25:40

My son had hardly any vocabulary at the age of two. The health worker we saw said to send him to nursery a couple of times a week and he hated it (they made him eat cabbage). When he started school his play group pals used to tell the teacher what he was saying. As he got older people he spoke to sometimes couldn’t quite catch what he was saying and he got into the habit of speaking through me. What I didn’t understand was that, if I spoke to him on the phone his speech sounded perfectly fine. I worried about it for years and the worst part was not having those wonderful conversations with him that you have with little children. I felt as if I’d been robbed in some way and can still remember almost wanting to cry when one of his friends at play group said ‘combine harvester’ and my son could hardly say anything intelligible. He did have speech therapy for a while but I don’t think it’s easy to get that these days. And, of course, a hearing test should be done. I can’t remember when it stopped being a problem but I know I worried terribly about it for years.

Wyllow3 Fri 14-Oct-22 10:33:46

My GS turned 4 last June.
He's just started proper school.

I would say he became intelligible only pretty recently to all, was just family before.

My DiL is a speech therapist specialising in children.

She never saw a problem neither did the nursery.

He was a bright kid, gabbled away at everything, keen to learn.

Just give it a bit more time, at 3.5 sounds pretty well within the norm to me.

pandapatch Fri 14-Oct-22 11:25:48

I too wondered about glue ear, which is very common and my grandson (now 4) had. He too had a large vocabulary and could hear a pin drop in another room.
However if you have spoken to your daughter so I would leave it. Nurseries are usually on the ball with development issues and it will certainly be picked up at school if there is a problem,

glammagran Fri 14-Oct-22 21:47:58

Thanks for suggesting glue ear but I don’t that’s an issue as Dgd hasn’t suffered from ear infections and has pin sharp hearing. I have recently read about a disconnect with the brain and making muscle movements within the mouth.

Her male cousin (now aged 11) was also quite inarticulate but in a very different way as he spoke very fast indeed and fell over all his words. He’s improved immensely but even now, he’s not always easy to follow.

Your comments are greatly appreciated.