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ExDancer Thu 03-Mar-22 09:18:24

Well, that is the question isn't it?
My hairdresser comes to the house and is self employed, I don't tip her. But every 6 weeks or so I get my eyelashes and brows tinted (otherwise they're invisible) at a salon in town - and she is also self employed, in partnership with another girl - and I do tip her.
What exactly is the etiquette here - who should I tip and how much?
I find the question of tipping quite embarrassing.

Skye17 Sat 05-Mar-22 15:02:54

I have a wonderful hairdresser who comes to the house. She charges very reasonably and I give her a tip of over 10% on top.

She first cut my hair in a salon. When she went self-employed I stopped tipping her, as I had heard you didn’t tip people with their own business, but she thought I was unhappy with the haircuts and asked me if anything was wrong. She said people did still tip her. I was very happy to do that.

Nicksmrs46 Sat 05-Mar-22 14:59:35

I’ve had the same home hairdresser for 17 years , she has never put her prices up , £12 for cut and blow dry, which I have done every5 weeks and £20 for highlights which I have done every 3 months . She has started doing a dry cut for Mr Nick which is £8 . We give her £25 for both cuts and £35 for Mr N and myself when I have highlights.

nadateturbe Sat 05-Mar-22 14:37:28

£100. Good gracious!

F1Grandma2 Sat 05-Mar-22 14:26:04

I tip my hairdresser £10. The bill is usually around £100, but I don’t tip when my eyebrows done because it only takes about 10 minutes. . I do buy her a decent gift at Christmas though. I don’t find it embarrassing as it’s all done very discreetly.

GrammaH Sat 05-Mar-22 14:11:48

No, I've never tipped my hairdresser. I've been going to the salon for many years during which time the owners have become tv stars. They pay their staff well and charge top prices in our county town , I don't think they need any more of my money, especially since my hairdresser left suddenly & they didn't notify me, just let me turn up for my next appointment to be greeted with the bad news. I was then told my excellent girl had left but never mind, someone else would do it!

Nannashirlz Sat 05-Mar-22 14:11:38

No I don’t tip anymore and I’ve never noticed anyone tipping when I get my hair done. But I did when I paid cash but now I pay by cashless I don’t. But my hairdresser as put her prices 3 times since end of covid and she’s doing again end of month but I do give a box of chocolates at Christmas. Who can afford to tip anyone nowadays

DutchDoll Sat 05-Mar-22 14:02:12

No, never.

JuBut Sat 05-Mar-22 13:57:10

I always tip my hairdresser, he cuts my hair at home

Caro57 Sat 05-Mar-22 13:47:26

I don’t tip but I do take biscuits/ cake for my hairdresser- she’s gluten allergic - and arrange a hamper at Christmas, I know she shares with colleagues which is fine as they are a super team

Grantanow Sat 05-Mar-22 13:37:25

I don't tip tradesmen like plumbers, etc., as they charge enough already but we do tip our cleaners and also regular delivery drivers at Xmas as well as in restaurants if satisfied (having checked the bill).

GreyKnitter Sat 05-Mar-22 13:34:04

PS. I’ve also taken a gift to the local GP surgery this year - once after my GP had been extremely helpful and kind and then something for the whole surgery at Christmas time. They’ve had a whole lot of abuse this year and, in my opinion, continue to do a great job. Saying thank you is important. We also took gifts to the lovely emergency team at the vets who sadly had to put our lovely cat to sleep on Christmas Day. The cost in money was high, but their kindness and compassion were priceless.

StoneofDestiny Sat 05-Mar-22 13:30:45

I used to for years but have stopped now since getting a new hairdresser. Expensive enough. I do buy gifts at Christmas though because she is a nice person

GreyKnitter Sat 05-Mar-22 13:28:42

I always tip my hairdresser - usually£5 for £35 wash, cut, blow dry. I don’t give her an extra Christmas tip because she’s not that great! But the best I could get locally after covid. My beautician - massage, some waxing and the occasional nails - is really like a friend. I always tip her generously and give her a separate Christmas gift. Not embarrassing - just rewarding good service. I generally tip in cafes, restaurants etc unless I’ve been dissatisfied with the service. Then it’s nothing!

4allweknow Sat 05-Mar-22 13:28:22

I've had a home hairdresser for 15 years. Normally don't tip but she comes early afternoon and I know she has just finished her other job of fitness instructor so I always give her lunch( her standard favourite of egg mayonnaise roll). At Christmas I do give her a substantial present.

Keeper1 Sat 05-Mar-22 13:28:21

Always tipped my hairdresser even when I graduated to the owner but now I have a hairdresser the house and also cuts my husband’s hair. I have tried to tip her but she sa
Us, “Your Simon’s mum” and will not accept a tip so I give her a big tip at Christmas and say it’s for her children. I do tip in restaurants, taxi drivers etc as well

dumdum Sat 05-Mar-22 13:26:13

I probably would my hairdresser, but never have any cash. Since Covid do everything by card.

Sharina Sat 05-Mar-22 13:20:34

I love my hairdresser. She charges me very reasonable rates so I always add a fiver on. I hate tipping generally. A fair price for a fair job. That way we all know where we stand!

Allsorts Sat 05-Mar-22 12:56:06

I would tip in a restaurant,pub, hairdresser and the taxi driver.
They used to be on lower wages, but now it’s minimum wage, so a lot of people stopped.

Babs758 Sat 05-Mar-22 12:54:57

I tip my hairdresser £10 and he puts it into he staff pot and I know it gets distributed…

Cabbie21 Sat 05-Mar-22 12:47:10

Oh I should add, I might tip a waiter if the service was exceptional.

Cabbie21 Sat 05-Mar-22 12:45:54

I don’t tip anyone these days.
My hairdresser owns the salon and I was always taught that you don’t tip the owner of a business.
We have lots of different postmen/ women. We used to tip the one regular but not some random person. I have never tipped the bin men though my parents used to. There is a whole gang of them, I don’t know if they are the same ones each time.
I don’t tip tradesmen who come to work at my house. They get paid well enough. We pay the plumber very promptly, as he comes quite often for small jobs. Anyone else quotes for a job and that is what we pay.

I think the last people we tipped were the removal men!

Yammy Sat 05-Mar-22 12:45:15

I tip my hairdresser we have to pay in cash and I don't take the change and any workman who we feel have gone out of their way to be helpful when we get the bill DH rounds it up. The window cleaner always declines so we give him a bottle of something at Christmas, The chap who mends the washer etc, travels at least 25 miles to us so we always put more on his invoice.
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My Gardiner pops into shops for plants or compost etc and we give more for petrol money. It's worth it.

sodapop Sat 05-Mar-22 12:44:32

Rosebud61 I take it your kindness also extends to shop assistants, bus drivers, librarians etc.
SolaceofLattes no need to feel awkward, many of us in later years have a restricted income and should not feel uncomfortable at paying the stated price for the job without tips.

Ning74 Sat 05-Mar-22 12:44:24

I am not rich but I feel it is mean not to tip. Yes I agree that everyone should be paid fairly for their work but as this does not happen in some jobs, simply not to tip on the basis of it encourages employers not to pay their employees a reasonable wage is not helpful. While such employees are waiting for their employers to behave fairly they suffer financially and might become destitute!

Stella14 Sat 05-Mar-22 12:43:05

I don’t tip people who earn all of the money from the price of the service. That’s an established convention. So if hair is done by the owner of a salon, no tip (although I’ve started putting a couple of quid in the box for all the other staff). The beautician who comes to my house, no tip. A beautician employed in a salon 20%.