Post breast cancer op 'present'

On a practical level a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on and the odd cuppa or meal. Offer your company for chemo days and lifts here and there. Will she come home with wound drains in I wonder? A colourful tote bag would make it easy for her to carry them around and avoid pulling on the wound. Help to change the dvt stockings and lots of moisurising cream for her legs. Even one of those contraptions for helping to put socks on would be useful. Most important I think is just be there even at the end of a phone. Help her to live her best life and not focus on the cancer. My heart goes out to you and your DD and I wish you all the best as life moves forward. X

Some nice natural skin care, make a basket up of balm and cream and face wipes, foot cream hand cream, a few magazines and a good book. Some treats maybe nice chocolates and biscuits, although taste buds do change. Be careful around aromatherapy as some interfere with treatments and medications, xx

I had a few Sloggi very soft bra top sort of things, which were so comfy to wear all day and night. Supportive but not harsh. I found WhatsApps and lovely cards from people to show they were thinking of me made all the difference. I didn’t feel up to phone calls or visits really, so remote contact was vital for me. We’re all different so you just have to go with what suits the person best in these situations. You sound like you’re a very thoughtful person, OP

I ordered my girl all the back copies of the Amoena magazine.
It is really full of helpful info, with clothes modelled by people who have had ops, and truthful, honest articles and info about everything to do with breast cancer.

As I felt so awful after surgery and during the one thing I really enjoyed were beautiful flowers. I was bed and housebound for quite awhile. Chemo makes you feel so awful, just having flowers to look at is so uplifting. I did receive several ‘pamper’ packs but it was all stuff I already had and I really didnt feel up to using a lot of the contents.

I have a subscription to Readly too. You can read most magazines and their back issues for £7.99 a month. I love it. If your daughter likes magazines she’ll enjoy it.

I hope this helps.

MissA, never an old boot. {flowers]

I've just come back to this thread and am so glad i did. All my/your present ideas have been thwarted by her lovely friends. She has been inundated - lovely of them but somewhat limiting for me!!!

But. I have been on the Cancer Research Website and have ordered a heart shaped cushion for her so thank you to the lovely people who suggested that.

I am sure that there will be other things she needs in the fullness of time so I will hold fire for a bigger present till then.

GN is great.

My SiL in Scotland was given a v cushion at the hospital. They were made and donated by women who had been through the same surgery.

I made a soft stuffed heart shaped cushion to fit under arm. Very much appreciate by daughter as made post op more comfortable under arm. You can buy these or patterns on line if you are into sewing. Hope all goes well for your DD.

Ah, what a lovely thing to say.
Thank you.
I've been a miserable old bòot of late, too.
Thank you.

MissAdventure, you do it every time. Even the saddest or most serious of subjects you manage to raise a little smile in a totally inoffensive and gentle way. You are one in a million.

My daughter was given a little knitted bag at the hospital for her drain bottle.
I used to feel a bit queasy when she kept her sandwiches in there, too.

Cancer Research UK have some lovely ideas for gifts on their website. I recently bought a friend recovering from breast surgery a comfort cushion with a matching bag to hide the drain she had to wear. She said both were useful and the pretty fabric cheered her up. Best wishes to your daughter and to you!

Immediately after op the nice comfy loungewear sounds like just the ticket.
We can always rely on our fellow grans for inspired ideas.

When our daughter-in-law was undergoing chemo we received a lot of good advice from grans about gifts. We made up a ‘cuddle in a bag’, a big soft throw to wrap herself in, matching slippers, lip balm and tissues because chemo makes lips dry and nose runs. Non perfumed moisturiser because chemo causes nausea and some smells are not as tolerable as usual, the moisturiser because of dry skin. Ginger tea which helps the nausea. Some pretty turbans and a few soft scarves if hair loss happens and agree with others about some lovely soft pyjamas.
Hope all goes well Kitty. X

Some lovely suggestions here.
I send the best of wishes to your daughter for a speedy and complete recovery. Going to be a few hard weeks but you will all get there

I meant for dd. Though she is her mother's daughter.

Ooh, I like lounge wear.

Loungewear?

Yes, something really comfy so you can look reasonably decent without getting properly dressed.

My dd wanted cotton pjs with buttons to open down the front and a pocket. I found her a really nice soft 100% cotton pair in TKMax. Wishing your girl well * kitty*
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There seem to be some appropriate and nice things here - bit pricey though

www.beautydespitecancer.com/collections/breast-cancer-gifts?gclid=EAIaIQobChMInoeu7reC9wIVyNPtCh1_cgySEAAYASAAEgJS9_D_BwE

The most useful things I found was a bag to hold the drain bottle I was sent home with and some special heart shaped pillows to rest my arm on. My pjs had a pocket to put the drain in.
I second Neom products - they are my DiLs favourites - pure luxury. A nice scent free body lotion is also good when she has healed.
I will be thinking of you all on the day.

I’d agree with others on a really nice pair of PJ’s and maybe an orchid instead of flowers as they last longer and don’t need arranging. Plenty of magazines or a good book if she likes reading & what about a really soft throw for her to snuggle under (M&S have some lovely ones) . Hope all goes well.

A vote for Badger Lavender and Bergamot sleep balm here, also audiobooks.

Thank you lucca, that made me smile!! DD's pyjamas wouldn't dare like Boris either.

I'd forgotten about ' not another bunch of flowers' silverlinings. Thank you.

Thank you all. GN at it's best.