Like I am 83, just older than henetha and it seems that 60 is the age of worrying about it. It no longer bothers me.
My mother lived to be 100 and I don't want that. The human body doesn't seem to be designed to last that long, I can almost feel bits of me 'wearing out' now. Mum used to sigh and say 'all my friends are dead' and I think she was very lonely.
I just pray I don't loose my mind.
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(215 Posts)I’m 64 and really struggling with the concept of ageing and death. I literally lie awake ruminating about how quickly the years fly and it makes me so sad to think of losing my loved ones and having to say goodbye to them. Please tell me how old you are and whether these things bother you too or how you just get on and live your life!
I will be 86 next month, just become a great grandma1 I cannot believe my luck. I have a lovely husband and family.
Keep planning ahead like we are going to be here forever. Thank God every day
I'm 76, happily married, lots of friends, busy social life. The only thing I'd change is that I'd like my young knees back, please!
I’m just 69 and feel a bit like you at times. I’m not looking forward to being 70 next year. It sounds so old.
How did I get to be the same age as old people?
70 this year, , I feel a bit of a wobble that we lost the 2 Covid years, I certainly feel older now after all that. We had so many plans, but with the recession, war in Ukraine and family illnesses we have lost the will to travel very far.
Apart from acknowledging that I have fewer years in front of me than behind me, I try not to think about it, sometimes it’s good just to get through the week!
Although I now think twice about climbing a ladder or standing on a chair to fix things and when I wanted to sort out a loose roof tile on our Bungalow you should have heard the fuss, I did it all until MrOops retired! Now I’m treated like someone who has to be careful all of the time, which is a pain.
Live for today.
At 67 I do sometimes realise that time is running out.
I still work, have a family of six at home, am constantly making plans, but recently I wonder if they will all come to fruition.
Mostly I’m sad about leaving my children and grandchildren, naturally I’m very close to the ones who live with us, and my relationship with the oldest one is very close.
I also feel really sad thinking about my children getting older, and the problems and sadness they’ll face.
My mother is still alive, but my dad is long gone, so I guess I just hope for the best.
I turned 67 in January and yes, I do think about my death, in particular (like others), the manner of it. I've outlived my dad by 10 years already so feel lucky to have got this far. I passively 'smoked' 100 cigarettes a day (mother and father 60 and 40 apiece) and do have asthma but it's reasonably under control. I have other conditions and am vulnerable but, like Marydoll, you wouldn't know it to look at me. I keep fit through walking and yoga but it is a struggle to keep my mobility up. I've decluttered (well, ongoing) for same reasons as others and am trying to train DH to do all the things I do in case I pop off first (he is reluctant). DH also recently diagnosed with cancer for 2nd time, so it does make you think. We are trying to stay positive, creative and young at heart and enjoying our 2 year old GD with another GC on the way! Hoping that our endings are quick and we get a bit of time to see our children develop and GC grow up.
Don’t think about dying, get on and enjoy life. None of us can predict the future- we can live until we are 100+ or fall over and dye this afternoon. Enjoy each moment.
I had to laugh the other day while I was at my daughters.
She called me from another room so off I went. She asked me to help her move a large sideboard type of thing.
My 16 yr old grandson was in his bedroom so I asked why he couldn’t help. Your stronger than him came the reply ?
Im 76.
I am 66 and have had a big health scare over the last year with a cancer diagnosis and treatment. My husband also has some chronic health issues. It has made me very aware of trying to do the things I really enjoy and just enjoying each other’s company. I would love to see my grandchildren growing up. My Mum and aunts lived into their 90’s but suffered terribly with Alzheimer’s in their last years and I don’t think I would like my children having to care for me through that.
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Don’t think about dying, get on and enjoy life. None of us can predict the future- we can live until we are 100+ or fall over and dye this afternoon. Enjoy each moment.
This.
What's the point of dwelling on it.
Life is a gift, so get on with enjoying it.
Treat every day like it's your last.
I'm late 60s.
I'm 66, can't really believe I'm that old. I feel the same as I did 40 years ago. I don't really dwell on death, I just take each day as it comes. I think people think they will go on for ever until something happens to make them aware of their own mortality. I have a Christian faith so that helps I suppose. I love the Anthony Hopkins quote Hiraeth - you must be Welsh with a username like that btw ?
I am 72 , soon to be 73 and sometimes wonder where the years have gone.
As the youngest of 7, I've always relished in the feeling that I could be last in our family to do everything, I suppose that includes getting married, having children and dare I say it getting to the end of life.
Now we are down to 4, one brother and we three girls. My oldest sister is 82 and in reasonably good health, although she lives in an assisted living setting.
I've had a good life so far, in pretty good health; have 3 wonderful sons and 3 lovely DGC, who I feel keep me on my toes while they're here.
Still got DH, 45 years coming up so all in all, life has been good.
I've never really thought about death too much, am not religious anymore, so don't believe in life after death. I think I would opt for a green burial though haven't really researched into it yet.
68 and usually fit and healthy ,had a couple of scares the past year and lost 4 friends my own age since January
.I feel sad and depressed and weepy .
My GP did offer me pills but I dont think grief needs pills it just needs time
.It has brought home to me that we might have 20 years if we're lucky ,my female line are all long lived male line all died before 70 .I worry about my OH as hes had heart attacks and his male line all died before 70.
He's like a previous poster he thinks hes invincible and does more physical work now than in his whole life .he's always volunteering to lay someones flooring or redo their bathroom ,help them move home etc etc .in all honesty if he goes first I just want to go with him .
I'm 67 and like most people at this stage I do sometimes think of death, and rather dislike the inevitability that life comes to an end.
I'm in good health and reasonably fit and aiming to maintain this for as long as possible - I really can't bear to think about being housebound or in anyway infirm. Of course my biggest fear is dementia.
I've just checked life expectancy and pre-Covid in England it was 83 for women but 18 of those years are spent in 'not good' health, which sounds a bit gloomy but does make me more determined to try and stay healthy, well the bits that are within my control that is such as diet and exercise.
So I have around 16 years left, the idea of which throws me a bit, considering how quickly these two Covid years sped by.
No time to waste
maddyone
I’m just 69 and feel a bit like you at times. I’m not looking forward to being 70 next year. It sounds so old.
Totally this….
i am 58 and getting old has never bothered me, i lost my husband when i was 39 and then my partner of 17 years last may. i had cancer 3 years ago and then a different type last year. back in december i got cellulitis that turned to sepsis, i would not be here if a friend and neighbour had not called an ambulance, when i came round 3 days later doctor said if i had gone to sleep that would have been it. after all that i just take each day as it comes, as my wee granny used to say ...if it's fur yea it'll no go bye ye (in english if it is for you it will not go by you). no point in loosing sleep or getting stressed, everybody has to at some point, i just hope it is quick and painless.
Don’t think of the number of years you may have left - it doesn’t seem much - but if you convert that to days, it sounds a lot. If I have inherited my mother’s genes, I have about 7300 days left ?
Me and My DH are both 75 and coming to terms with aches and pains. As we have two bind dogs, one with diabetes, our plans for holidays have been put on hold. Not that we were planning to go anywhere long haul. There are lots of places in Europe that I want to see.
I'm not religious although brought up in the C of E. I do however believe that our spirits will go on after our deaths.
A few years ago I had a near death experience. I was walking through a long, wide brightly lit tunnel towards a light at the end when voices told (mentioning my first name) to go back because it wasn't my time. It was not a frightening experience. I think about death quite a lot and also about my parents - my father when I was in my thirties (cancer) and my mother about 6 years later (Alzheimers)
Just before Christmas a friend died of Motor Neurones disease, having been diagnosed with it earlier in the year. We saw him a few times over the 6 months before his death and he seemed to be quite philosophical about it and at peace with himself.
Like many others on here it is the illness that is scary rather than the dying I think.
I've just turned 86 my biggest problem is keeping up with my husband who is younger than me.
Physically he's much fitter, but mentally I'm sharper. But you never know.
Both my parents lived well into their 80s.
Husband wants us both to go together. We have a faith and believe that our souls will live on together in some unknown destination.
Oopsadaisy, same here - sometimes I think, ‘How can I possibly be 73?’
77 and ,touch wood, still enjoying life with my DH
I wouldn’t say I’m particularly vain, but I do find the physical side of ageing a bit depressing.
Sometimes I see myself in a photo and think, that really can’t be me, I’m young and slim and lovely.
In my head I'm 27; physically, multiply that by 3. My family seem to think I'm immortal; I'm nos so sure!
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