How old are you?

I’m 58 and time is passing so quickly it feels a bit like a rollercoaster ride to death! ? My main worry is my youngest son, he’s 30 and has ASD. I tell myself I have a good couple of decades yet and hope for a miracle, that he will suddenly become self sufficient! I try not to dwell on it though.

Think we all have fleeting thoughts bout how long will I be here when we get older...I'm 64, reasonably fit and have such a lovely peaceful life.....I just push away negative thoughts and think I'll be here till my times up...

I will be 81 on Monday. in the past 8 weeks I've lost 2 close friends and my Sister. I am probably not the most joyful person at the moment but at an age when we just have to get on with what life is left to us. I've always felt that death is inevitable at any age. I was a nurse most of my working life so learned that at about 18 when I started training.

Coming up to 66. Don't feel old as such, though my creaky knees are loudly trying to tell me otherwise. However I am now trying to make sure that I get on with things and enjoying activities while I still can. Not particularly looking forward to getting a free bus pass, as I'll still be riding my motorbike as long as I can - a much nicer (and more socially distanced!) method of travel?
My user name says it all - I'm growing old as disgracefully as I can.

Nearly 73, feeling at least 10 years younger. My body and I are friends, some times more than others. We’d be even better friends if I managed to lose 10 kilos. I made peace with death as the logical consequence of living. My beloved mil called it ‘ she/he joined the great majority’. I like that a lot; it’s all inclusive. Rather curious, actually.
Please don’t waste time and energy fighting time. She always wins. Count your blessings instead. Be happy.

Just been reading all the messages. I too get a bit concerned bout how fast life is going. My mother will be 102 on 3 June very aware even enjoys dancing in her care home plus the odd tipple in the evening with the residents! Went for my 4th vaccination on Monday as over 75 a huge mile long queue outside local town hall all over 75s all chattering away. Making the most of everything as much as I can. Happy Easter everyone

I'm 75 very soon. I'm still very fit and healthy but I do worry about death quite a lot. The years seem to slip by so quickly and when I think about the inevitable I have a feeling of dread!

I am 71...fairly fit. I went through a faze thinking about how long I had left but have moved on from that now...was quite depressing really. I will continue to keep myself as fit and healthy as I can....

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I will be 81 on Monday. in the past 8 weeks I've lost 2 close friends and my Sister. I am probably not the most joyful person at the moment but at an age when we just have to get on with what life is left to us. I've always felt that death is inevitable at any age. I was a nurse most of my working life so learned that at about 18 when I started training.

The loss of friends and family is certainly a down side to ageing. I had two dear friends from the age of 10, the three of us were inseparable. The youngest of us died before reaching 70 and the middle one died two and a half years ago. I was the oldest but I am still here and so miss being able to talk about a very happy period of time in my life which only they were part of.

I found this thread interesting as i often feel i must be one of the real oldies. Ilost my husband nearly 14 years ago and i still miss him so much. I will be 88 soon and as my mother died at 50 i think i have been lucky. I live with my son on a lovely island in the Caribbean but now i have the task of going back to UK with him to pack my home up and sell it. Since Christmas i have had 4 falls and the last ine was serious and i was in hospital. I am still recovering and am black and blue with a huge haematoma on my forehead. I have three children with 2 in their late 60s and we are a close family. I have two old rescue dogs that i love and am well looked after. I am almost 88 and have lived a long and interesting life. I know i am fortunate but feel i have lost a large degree of my independence. I have two grandsons doing fine and the older one has two lovely children. We are on a family whatsapp group and chat together and i see lots of photos of my 2 great grandchildren. When i had a cracked skull all i was worried about was making sure i had not lost brain power! So far so good. I am dreading the trip back to UK because it marks the rnd of my real independence . I am not afraid of death and have a strong religious faith. I cannot attend church but have friends on the island. I cannot grumble because i know i am fortunate to have a caring family. The other teo children will fly out for a family reunion and as one son lives in Australia he is coming a long way for us all to be together. As oldies we are lucky to have instant communication and i talk to my two children not here every week on Whatsapp. I am an active networker for dogs in shrlters looking for rescue or adoption. I think i lead a good life and am
thankful. Chronic illness has not stopped me and must stay positive. I am struck with the way in which you all seem to get on with life. Mustn't grumble is the feeling i get here! Good luck everyone.

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Have just had my 70th and am speechless by all that my 3AC and partners have arranged. Had a long weekend at a Cotswolds farmhouse with the entire family, we partied, swam, tennis, personal chef etc Then I was whisked off to Jersey for a week with son no2 where he lives. Back home late last night and my DD has arranged another party/egg hunt for tomorrow for all the family. I feel one very spoilt mum/Nan and feel so loved. I’ve sent my 70th thoughts out to all my friends .....

I’m 74 and have just said goodbye to my son and his family who have been staying with us and are flying back to the USA today. It’s always sad to say goodbye but the older I get I wonder if it will be the last time that we see each other. I know I shouldn’t think like that but I can’t help it.

I am 66 and working on my thirty year plan!! Luckily I am healthy, active and eat well and feel about 40. I have got a problem hip (bursitis) which flares often and makes me feel a bit older but other than that nothing to moan about.
I see lives in third and recognise that this is the last third, so am determined to make every minute count. Worked very hard from 16 to 62 so determined that this bit of life is mine!
I have a friend who’s husband has just died very suddenly in his early seventies and it has made me even more determined to seize every day.

I shall be 99 next month. Lost my beloved husband 34 years ago. Have been alone since. Travelled abroad alone until my early 80s. Live alone with an hour’s help each morning Do my own cooking. Had cancer twice, Mobility problems because of osteoarthritis in knees.

I'm 70 and have thought occasionally about dying. I suddenly thought a few weeks ago that it meant I would never know how my DS would pass away or what sort of life my DGD would have and that really hit me for six. Never occurred to me before.

I'm 71 and always felt fit and healthy full of energy but the last 3 months tiredness has hit me like a brick .I ache all over I'm constantly tired very bad tempered. Help

I am 66 and a great grandmother, I am mostly ok, just wonky knees and shoulders from many years working in packing sheds. i dont think about the future, nothing I can do about it so why worry, I just concentrate on enjoying the now

I'm 67 today spending it with my husband whose nearly 77 in a hospice with a limited time left. He was fit and healthy until last summer....

Yes, LaCrepese I will be 62 soon, and have these thoughts too. We don't tend to think about this much when we're young, do we? Reality for me hit home when a neighbour died suddenly in his 40's, then my friend's husband died suddenly too also in his 40's. Then my mum died (88) and it just hit home that we just don't know how long any of us has. My husband and I have been carers for nearly 20 years for our son whom we love dearly and who has severe learning difficulties. We managed to get him into sharing a house with housemates with the support of a care agency, and our lives have since changed dramatically. We've discovered dance classes, which we never ever would've had the time or energy for when we were caring. We've booked many dancing weekends all through this year and also 2023. We just hope to God we stay in good health for it now we're swanning off having a good time!

50 soon and wondering what will become of me. No mortgage, renting with partner who is 60. What will become of us when we are too old to work? Divorces on both sides have taken everything. Just feel like giving up.

71……I was dead billion years before I was born ….so I’m not afraid of being ‘dead’. But I am afraid of losing my faculties….or dying in distress and/or pain, as my husband is now . I’ve made arrangements with myself , if/when that starts to happen. I will not inflict that on my family as I know from personal experience how that erodes everything.

I’m 66 fairly fit and active, yes my kids would say I’m getting old but I don’t feel it. Age I feel is a number either embrace it and become old quickly or do as I do and not worry and just keep as fit and active as possible. Once you stop you’ll cease up! I’ve too much on my bucket list to complete to give up on life.

I am 74 and live in the moment, am very well and fit for my age, no medications, cycle up hills and can run up stairs. We all get a return ticket when we are born, death does not scare me. I am aware of aging in that I have made sure that my affairs are sorted and I have a small case of files called dying tidy. I do my bit wrt eating a good assortment of veg on my `almost veggie` way of life. I have many engrossing hobbles, never wallow in being alone, no point

I am 66, and so, so grateful to have finally (!!!) reached State Pension age and not have to work any more. (Teacher!)
I reckon 86 is my top target, so that leaves 20 years. My that doesn't sound long at all! My husband died in 2020, so I am alone now. I just take each day as a gift and try not to look too far ahead. After all, we could be wiped off the face of the Earth any day by a giant asteroid or Putin's crazy finger on the nuclear button. Eat cake in moderation, lift a glass each day, grow plants and listen to the birdies sing.

I'm 70 tomorrow but don't have any celebrations planned. Why would I want to celebrate being in another decade and both my DH and DS wouldn't have a clue what to organise anyway! Like others here I'm quite resentful that Covid has robbed us of remaining "good" years and I certainly feel I've aged a lot since 2020. Members of my family have not traditionally made "old bones" - my mother was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's at 59 and died at 70 - so I do seem to spend rather too much time thinking about what's left and whether I should be making a better effort to do more with my life. Having a younger husband who is still working and not being able to drive to anywhere myself doesn't help the situation but my mother's simple answer to any moaning in my youth was "There's always someone worse off than you" ... and she was definitely right.