My granddaughter is a challenge

I would have taken the chance to open up a paper map (do they still exist?) and shown her where you live and where Glasgow and Edinburgh are and measured the distance with a ruler. One of my sons was like this and we had to answer questions very factually, it led to all sorts of fascinating discussions. However he totally stumped me when he asked me why does rain not fall up!

Oh my goodness! Up with that I would not put!!!!! I have 4 granddaughters and they are lovely girls now ranging from 10 to 18. They know the boundaries and we enjoy each other's company.

All my grandchildren have been and are little angels compared with my children. Except for one,they are mostly adults or teenagers now. The youngest is 4 and she can be cheeky but only to her Mum, never to me. We just laugh together and wander around the garden looking for weird things, lizards, birds etc. What a joy and very little responsibility, so much easier than being Mum.

Farringdon - pm sent about how to start a new thread. Keep strong.

My GD age 9 also has 'the huff' perfected, though I'm glad it doesn't last for long. She is busy testing every boundary any one cares to set up at present so we spend a lot of time checking with parents that this or that is OK.
Very few rules in this house - tell the truth, respect people and things, meals are eaten at a table and close your mouth when you're eating!

Sorry, I can't find how to post a new thread on here.
But I just wish to ask grans how they cope with family pressures.
I have felt completely overwhelmed this week, what with worrying about my own food bill rising and seeing the pressure on my adult children as well.
My youngest granddaughter (9 nearly 10) is unhappy because her Mum has moved in her fiance and there's a lot of change going on.
They are living in a house that is far too small for them and they can't afford anything else. So painful to watch.
How do other grans cope?

My grandchildren are still young. The two girls are 8 and almost 7. Very different personalities. The younger one could be described as 'challenging' I suppose. I don't own much jewellery these days. My daughter got my engagement ring. So just a few bits and bobs including my mum's eternity ring. Made a decision to build up a collection according to my means and taste. I like some classic things but also like to go off the beaten track and get the unusual. My 65th birthday is next week. I have ordered self a 9 carat gold feather on a nice chain. Have a bright red sundress which is going in my holiday suitcase. The chain should offset it nicely. I would not give the girls access to my jewellery, clothes etc except under supervision. What I di have is very precious to me and it will hopefully be passed on once I am gone. PS the boys can have supervised access too if they wish!

In fact I was once congratulated on their behaviour as we left church after a christening service.I had refused the offer to take them into the creche they were 3 and 6 at the time so they sat quietly and sang along with the hymns when everyone else was.the only difference was the 3 year old sang Twinkle Twinkle little star on a loop for every hymn ...lol.Several people said how well behaved they were as we were leaving

I was with mine(7 and 9) at a very long and possibly boring (to them) Remembrance Service (there was a reason why we were there).
Although they were used to Sunday school, Christingles etc, I thought the younger one might get fidgety and not knowing the hymns might start whispering to me.
However, they both behaved impeccably, the little one spent a lot of time inspecting the ceiling and I was congratulated on how well behaved they were.

The huffing and expecting that a hard stare will get her her own way are not nice behaviours.
Don't give in to them and she'll get over it.

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Another gem by autocorrect?

Going through

JaneJudge

I remember as a child i used to love going through my relatives drawers and cupboards. I wonder if that's why none of them invite me round very much

Both DGD used to love gang through my jewellery box - luckily I have two, one with junk and costume jewellery and one with better stuff.

MawtheMerrier

^Maybe you should tell her there is no such word as ‘furtherest’^

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Or tell her that Glasgow is furtherest from Edinburgh than Edinburgh is from Glasgow
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Hats and gloves and scarves too. I used to love trying them all on

I remember as a child i used to love going through my relatives drawers and cupboards. I wonder if that's why none of them invite me round very much

Germanshepherdsmum

Farthest?

Yes thought about that or furthest which also seems to be a word however the timing was not right for correcting words in the car when a paddy was imminent because we were not understanding her ?

Germanshepherdsmum

Farthest?

No furtherest is much better.

That is one of those childhood words that sticks, I think.

Gaving had a lot ofchildren, we have quite a few. Actually, I often use them without realising they are incorrect.

i remember years ago visiting a girl at college who shared a house with 2 or 3 other girls.
one of them had the habit of going in her room, in her absence and borrowing her things.
this annoyed the first girl but as she was from a more affluent background, she found it difficult to express how she felt.
the other girl would say, oh you've got such nice things. she kind of made her feel guilty for having them.
in fact she didn't mind sharing, but didn't like her entering her room in her absence and taking things without asking.
the other girl couldn't see what she did was wrong.

My GC have always been very well behaved and know the difference between granny's house and visiting with other people they dont know so well
.In fact I was once congratulated on their behaviour as we left church after a christening service.I had refused the offer to take them into the creche they were 3 and 6 at the time so they sat quietly and sang along with the hymns when everyone else was.the only difference was the 3 year old sang Twinkle Twinkle little star on a loop for every hymn ...lol.Several people said how well behaved they were as we were leaving.
I was always able to take my own children anywhere from avery young age,they never touched things or spoke out of turn and I could take them anywhere ,including restaurants from a a very young age .
They certainly understand that nothing material is as important as they are to us and things aren't destroyed just played with

She sounds normal enough for a nine-year-old - apart from the lack of respect for your belongings.

My (few) treasured possessions are locked away in a cabinet. Anything else is part of this indoor playground for kids. I never, ever want to give the impression that, to me, things are more important than people.

I certainly got that feeling from my mother - having been brought up in an impossibly clean and tidy house/museum, filled with antique furniture and family heirlooms - so was filled with dread if anything was scratched or damaged. I'd feel very small and insignificant indeed as she appeared to love her special vase more than her daughter!

Audi10

I would be telling Miss Diva that they are my belongings regardless of wether she goes in a huff! And explaining to her that you cant just take other people’s things just because you want to. She’s probably allowed to do this at her home so thinks it’s ok to do the same at yours!I wouldn’t allow it

I would be as well. my GC would never go through my things, they don't go through their parents either.
Who knows what you might have in a drawer, tablets come to mind though I always put mine on top of the wardrobe before they come.
If they think they can have anything they want what do they do in a shop or at school.
It may be I,m old fashioned but I believe children have to have boundaries.

Children learn by having boundaries!

Couldn’t agree more.

Yes, stuff maybe just stuff!! But,surely, all children need to learn and understand that others people's stuff may only be used with that person's permission.

I would be totally furious if anyone else, child, adult whether or not a relation to me actually walked into my room and went through my wardrobe, etc.

How on earth do such children learn not just to take what is not theirs? If they do it in your home, do they also do this is shops??

The rules of society is what we, as adults - should be teaching children. Children who are permitted to run riot in their own or their g.parents homes and not going to welcomed into anyone else's home.

Farthest?

I agree with paddy.

Are you sure there isn't a word 'furtherest' - seems logical to me.

Well ,my GD's are welcome to play with my jewellery ,use my makeup and use my walk in wardrobe for dressing up clothes ,they also help themselves from the sweetie drawer and decide what they want for dinner .
My 12 year old lived with us (until covid ) for half of every week so considers this her home ,the other girls are always desperate to come to stay and I love to have them anytime as they are the best company .Its a laugh a minute when they're here and a privilege to have them.
My sister has two children and only one GC now grown up,she says she has never envied anyone anything in her life,but by god she envies me my wee people
.5 talented ,funny ,bright and gorgeous GC all with good hearts who I'll enjoy while I can ..
Stuff is just stuff