Sorry question about sex with newish partner

Are you using a condom? because that will reduce the stimulation during sex.
Are you an “enthusiastic” partner or passive, I’m your age OH is older, for us, as my intensity rises it triggers him, then I climax. For younger men it’s more of a “mechanical “ process, I think for older men it’s much more emotional.
I also find sex once a week “better” than twice, quality better than quantity.

All I can say is that I have some experience with this situation. The answer is to make a GP appointment ( I know that’s very difficult.) You should go together to this appointment. I think you will both be pleasantly surprised by the doctor’s reaction. They’ve heard this many times before! If your partner isn’t willing to go down this route then he isn’t interested in investing in the relationship.

Ps I should add that I applaud the OP for raising this topic. We don’t all have someone we can discuss these things with and this is a safe and anonymous space to ask for advice about personal matters. It’s not compulsory to read the posts!

Yes, I’m also your age and my partner is older.
I came on to say, if you don’t feel like having sex with him don’t do it! You don’t owe anyone that.

This reminds me very much of a former poster of the same age, single, boyfriend troubles, who had literary usernames …

Lacrepescule
It is usually the other way round that your partner has climaxed before yourself leaving you unsatisfied.
My view is for your partner to seek medical advice as it must be as equally frustrating for him as well as yourself as neither of you are getting the satisfaction you should from this relationship.

Perhaps he would be happy with a companionable relationship but feels obliged to have sex because you expect it?

Would you be happy without sex?

You both need to discuss it and consult a GP if there may be a physical problem.

Germanshepherdsmum

This reminds me very much of a former poster of the same age, single, boyfriend troubles, who had literary usernames …

Well spotted

Perhaps if he did not have a sex life with his former partner, he has come to rely on masturbation to climax? Perhaps you could help him in this way?

I’m as sure as I can be that this poster has made the whole thing up and has form in that respect.

Does ' nt look like true love to me .

If I was going to make something up, it would be a lot more racy than this.

I think your partner's problem is not all that uncommon. I don't think you should take it personally, it has nothing to do with love or desire. Is he taking antidepressants? They can sometimes cause sexual problems.
Poor man, I suppose the harder he tries the more anxious he feels.

This runs pretty true to form. Recognisable.

MissAdventure

The site glitched.

Yes, I was trying to post a photo of my lawn yesterday and couldn't.

Not that I assume the OP was trying to include photos in her post.

There was a gitch on the song lyric convo thread which resulted in a double posting.

If someone was making it up they don’t need to make their story racy they just need to encourage others to recount their stories which may or may not be racy
I m afraid I haven’t felt this was genuine from the start but I could be totally wrong We ll probably never know
This is the quote that made me wonder ?
* My question is ladies, do you and your man have a full sex life*

Not that I assume the OP was trying to include photos in her post Heaven forbid!

But I agree with aonk.
Say, 5 people post about sex / depression/ a serious illness and for 4 of them it’s all made up. Someone might still be able to help the 5th person. As MissAdventure said, it could be a lot more racy if one was really making it up.

Fair comment, Bluebelle

I suppose you could always message hq rather than troll hunting.
It is what's advised, after all, and I expect they'd be more able to shed some light on things.

My question is ladies, do you and your man have a full sex life

Well no-one is being silly enough to answer that question, so that may be disappointing.

FarNorth

*My question is ladies, do you and your man have a full sex life*

Well no-one is being silly enough to answer that question, so that may be disappointing.

Or, to start from the premise that the OP is genuine, she is trying to ascertain if this is normal or unusual?

To answer that question, we have a full sex life - though DH (74) had to start taking viagra in the past few years

Well I hope she is genuine but by saying ‘do you and your man have a full sex life? ’ that is an invitation to open up with other peoples personal stories
Without that line I would not really have felt anything other than someone looking for empathy

FarNorth

*My question is ladies, do you and your man have a full sex life*

Well no-one is being silly enough to answer that question, so that may be disappointing.

It could be assuming rather a lot a lot, too.

My question is ladies, do you and your man have a full sex life
Or
My question is ladies, do you and your woman have a full sex life?
Or
My question is gentlemen, do you and your woman have a full sex life?
Or
My question is gentlemen, do you and your man have a full sex life?

Any of us that do have a sex life in our 60s and beyond know that the issues the OP is enquiring about are entirely plausible, men don’t always function predictably and we know women certainly don’t.

Sounds genuine to me.