Flowers for absent daughter

... wishing your daughter all the best in her recovery. It's awful, I've been there with bowel cancer. And to add, I was stage 3c - that was nearly 14 years ago and I was discharged from Oncology 5 years ago with "No Evidence of Disease".

What I found helpful was friends and family who bought me PJs to lounge in, books, and perfume. I felt like I was having a birthday!. Food - as some suggest - hmm, everything tasted the same, toast or a roast, all tasted like cardboard. Flowers fade, books last for ever. One friend also brought me a lovely little bedside box to keep all my things in like, mobile, hand cream, etc. - but these are for you. You must feel frustrated, sad and helpless being so far away. But she has a good husband, and that's priceless.

Not another bunch of flowers, mentioned above, was set up specifically to send gifts to cancer sufferers, although I have used them in other circumstances. You choose a box and the contents from a long list and can end up paying rather more than for flowers. It depends how confident you are about what would please your daughter eg candles, creams, a nice notebook. It worked very well for me as a gift for someone with MH concerns, lots of little touches to show I cared without saying the wrong thing.

Re flowers, I have had little success with letterbox flowers, but always find M and S reliable.

A local florist everytime. Google ' florists near .....' simply ring and they will deliver . Sorry to hear your daughter is having such a difficult time but her husband is there to support her . I wish you both strength.

What would I do?
I would get myself down there and deliver a gift personally.
Is there any chance you could visit and stay in an hotel for a couple of nights?

I always use a local florist, most Florist shops are online and TBH they need all the custom they can get and we’ve never been disappointed.

My DD buys me a subscription to Bloom and Wild every year and I can thoroughly recommend them. On the odd occasion they have not been up to scratch I have told them and they replace them.
You should have complained Blubelle.

I agree with Sago though and deliver them in person. I have often said to my children that I am not coming to interfere but I just need to look at you!

I've always used M&S and do find they're good as during lockdowns I ordered some for myself from time to time to cheer myself up.

So sorry to hear about your daughter. I use M & S, and only once had a problem (they sent them to me instead of the recipient) and they rectified it by sending another bouquet immediately and refunded me entirely! I have used the letterbox deliveries, but I'm wary now, as I'd wanted to surprise my daughter-in-law, but she happened to be out at delivery so they put a card (Royal Mail) through the door. She obviously didn't realise they were flowers not just a parcel, and left it until the weekend to collect, whereupon she got a box of dead flowers!

Local florist?

Cornish blooms...small family firm...unfailingly excellent service and flowers... and REALLY competitive pricing and good value.
They do scented narcissi early in the year which lasts for weeks.. simply gorgeous.

I agree with Violet Sky here. Firstly I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter and her illness and the worry that this gives you and wish you all the best outcome.
I would opt for some lovely food but that may be difficult in the circumstances; otherwise a basket of top of the range moisturiser, shampoo, body lotion etc. You could include some luxury biscuits, crackers and cheeses as that may be all she fancies at the moment, it is more difficult when you are so far away.
Personally I find flowers very stressful, most of the time they are poor but politeness means you cannot say anything and then you have the added stress of arranging them and watching them deteriorate in the vase. It's the thought that counts.

I've had a bad experience with Bloom &Wild as well so always opt for a local florist now.

The pamper hamper is the best idea in my opinion and something nice for your very caring son in law. I hope your daughter has a good recovery Exdancer

I had problems with B and W, but assumed that was because they were sent over the water to Belfast? Customer service was good and they replaced them with no argument.
Have you thought of a flowering pot plant? No need to look out a vase and arrange and have had some nice ones via m and s ?
Otherwise maybe some pretty pjs or toiletries from M and S? Ordered as normal but with different delivery address? So no “gift” premium and recipient gets full value.

I'm curious about where you live now, notSpaghetti have you found a desert island somewhere?
Hundreds of thank you's to Everyone Else for the splendid suggestions, I think I'll go for a pamper package for now, and flowers in a month or so.
She's a funny girl (girl? woman) who prides herself on being straight with everyone, which (IMO) seems to be rude and aggressive at times.
She has expressly said I am not to travel to see her, and I do have disabilities which make travel difficult, so I'm respecting her wishes.
One remark she made which made me think, was that she'd feel obliged to clean the house and tidy up if I was coming. I was surprised she felt that way, but I'm sure we all know what she meant.

After Receiving two poor bouquets from Bloom and Wilde at Christmas and one very ordinary one, I suggested my daughter didn’t use them again. I complained about the first one and it was replaced with something better though.
The best bouquets I ‘ve ever received have been from local florists, all ready to put in a vase, no arranging needed.

That sounds a good option Ex Dancer. I am about to order a cancer care package from not another bunch of flowers for a friend who is about to start treatment. Always much appreciated by others in the past. A lovely idea to follow up with flowers in a few weeks time. I hope it all goes well for your daughter, a difficult time for you all.

Right on cue, a delivery from Bloom and Wild!
Have put them to "wake ip" in a large jar. Will post another photo when they are perked up a bit.

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Where are the images? Sorry!

And another:

Here it is now.
Morning of day 3.

I’ve recently discovered Petalon flowers (www.petalon.co.uk) having used Bloom & Wild previously for some years. DD was delighted with her bouquet. Try them - although I see you’ve decided on a pamper package which sounds lovely. I do hope your daughter is progressing ExDancer