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Birthday lists - how do you 'keep' yours?

(33 Posts)
Georgesgran Sat 30-Jul-22 11:30:05

Always rely on my (hung on the back of the kitchen door) Countryfile calendar and transfer the dates to the new one every year. At the start of each month, I see if I have any birthdays/anniversaries and buy the appropriate cards in one go.
I like a card.

Elizabeth27 Sat 30-Jul-22 11:24:12

I don't send cards, it is a text or call from me.

If it bothers you that much then he could write all the cards for the year at one time. I don't know how many it is but probably would not take long to sign a few cards and address the envelopes.

I always think it is the thought that counts, as your husband puts no thought in at all without your encouragement or nagging it all seems a bit pointless.

HowVeryDareYou Sat 30-Jul-22 11:04:58

I have reminders on my 'phone. My husband has only ever had to get one card (mine) each year. I used to buy for his mum and dad, sister, nieces and nephews. He never knows what anyone has got as presents, as I sort everything out. Left to him, nobody would ever get even a card

Visgir1 Sat 30-Jul-22 11:04:35

On my phone, highlighted in a different colour. As I add to it, I see who's due.
Plus always have cards bought well in advance.

Galaxy Sat 30-Jul-22 11:03:07

I dont remind adults either. Makes things simplesmile

MissAdventure Sat 30-Jul-22 11:00:24

I don't send any cards. blush

It does simplify things, though.

Oopsadaisy1 Sat 30-Jul-22 10:57:49

Mine are on the Calendar, MrOops has never written on cards for his family or bought them, so I do the lot, he will add something to the cards for our children and GCs.

I also have a box split into Months so that in a perfect world I would organise the cards a year in advance and I would just pull one out each time a birthday loomed, however it isn’t a perfect world so I scrabble around trying to find one, like most people I guess,

PollyDolly Sat 30-Jul-22 10:53:01

We have both been in previous marriages and therefore we now have a substantial blended family.

Birthdays are recorded on the calendar with the family members name and a small sticker to highlight so it can be seen easily. We buy cards well in advance and always write those out ourselves for our own side of the family.

To be honest, it is not easy to forget anyone and I tend to write mine and get them posted at least a week or ten days in advance. I also put a list of birthdays in my phone schedule. and get an alert 7 days before and on the day so I can send a message as well as having sent the card. I have suggested to my OH that he does the same but no, can't be bothered.

OH ALWAYS needs reminding despite looking at the calendar every morning for upcoming appointments etc but he still forgets his list of birthdays, and I end up reminding him, which I don't mind doing. I have offered to write his cards for him as and when they're approaching but he said no, his family wouldn't like that - this is the same family that never remember my birthday, but I am not that fussed about that either. However, these family members give my OH a hard time when he forgets their birthdays.

He has recently forgotten to send the birthday card to one of his siblings and it is MY fault!

What system do GNetters use o list and remember birthdays? I am open to any suggestions because short of me putting the card in his hand and reminding him to write it. and post it to his relative - I am at a loss.

His memory is OK with everything else - it is just his birthday list!