How often do you see family

My children are scattered around Scotland and in Barbados so it is rare that I see a lot of them as they are busy people with their own lives and careers. I don't have grandchildren but I have plenty of friends who do and moan about seeing too much of them or not enough of them. I think it depends on the circumstances and the type of family that you are.

Our eldest daughter with three grandchildren, lives over 200 miles away. When the eldest was little, we used to Skype, before FaceTime, and make sure we visited monthly. Either they would come to us or we would go down to them.
Just before COVID, she decided she wanted to live closer and moved into rented accommodation near us. The children, 3 of them by now, went to local schools, we did the whole grandparents thing, babysitting, school pick-ups and drop-offs. The youngest was then in nursery, I won’t lie it was hard work, my daughter still had work down south, so we were left for days living with the children and acting as loco-parents.
Her partner decided he didn’t want to move, so stayed put!
At the start of the lockdown, she decided to move back down south. It’s hard now, because our younger daughter is living with us, temporary, so we don’t have the room anymore.
It’s hard going to the next town , where they were living temporary, looking at the school etc, imagining what might have been. We don’t see them has much. They are working I know, but it still hurts, that we are not involved with them as we were.
I would love to see them more, but it is what it is.

My family are a ‘close’ Family, as in love being in/out together.
My Partner was never worried about seeing his children (grown up) until his eldest had children - which I understand.
We are 35/40 mins away from his 2 DS.
We are about 40mins from my eldest Dd and 3 DG.
We are 3hours plus away from my younger DDA and DG.
We are an hour plus away from my elderly Parents.
We are retiring 2024 and looking at new build property now - all at least 40mins from where we are now and all further away from my Family…
Some areas are closer to his DC - I can see me staying with my younger Dd more often as she has children with Additional needs - and DP is already worried about this as he doesn’t want to help them out as much as I do.
Lots of rows to look forward to - I can see us breaking up over this and I’m in my early 60’s ☹️

We have one DD with DGS who lives about 1 mile away, and a DD with DGD 4 miles away, we generally see them at least once a fortnight. My sisters one living in Surrey, the other in SW Scotland, I live in the middle. I've seen twice this year and will be seeing in the next two weeks

Because my lovely Mum gave me such grief over giving her regular visits with the children, I vowed I would never inflict such demands/requests/hopes on my family. It is difficult but I have honoured this pledge to myself. I admit to being disappointed how seldom I see them all. Yes, indeed they are busy people but I've always believed we somehow find a way to do those things we really want to do. I certainly never want to be regarded as a duty. Happily, they are a fun, contented and thoroughly sporty foursome and I'm regularly indulged in action packed photographs of them. It could be much worse.

i see my son and family every 2/3 weeks but my dil checks in with me most days on facebook since i have been ill over the last 3/4 years, my mum at the other side of the city not seen for a year and my dad i only see once a year as it is a 5 hour train journey to get there, not seen him since 2019 so looking forward to my visit in november. my phone is always ringing and my two grandsons facetime me usually when corrie or emmerdale is on.

I see 1 daughter and her 2 children once a month, they live an hour away. I don't see my other daughter, 15 minutes away, as we're virtually estranged. I see all 5 of my grandchildren about monthly.

When we first came to Australia in the early 1970s a cousin came to Perth. We live in Melbourne. It really struck me as funny that family members in the UK thought we might meet for coffee! Ha- it’s only 3, 450 kms away, a straight 36 hour drive non stop or a 4.5 hour flight away. No clue. Needless to say we never did meet up again for coffee or anything else !

My daughter lives 5 minutes away ( by car) and my son @ 20 minutes but apart from when they need dog or child sitting we rarely see any of them. People I know seem to be meeting up with their families all the time. I know DH and I have avoided people throughout the pandemic but it was like this even before covid.

Not as often as we or they would like. One child lives abroad the others miles away. School fines stopped them from taking children on out-of-term time hols with us. We do have GC to stay when requested.

Family live close by so see them several times a week - I feel very fortunate especially as we all get on well. I try hard not to take it for granted that they’ll always be there…..think they will though, fingers and toes crossed.

We have one son in Scotland an 11 hour drive from us a son in Vancouver one daughter in Derbyshire one about 30 mins away my parents and sister in Newcastle upon Tyne . We try to see them all but it is difficult at times.

I see my daughter 2,3 times a week.

My son lives abroad so I see him once a year and we video call each other every weekend.

Its a case of it is what it is so we just adapt to that.

As it can be difficult with older children who have left home have their own full time jobs and own agenda's, so its the way it is.

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Our daughter is 45 minutes way and we usually see her 2-3 times a week .She is chronically ill so some weeks its more ,our son is 5 mintes walk away .he pops in most days when passing and we have his family weekly for dinner .I'm back to having the GD's( not th 2yr old) for weekends ,the girls are great fun and they love being here .
I cant imagine not seeing them a lot .its how we were with our parents.

My two sons live not far away, so I see them usually about once a week.

We see the three youngest AC and their children several times a week. Childcare for those not in nursery/school year round. Two live within a 5 minute walk (DD same road) and her brother and family live 5 minutes further on. One loves by the beach and depending on time of year/weather it can take anything from 25 minutes up to 1 1/2 hours (flipping day trippers ?) Eldest travels the world with their job, at the moment they are only an hour away round M25 so we see them once a month usually they stay here or we stay with them. The fifth lives 15 minute walk away in other direction, tread on eggshells with their partner so it all depends on them.

From September they will all be in nursery and or school so will only be on Granny duty during school holidays or if they are poorly

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We live close enough to our daughter that she can ride her bicycle here but she usually drives the 10 minutes. Sometimes we see her once a week and other times two weeks will go by. We used to babysit a lot but the two GDs are older now but we are close to them. Both sons are about an hour and a half away depending on how traffic flows. Older son has two little boys that we really missed during Covid. His wife was great about sending pictures with texts. Younger son has young daughters that seem to love me alot and we have fun together even though I don't see them as often as the nearby GDs. They asked me to come spend the night this Friday to see a new pet. They will all leave the next morning for a weekend trip with DIL's family. Last month I housesat for a week while they were on vacation. I enjoyed it and was able to spend a day with a friend. Then I learned later that they were on that vacation with DIL's family. Sort of made me feel like just a servant. I know son loves me and our family, but this is something I have struggled with. I don't want our son to know how I feel so I try my best to be upbeat.

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We live close enough to our daughter that she can ride her bicycle here but she usually drives the 10 minutes. Sometimes we see her once a week and other times two weeks will go by. We used to babysit a lot but the two GDs are older now but we are close to them. Both sons are about an hour and a half away depending on how traffic flows. Older son has two little boys that we really missed during Covid. His wife was great about sending pictures with texts. Younger son has young daughters that seem to love me alot and we have fun together even though I don't see them as often as the nearby GDs. They asked me to come spend the night this Friday to see a new pet. They will all leave the next morning for a weekend trip with DIL's family. Last month I housesat for a week while they were on vacation. I enjoyed it and was able to spend a day with a friend. Then I learned later that they were on that vacation with DIL's family. Sort of made me feel like just a servant. I know son loves me and our family, but this is something I have struggled with. I don't want our son to know how I feel so I try my best to be upbeat.

I seem to see a lot of pictures on Facebook of friends having holidays and meeting up with family. But I seem to be housesitting gran in my family. I sometimes think it’s because me and their dad aren’t together ( he left). If we were still together I feel that we would spend more family time together but try not to think about it. Must have been a shock to find that they were on holiday with your DIL’s family.

I’m like crazyH I don’t want to be seen as an overbearing mam, so I know they have their own lives and we meet up when we can.

I have DS living with me with his 9 year old son. DD lives 10 minutes away with her family so I see them often and we What's App all the time.