I feel very put out any advice please.
My mother in her late 80's with minor memory issues but still active and pretty independent is making 250 mile move to be close to me, her only daughter and my adult children, next week.
We lost my father 18 months ago and she has been tooing and froing since then about this move, at no time have I put any pressure to bear and she made this decision when she was ready. She has lived in the same area for over 30 years and has a dwindling amount of friends and is becoming dependent on those that are left so they are pulling away.
I have been down twice in the last few weeks to help with the packing etc (a 10 hour round trip + hotel stay).
I have asked her to do certain things like empty the freezer and pack small ornaments and clothes, the admin such as utilities cancelling etc. is being done by me remotely as I have POA.
I found out today that she has restocked the freezer and bought other largish items and not done anything herself but demanded that a much put on friend, do some packing. There is still a great deal to be done.
I have to say here, that the notice has even given on current property by mum and she has signed the new contract so move is irreversible now and she is still saying she wants to be here with us.
After heated telephone conversation earlier today I feel like not going down this week and let her manage the removers and the actual move on her own. Am I being selfish and uncaring?
