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Is it bad manners to attend a funeral bare-legged in hot weather?

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Dempie55 Sat 27-Aug-22 15:05:23

I need a quick response on this one (because I might have to nip out to buy tights!) I will be attending a funeral at a crematorium in SE England next week, and the weather forecast is HOT.

I will be wearing a black midi dress and low-heeled black shoes. (No coat or jacket) I hate tights at the best of times, and in hot weather, yuck. But I can hear my mother's voice in my ear...."And did you see that one with the bare legs - at a FUNERAL!" I admit I tutted when Megan Markle showed up at Royal events with no hosiery, am I now a hypocrite? Would you wear tights as a point of etiquette?

Horatia Sun 28-Aug-22 11:03:47

I personally like to wear tights funeral or anywhere formal to look as smart as I could. I wouldn't wear them because I felt my legs didn't come up to scratch to meet some sort of approval and that they must be hidden.

Beautful Sun 28-Aug-22 11:17:50

Personally I would wear tights at a funeral , although I can't see a problem if people didn't wear them, I certainly wouldn't comment, possibly after the funeral go to the loo & take them off ... saying that whatever you feel comfortable

Beautful Sun 28-Aug-22 11:19:46

No I wouldn't say it was bad manner not to wear tights

Redhead56 Sun 28-Aug-22 11:37:47

Where I live people are usually very formal and do wear black at funerals even on hot days. Not been to a funeral for over four years now so who knows attitudes may well have changed.

Esmay Sun 28-Aug-22 12:24:25

I hate wearing tights .
I'd rather wear stockings !

Your outfit sounds very nice and respectful .

Are trousers a compromise ?

I went to a funeral last year on a boiling hot day and felt that I should dress formerly and wore tights !
There was no " wake " afterwards so it was a
relatively short occasion .

Perhaps you could ask ?!
I'd be inclined to wear them and take them off discreetly in the loo if needs be - too uncomfortable/no one else wearing them !

My other fall back -wonderful Sally Hansen spray on leg
make up
Or fake tan you legs !

Esmay Sun 28-Aug-22 12:24:47

your legs !

DiamondLily Sun 28-Aug-22 15:33:59

I've done it - but with a fairly long, dark skirt on.

I can't really see what difference it makes, as people dress in all sorts nowadays.

Dress code is all bit old fashioned now.

Lucca Sun 28-Aug-22 15:39:36

Perhaps you could ask ?!

Who ? The grieving family? I’m. Sure they’d be interested…..

Esmay Sun 28-Aug-22 16:34:45

Lucca - it was tongue in cheek that's why I put an exclamation mark and here's another !

Shelflife Sun 28-Aug-22 18:17:41

Be glad you have good legs , go for it .
It would be trousers for me !!