What I would tell my 20 year old self if I could

Ditch the boyfriend.
( Reader I married him).
Big mistake. Huge.

Persevere with what you do best even if it takes longer.

I should have continued with further study to be an interpreter after university but decided I’d had enough studying. Silly.

'Make the move. Go on, you know you want to'.

At twenty I had attitude but I was very naive too. I didn’t listen to advice I thought I knew everything how wrong I was.
But you live and learn as life passes by I don’t have regrets I made my own decisions.

Be careful about making important decisions. Take your time and consider every angle.
Stick up for yourself.
Think very carefully about your choice of husband.

Don't get pregnant when you are not married.

Talk - listen - more to your wonderful mum and dad.

I wouldn't say anything, my life turned out just fine. I married very young and had my children quickly which mean't they were all left home by the time I was 43.
No regrets whatsoever.

I think ANN is right about standing up for yourself at home or at work. We were kept “under the thumb” in those days.

Of dear, what regrets this thread brings.
I would say, stand up to your mother, be more assertive.
DO NOT MARRY SO YOUNG.
Too late to say work harder at school but take up further education, you are brighter than you believe.
Get out and take what life offers.

dogsmother

I couldn’t change my 20 year old self because I love my life and family. But a 20 year old person today I’d advise relax and believe in yourself be happy don’t worry, be kind work hard have respect for yourself and others. Save a little spend a lot.

That was really what I was trying to say, dogsmother.

I had no confidence that it would be ok when, actually, it is much more than OK. D

Have confidence in yourself and your abilities.

Learn by your mistakes but don’t let them define you. Wise words from my father. I made a few and moved on from hard lessons.

Do what you really want, not what others expect.
Go to Italy (for singing) or London.
Don’t listen to my fearful mother.
Really use your talents.
Tell the naysayers to jump in the lake?

I couldn’t change my 20 year old self because I love my life and family. But a 20 year old person today I’d advise relax and believe in yourself be happy don’t worry, be kind work hard have respect for yourself and others. Save a little spend a lot.

No one said those things to me either kitty.
I got very little advice about life at home or school.
My mum loved me but had seven children and was very young.

I would tell myself you're as good as everyone else.

At 20 I was a nurse, engaged to be married I don’t think I would have changed any of that, after 40 yrs both went sour and my life changed but it’s not possible to see that far in front.
I had 4 children in my 20s carried on nursing through all that, family friendly employment helped a lot, there was little child care those days.

Don't get married too young.

No one said those things to me either kitty.

Have more confidence in yourself.

Be more confident.
Be more assertive
Try not to always please everyone
Have some time for yourself cos your worth it!

I would say - Listen to your dad!
Stick with the civil service for the pension.
Marrying a shepherd and living in the middle of the countryside is NOT romantic ??
Dad was right about so many things ?

I told myself not to have a husband, mortgage and children but I didn't listen!

Live your best life.

I'd have just said, carry on having the fabulous time time you're having