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1987H2001M2002Inanny Mon 23-Jan-23 13:05:10

Do any of you remember your first day? Although my big sister was there I felt like I'd been abandoned.When it was milk time in the morning,I drank it so slowly that I was left in the classroom on my own.When I went out to the playground,I found my sister,grabbed her hands and spun us round very fast. She asked what was worng with me but I didn't have the words to explain.

LisaP Wed 25-Jan-23 11:27:15

Yes.
I have been hanging over the back of the sofa watching all the kids go to school and asking when it was my turn. I was four.
My first day came - 1971 I believe. I was five. I was made to wear a green duffle coat with big horrible tusk things for buttons. I hated it and I cried all the way to school. I cried and cried that I made myself sick. So being sick meant you were allowed in the classroom early with the teacher. Bonus.
Turns out that almost every kid was wearing the same duffle coat. The next wasnt so bad. I didnt cry at all. grin

grannymags Wed 25-Jan-23 11:32:28

I was completely traumatised never been away from mum and had only played with my sister because we were so close in age mum brought us up like twins but of course she couldnt come to school for another year sadly i never liked school when i went to secondary it got a bit better because i really loved all the housewifery subjects

Dandylion Wed 25-Jan-23 11:35:44

I couldn't wait to get to school... My mother made me a pretend school bag and I used to go out and sit on one of the stumps where our metal gates had been sawn off and taken for the War Effort pretending to be at school and doing some exercises my Mother had made for me. I could read when I arrived for the wonderful first day and was given a new reading book. The first line was 'Ann had a fan, the man came in the van'... my uncle had sent me a fan from somewhere he was posted in the war - so very happily I turned the page to see what happened... Whack! came down the cane on my fingers - 'You aren't to turn the page until everyone can read it!' I had red swollen wheals on my fingers all day. The teacher was rather fittingly called Miss Beattie....

Attitude Wed 25-Jan-23 11:37:14

When my Mum brought me home for lunch on my first day at school I said despairingly, "I still can't read!"

Grandyma Wed 25-Jan-23 11:39:43

I was terrified!! Mum promised she would wait in the playground until lunchtime- I believed her and was asking my teacher, Mrs Baines, to please get my mummy! I sat next to a little boy who was so kind, he cuddled me and told me not to cry, I still remember his name, he was so kind. I was 4 years old and had never left my mum before. I felt so abandoned 😢

springishere Wed 25-Jan-23 11:40:44

I went to the local Council school, and remember walking there on my own across a busy road. At 8 I was considered old enough to go on the bus to the nearest Catholic school. I think I was quite happy there. Catholic grammar school after that was horrid and I couldn't wait to leave. The nuns were strict and sometimes quite nasty, and the gym mistress was a sadist.

Bea65 Wed 25-Jan-23 11:46:14

I remember I was only just 4 yrs old and we had to line up girls in 1 line boys in another and i recognised a boy as he used to go the Sunday masses and think i said Hi or his name and suddenly this arm flew at me and yanked me out of the line and told me to Be Quiet and i burst into tears and remember everyone staring at me and couldn't wait to go home..I was always told off for talking...but learnt to read quite quickly as we had many books at home and were encouraged to read ..A nice memory was in Class 1 after Reception -always getting a toffee from the teacher when I could read the Janet and John books .but hated the school milk as the bottles always seemed to be covered in black mud...and never drank a lot of milk at home always preferred water...

Sofa Wed 25-Jan-23 11:46:19

I waited with my mum in a long line of other mums with their daughters for our turn to meet the class teacher,Mrs Hanbury. (The boys were in the other half of the school) Eventually it was our turn and then mum sat me down at a table with a slate and chalks and said goodbye. I remember being very scared but don’t think I cried.

Kate1949 Wed 25-Jan-23 11:46:41

Oh yes Luckygirl the nuns in their black robes and white wimple (is that the right word?). They would terrorise us as would the priests and the Marist brothers I think they were called. I've since found out that the nuns were The Sisters of Charity or Mercy or something. What a joke.

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 25-Jan-23 11:47:23

My mum made me that promise too Grandyma. Years later she asked if I wondered how the lunch got cooked (I went home for lunch). Doh!

Sandynan Wed 25-Jan-23 11:49:21

Yes I remember it well, 1965. I was dropped off by my Dad, we were late so all the other kids were already in their seats and all turned to look at me. I can’t remember much about the day only the end when my Dad was late again picking me up so I thought I had been abandoned and sat on the teachers knee sobbing until he arrived.. what a trauma for my little self. 🙁

Seabreeze Wed 25-Jan-23 11:50:38

We had a horrible teacher in my first class at school. He caught a boy scratching the desk with a pin. He took the pin and scratched the back of the boys hand ! All of us would line up in the playground for a dose of malt and cod liver oil from a large tin and only one spoon ! Outside loos no locks on doors, one day While on the loo a couple of boys came and pushed the door open laughing I was mortified. At junior school our dinner lady made us eat everything and I remember one day walking around the playground heaving as she’d made me eat a pudding with dates in it, I found the taste and texture revolting.
I did not enjoy any aspect of school at all.

Eva3 Wed 25-Jan-23 12:03:25

I don't remember my first day although I know my olsder sister took me with her. What I do remember is the first day at school for a little girl named Diana King, when I was persuaded by a more daring friend to wrap a small piece of coal in a sweety wrapper and offer it to Diana. She took it, opened it and popped the coal into her mouth where she pretended to suck and enjoy it - poor little girl! We must have ruined her day. I have never done anything so horrid in my life again and have never forgotten it. There -it's out in the open and I hope if she reads this, Diana will forgive me. It's been on my conscience for 70 years!

kwest Wed 25-Jan-23 12:05:52

Not sure if it was the first day but I do remember wetting my knickers. The Headmistress was very kind and sorted my out with fresh pants and I vaguely remember being in her office where there were armchairs, an electric fire , toast and tea. I don't remember if I was given any but she was very kind.
As an only child with lovely very gentle parents I supposed I was very shielded in my early years. My next very big memory from infant school was the large dining room which I suppose must have been the assembly hall when it was not lunch-time. There was a teacher on 'dinner duty' who seemed very angry with everyone and she shouted a lot. I was instantly terrified of her. Never more so than when she instructed everyone not to eat with their mouths open. I immediately thought "There is something that my mum has not explained". "How do I get the food in there without opening my mouth?" I fearfully put little bits of food in my mouth when I thought no-one was watching. I had never met an angry adult before and that memory is still with me 70 years later.

fancythat Wed 25-Jan-23 12:06:04

I was in the back of the car. The Headmaster's son who was a year older than me, told mum he would look after me. Very handy!

Witzend Wed 25-Jan-23 12:08:38

At my first school you could have a currant bun (a penny) or a half bun (a ha’penny) with your milk (which I never liked). I really envied the girls who had the buns - I’d have loved one, but was so aware from a very early age of money being very tight that I never asked.

Maybe that’s why I’m so partial to Warburton’s teacakes now!

Nannapat1 Wed 25-Jan-23 12:14:01

Yes,I remember it very clearly! My father was in the RAF and we had been posted to Cyprus during the 1950s. That first school was a nissen hut. Mothers were advised to leave quietly without saying goodbye in order to avoid upsetting us children. However I burst into tears when I realised that my mum had left without saying goodbye!

Bazza Wed 25-Jan-23 12:15:47

I remember it very well. I was three years old and walked to school with my five year old sister. My mother was divorced and had a full time job and our granny who looked after us was very ill so I was allowed to start early. My sister had taught me to read, I’d found it really easy. However, numbers or figures of any kind are still a struggle 74 years on!

Ours was a tiny village school, outside toilets of course, but buckets! They were emptied once a week, I can still remember seeing a lady called Mrs Illings walking down the road with said buckets. What a job!

62Granny Wed 25-Jan-23 12:19:27

Not sure if it was the first day, but remember one of the boys kicking and banging the classroom door and crying to go home. Also had outside toilets which I wasn't keen on. I hated the milk as it was kept near the radiators and always seemed luke warm .Get

4allweknow Wed 25-Jan-23 12:20:35

Absolutely disgusting outside toilets. That's the only first day memory of 71 years ago. I decided I woukd not use them, ever which resukted in me going home some days with wet pants. Motger thought there was something wrong with me and a visit to the Dr ensued. Apparentky asking me questions I came out with the dirty toilets and no paper! Also enlightened him that the nursery I had attended had toilet paper stored in a bread bin just as you went into the toilet area so you took a couple of pieces before going to the toilet. The Dr just told my mum I had standards a bit higher than the school provided. He contacted the school and holders and toilet paper were installed. Still didn't use them but learned how to control my need. Gosh, so so long since I've recalled this.

Jaxie Wed 25-Jan-23 12:23:34

In 1947 I was sent to school at 4 years old as my mother was very ill. Mine was a one- parent family as my father had deserted us. I hated every minute. I have a strong recollection of the teacher giving us sticky paper to make a basket for Easter eggs and being disappointed that my paper was green. I was a nervous wreck and couldn’t follow her instructions. She mocked my effort in front of the whole class. Middle school was even worse, bullying kids who stole from me and stalked me on the way home shouting insults. Secondary school pretty bad too, but I had a wonderful English teacher who encouraged my love of words. I left school at 16 on a Friday and started work on the following Monday as we needed me to earn, since my father didn’t support us adequately. When my youngest child started school, after studying A levels at evening class I gained a place to read English at university. It was damned hard work bringing up 3 kids and looking after in-laws and a disabled mother. I had little self belief; educational institutions terrified me but I forced myself to do teacher training as it fitted in with child care. I could not cope with school teaching where, at the time discipline was appalling, the kids murdered my subject for me, I wasn’t hard enough to develop the shell required to survive the classroom battles. I managed to worm my way into a college of further education, though, teaching adults, and this was my making. Having hated school so much myself, I understood those who had struggled to gain qualifications and put myself out to instil confidence in adult learners. I feel very strongly for children experiencing poor schooling when those who can afford it send their kids to private schools, which is socially unjust. I expect a barrage of responses from grans who are all for private schooling but in my view charitable status should be removed from them. The excuse given for retaining it is that scholarships are offered for poor kids. More inequality…

twiglet77 Wed 25-Jan-23 12:28:19

I remember mine. Reception class - Class 1 - was in a separate building across the playground from the main Victorian building, closer to the toilets, and it had a stove with a huge fireguard draped with clothes wet either from rain or from toilet “accidents”.

I sat at a small table with a jigsaw in front of me. Taught not to touch anything without permission, I gazed at it wishing I was allowed to open it. When my mother came to collect me at lunchtime the teacher, Mrs P, said, “Does she not know how to do a jigsaw?” and I remember the utter humiliation at being thought incompetent, when I was just too shy to say anything and the teacher hadn’t actually said what I was allowed to touch. I didn’t forgive her until she gave me straight As on my first report for reading, writing and arithmetic. I’m sure she taught reception age until she was about 90!

Rutherglen Wed 25-Jan-23 12:32:39

On your first day the teacher said “sit there” and that was where you sat for evermore. Then the serious work began, lessons were mostly the “three Rs”, reading, writing, and arithmetic and neat “right-handed” handwriting was mandatory. Lots of practising your letters on slates and later lined jotters (notebooks) and sometimes you got help with tracing paper. Reading practice from your Janet and John book, if you were getting a new book, it was the law that had to be covered in wall or wrapping paper as soon as possible. There are still questions about why that age-old tradition is a thing. Some believed it was to keep the books clean, while others say it was a way for parents to recycle their old decorating scraps. One way or the other if your book wasn't covered you would be getting in big trouble.
We took part in spelling B’s, learned tables by rote – you had to memorise the tables. Davina Kelly has owned up to cheating fifty odd years later. She admits that she was reading the words from the back of her jotter (notebook) and admitted she cheated and read them from the back of her uncovered jotter!).Other tables which were recited were the weights and measures ones “twelve inches to a foot, three feet one yard, one thousand seven hundred and sixty yards to a mile”.
You learned that you were not to speak unless you put your hand up and were given permission. You found out that when you used your eraser to rub out the wrong answers to your sums, you sometimes left a big black smudge on the page, you were better to wait until you got home and your mum would give you a piece of white bread to do the job.
The classroom was a riot of different smells, the woody smell of a freshly sharpened pencils after you had grinded it in the hand crank pencil sharpener on the teachers desk. The smell of chalk, dust, polish, soor milk and plasticine. That smell clung to your hands long after you had played with it. Occasionally there was the unwelcome smell of drying wet underwear, that had been placed on the radiator after an “accident”.
One teacher taught all subjects but had help from the British Broadcasting Company. A big radio was wheeled into the classroom and used for listening to “Singing together”. I can still remember “Soldier, soldier will you marry me with your musket fife and drum”. Very occasionally another visiting teacher came to teach dancing. Senga Jackson recalls “this teacher tried to teach us country dancing, my white sannies(sandshoes) had just been whitened. As I thumped up and down, trying to do a “paddy ba” the clouds of whitening saturated the air around my feet. It looked like I was dancing on a cloud”. We experienced “study in motion” thumping about the hall, pretending to be swaying trees, in your stocking feet or black sannies and sometimes in gym knickers, arms flailing about to the sound of disparate music.
One memory still lingers for Maureen Smith. “On the first day of primary, Miss Quinn sang this song to us. She was birling around. I had no idea what was going on. One minute she was this strict lady I was scared of, then she’s twirling around singing and she seemed to want us to copy her:
“Hot peas and barley, barley’o, barley’o;
Hot peas and barley, sugary cakes and candy;
This is the way the teacher stands;
This is the way she folds her arms;
This is the way she claps her hands;
and this is the way she dances.”

Rutherglen Wed 25-Jan-23 12:34:39

1955 A Glasgow school

Fae1 Wed 25-Jan-23 12:41:30

No, but don't think it was very traumatic! School was next door to my house, dad was the headteacher and mum was one of the other two teachers. Small village school - bliss.