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I'm mortified

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Calendargirl Wed 08-Feb-23 13:24:56

I would ring, apologise, tell the truth, “I completely forgot”.

If it’s a one off, they will understand.

They must have numerous missed appointments that are never apologised for.

biglouis Wed 08-Feb-23 13:05:31

Last time I spoke to my GP she said I had two "missed appointments". I told her no you are wrong because I dont come into the surgery. I only have home visits. She then went on to say that the health visitor had twice called to take a blood test but got no reply.

No these are not APPOINTMENTS unless confirmed with me beforehand. An appointment is made by two parties who agree on a mutually convenient time, not by one calling at random on the other without confirmation.

Grannynannywanny Wed 08-Feb-23 13:01:10

Without setting not with!

MiniMoon Wed 08-Feb-23 12:59:56

I rarely forget appointments now that I have smart speakers in both living room and kitchen. I just either set a reminder or add an event to my calendar. I then get a notification when the appointment is due.
I say rarely, I have been known to forget to tell Alexa.😄

Grannynannywanny Wed 08-Feb-23 12:59:46

I have zero chance of remembering any appointments with setting myself a pop up alert on my phone. One for the day before and another on the day. It worries me at times just how lost I’d be without those reminders.

welbeck Wed 08-Feb-23 12:57:34

buy a small wipeable white-board.
poundland and similar places usually have them.
they often have magnets for placing on fridge etc.
or prop by bed or in loo, over basin. or get two.
write in bold. few words.
good luck.

Parsley3 Wed 08-Feb-23 12:54:10

I recently forgot to go to the dentist despite being sent a text reminder. I was upset at being so forgetful and of course began to think the worst. It has focused my attention though on what I am supposed to be doing on a daily basis. The receptionist didn't blink an eyelid when I phoned to explain and make a new appointment.

Georgesgran Wed 08-Feb-23 12:52:04

Years ago I went to Newcastle RVI for an appointment - handed my card in, only to be told I was a day late!!
Mortified and embarrassed.

crazyH Wed 08-Feb-23 12:50:03

kittylester - what a lovely GP you have !

kittylester Wed 08-Feb-23 12:46:28

About 20 years ago I missed an appointment with my gp. She rang later to check I was OK!

B9exchange Wed 08-Feb-23 11:37:05

Don't worry, your hard pressed GP will have been grateful for the DNA to catch up, they are always running late with extras added in.

I am sure your surgery will fit you in soon, especially as it is relatively urgent, don't hesitate to say that, urgent doesn't mean you are in danger of imminent collapse!

travelnan Wed 08-Feb-23 11:36:06

Hope they don't refer you to the dementia clinic. wink

kittylester Wed 08-Feb-23 11:33:52

Ring up and explain. Unless you are in the habit of missing appointments, they will understand.

Theexwife Wed 08-Feb-23 11:32:32

It is unusual for a surgery not to send a reminder, mine goes too far with an email and then daily texts for 5 days before, and because of that, I rely on them to remind me.

I would phone and apologise, I don't suppose it matters to them as to why but it would make me feel better, I would also tell the truth and admit that I had simply forgotten.

ExDancer Wed 08-Feb-23 11:27:59

I completely forgot a doctor's appointment yesterday.
Should I phone the surgery and make a grovelling apology and humbly ask for another? It was for a nurse to take some bloods to try to sort out some new symptoms, so quite important as the problem does need attention.
I feel so very stupid - I just forgot what day it was, and the appointment was made weeks ago!
I just forgot!