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Grandkids moving away

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Grandof2 Wed 15-Feb-23 13:28:54

Hello everyone
Yesterday my daughter told me she is moving away,
I have two beautiful grand babies,a girl who is 2 and a grandson who is 6 months,
They have lived with me since birth,
How will I cope?
I just can’t stop crying, the Pain in my heart is unbearable x

Poppyred Wed 15-Feb-23 14:06:57

Tell us more Grandof2. How far is she moving? With who? And why?

wildswan16 Wed 15-Feb-23 14:10:13

You will miss them. But your daughter has the choice (just as we all do) to make her own way in life.

I hope you will not make her feel guilty and troubled by demonstrating to her how painful you feel it. Give her all your support, help her on her way and be hopeful that her move goes well for her and the children.

crazyH Wed 15-Feb-23 14:34:18

Grandof2 - it’s going to be so hard - I feel for you. My darling mother was in your position, 50 years ago. She was very close to my children and practically brought them up. We left for the UK, with the hope of returning home, after my husband (now Ex) obtained his FRCS. I can still see her on the tarmac ( local airport) wiping away her tears as the plane took off. We were excited about our new life, not realising how my mother’s heart was breaking.
We did go back for holidays, and brought her over here too. But I was not at her bedside, when she died. I was in the middle of an acrimonious divorce.
Is your daughter emigrating or is she moving a couple of hundred miles away ? If it’s the latter, you can always visit them and vice versa.
I know you will support her in this decision, regardless of your pain. Look after yourself…

Hithere Wed 15-Feb-23 15:10:48

It is going to be an adjustment, you will get used to it

It is an opportunity - now you have time for activities you didn't have before

BlueBelle Wed 15-Feb-23 15:28:19

Please don’t put all your happiness in your daughters hands She has to live her life as she wants to It will be a change and an adjustment for you but it has to be done Did you expect her to live with you for ever ?
Children have to be free to make their own arrangements it’s their lives not yours It sounds as if it’s been a shock you weren’t expecting so now you must dry your tears and wish her well in her exciting move and if you need to cry do it in the shower r toilet then come out fresh and smiling don’t put any guilt on her shoulders
Is she moving far ?

welbeck Wed 15-Feb-23 15:51:51

why were they living with you ?

Grandof2 Wed 15-Feb-23 23:45:18

Thanks everyone for your words,
I feel happier this evening,
My daughter will be moving quite far but not the other side of the world,
I will be happy for them, but it’s not going to be easy,I will try to smile x