I’ll probably never be a gran…

A close friend of mine has always said she would never have grandchildren as none of her children wanted children of their own. A couple of months ago, she was presented with a card containing a scan picture of her soon-to-be born grandchild. I don't think she's quite recovered from the shock yet.
I understand your sadness: it's hard when the life you imagined for yourself and your family takes a different turn. We all have dreams but GSM is right, live your own best life and be thankful for all the good things life has given

How old are they? I was vehemently against having children then suddenly changed my mind, before it was too late, I’m glad to say. Don’t give up hope. I thought I wouldn’t have grandchildren, for different reasons, but a miracle child is on the way. However I wasn’t, and still am not, planning on a grandchild changing my life in any way. You have to live your own life - we see so many over-invested, disappointed and jealous grans here who live their lives through their children and grandchildren. I have had and enjoyed my own baby. That’s enough,